TX-SC Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Finding out your GF prostituted herself is something most guys will never forgive. But, I still think you should write him a letter. If nothing else, you will have at least tried your best. Link to post Share on other sites
Jonah Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 He didn't know who you was. Now he knows and, unless he has a change of heart, you are not someone who he would want to bring home to mother. Sounds like employment to me. Sounds more like manipulating than flirting. Not cheating but still living a secret life that your bf didn't know about. Cheating would be catching love or affection on the side. Does this count? I wouldn't consider it cheating, but if I loved a gal I wouldn't want her at risk like that. But would you date a garbage man? That might be exactly what your employment would be to him. Whoever talked you into this is a real jerk. Oh I could get kicked off this board if I was to say what I think of the person that set you up with the web site. How much would one have to pay for a date? You must be absolutely gorgeous to be pulling down more than three figures just to watch someone eat. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 That's not what he was doing...He admitted to doing a little work place flirting ( he works retail) to get customers to buy products Thanks for clarifying. I stand corrected. Link to post Share on other sites
Morro72 Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 You're in college. With all this drama, how are your classes going? Are you on track to graduate? Got realistic plans for a career after graduation? Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 I think the heartfelt letter is your best last ditch effort. If it doesn't work, then I think Mrs Smith is right that there's just some things you can't undo. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 I think the heartfelt letter is your best last ditch effort. If it doesn't work, then I think Mrs Smith is right that there's just some things you can't undo. I am a politicians wife..I don't sell pies;) I don't think a letter will do any good but it might be worth a try...however i would be careful what i put in writing. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 I don't even understand..men pay you money to sit with you for 20 minutes? Or have lunch or coffee with you? Link to post Share on other sites
m.snow Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 I believe you are a good person, and had made bad decisions. also believe a heartfelt face to face conversation would be better than spamming calls,text and emails. wish you the best hopefully you can settle things with your bf. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 So you lied about this: A few months ago my brother came to me needing money, and I gave him several thousand. I am a college student, and this completely drained me, and I never told my boyfriend ( I maintained to him that I still had my savings because he had previous told me to cut him off). I should have been honest, but i was so afraid of turning into a burden. And you lied about this: but that was stupid, i know he wouldnt have felt that way, but i have insecurities, and panicked and did whatever it took to cover up. I started really struggling, and I started to date men for money, using a website ( long story, but I hadn't made the website, a crazy ex had but I used it). But he's supposed to believe you on this: I never slept with anyone but him, he saw all of the messages and I never responded to anyone who seemed to have that idea... Doesn't work that way ... Mr. Lucky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 For all those who don't believe men would pay for a date (not sex), I can tell you that they definetly would. They pay for the company of a woman and I definetly know this to be true. Of course there are always those that want more, but you are not expected to oblige. Some just want you to accompany them to events and functions, because they don't have a date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chapter44 Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 For all those who don't believe men would pay for a date (not sex), I can tell you that they definetly would. They pay for the company of a woman and I definetly know this to be true. Of course there are always those that want more, but you are not expected to oblige. Some just want you to accompany them to events and functions, because they don't have a date. Please be careful here! From her post I am assuming this is a young girl here who is looking for advice and has a less than supportive home life with a past of sexual abuse. IMHO she is putting herself in danger by meeting strangers for "dates" as a way to earn money and that is a recipe for disaster. I think it is irresponsible to condone her behavior or that lifestyle choice. Link to post Share on other sites
HurtOfGlass Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 I feel for you. Really I do. The things I did when I was short of money during my college days (but definitely NOTHING SEXUAL) only I know, my best friend knows and God knows. But going on just to meet is not a very believable excuse. I can see why your boyfriend won't believe it. You have placed yourself in a real sticky situation. He will never believe you. His response shows that. Your best chance remain in letting him go and start dating others. Maybe it will make him jealous. And maybe then he will want to talk. But then it may also be too late for him because you might start liking someone else. So if that happens explain to him what had actually happened but you will not get back togethee because you like ( and possibly love) your new BF. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Please be careful here! From her post I am assuming this is a young girl here who is looking for advice and has a less than supportive home life with a past of sexual abuse. IMHO she is putting herself in danger by meeting strangers for "dates" as a way to earn money and that is a recipe for disaster. I think it is irresponsible to condone her behavior or that lifestyle choice.[/quote I was NOT condoning her behaviour and I'm not sure how you arrived at that conclusion. I was stating to all those who found it unbelievable, that she could go on dates with men and get money, without any sex being involved, that it not the case. Pleased do not read between the lines and make such accusations towards me! The advice she was seeking is to get back with her BF and to that I advised she write him a letter to let him know that she WAS NOT PHYSICAL with these men, so he would know the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
