HowMightI-live Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 I have a crush on someone i dont really know all that well. I only see her in passing but when i do see her we always make small talk and i get flirty vibes from her. She always seems interested in asking me questions..most of them random but it feels like shes at least curious about me. Whenever we talk, eye contact is strong as if we cant look away from each other for a moment; at least thats how it is for me when i see her. When she saw me the other day she looked at me, smiled and said "hey my love". What could that mean? Is it possible she likes me or is that a common thing girls say to everyone? A part of me feels like theres something to it but another part of me feels like im just reading into it too much and its nothing. I want to ask her out but at the same time..i dont want to make it awkward if im wrong. I dont know what to do here. I must admit im not very good when it comes to these things. Ive only been with 1 girl that i met and high school and it was a 4 year relationship that ended and took months to get over. So the whole dating scene feels sorta ambigious and i feel like im 15 again. Advice please? Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 People can say that and mean 20 different things by it. In your case, it could mean that she likes you a lot, or it could mean that she is just being extremely flirtatious. It could mean other things too; maybe she was high. There's a bunch of different possibilities, but