HurtOfGlass Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 And you are absolutely justified to give your own money to your brother. Unless your brother is using that money to fund his lazy lifestyle, buying alcohol or drugs. Does your brother do any of those things? Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Please be careful here! From her post I am assuming this is a young girl here who is looking for advice and has a less than supportive home life with a past of sexual abuse. IMHO she is putting herself in danger by meeting strangers for "dates" as a way to earn money and that is a recipe for disaster. I think it is irresponsible to condone her behavior or that lifestyle choice.[/quote* ************************clarification and I noticed a typo**************(**** I was NOT condoning her behaviour and I'm not sure how you arrived at that conclusion. I was stating to all those who found it unbelievable, that she could go on dates with men and get money, without any sex being involved, that it IS possible and I know it happens. Please do not read between the lines and make such accusations towards me! Link to post Share on other sites
fellini Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Escort services have been around for over 30 years. The problem is the men who think they should never be / don't feel comfortable being seen alone at a restaurant or cultural event. Not the woman who work this job for money. Please be careful here! From her post I am assuming this is a young girl here who is looking for advice and has a less than supportive home life with a past of sexual abuse. IMHO she is putting herself in danger by meeting strangers for "dates" as a way to earn money and that is a recipe for disaster. I think it is irresponsible to condone her behavior or that lifestyle choice. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Perhaps he finds it distasteful to use desperate men for money. Maybe he's just not attracted to that. Nothing you can do about that. Seems like an awful lot of trouble you went through, risking your relationship and lying, just for a couple hundred dollars. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 the reason we have hookers in the world is so men can pay to NOT to have coffee dates. It doesn't work the other way around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 I am a politicians wife..I don't sell pies;) I don't think a letter will do any good but it might be worth a try...however i would be careful what i put in writing. Lol. I knew it didn't feel right when I was typing it. I stand corrected for a second time in this thread. My apologies. I'm also skeptical that a letter would work. But there's a chance he'd read it and she could take her time to make it a good one. Anything more than this and I think she risks being a stalker. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Lol. I knew it didn't feel right when I was typing it. I stand corrected for a second time in this thread. My apologies. I'm also skeptical that a letter would work. But there's a chance he'd read it and she could take her time to make it a good one. Anything more than this and I think she risks being a stalker. I knew what you meant...i was just harassing you... I don't see how this young lady can rectify her situation. I do hope she has learned a very valuable lesson...several of them actually. Chalk this up to experience...concentrate on your studies....get out of the escort services business and never ever lend money to relatives...... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
understand50 Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 I knew what you meant...i was just harassing you... I don't see how this young lady can rectify her situation. I do hope she has learned a very valuable lesson...several of them actually. Chalk this up to experience...concentrate on your studies....get out of the escort services business and never ever lend money to relatives...... Sometime, you just cannot fix the issue...... I think this is one. She needs to move on wiser, and more humble. Guys do not like to share as a general rule. Link to post Share on other sites
qubist Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 I don't even understand..men pay you money to sit with you for 20 minutes? Or have lunch or coffee with you? :lmao: dude there are people that pay money to chat online or on the phone, hard to believe but they do exist , isn't it sad? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TexasMan68 Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 So basically your a non sexual prostitute. Please do this guy a favor and disappear from his life. Since your a college student look at this as a learning experience and what not to do in future relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 :lmao: dude there are people that pay money to chat online or on the phone, hard to believe but they do exist , isn't it sad? But the online and phone chats ARE of a sexual nature.......as far as I know. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
T-16bullseyeWompRat Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 (edited) I don't get it either. I mean if a guy wants dinner and flirting, go eat at hooters or twin peaks or something similar. The girls will flirt for a better tip, and you only pay for one meal. Or go to a strip club, pay the cover (if they have one) then just sit down somewhere. Girls will come over and flirt for free trying to get you to buy a dance. If you want, pay one of them $20 and get you a dance. Sounds like a better plan then paying for someone's dinner then paying them just to have had to opportunity to pay for their dinner. People will pay for anything. Smh I will add that if I were her BF, I wouldn't believe she didn't sleep with any of them, or at least did something physical or sexual for them. I guess I just have a hard time believing in non sexual escorts. Edited October 19, 2015 by T-16bullseyeWompRat 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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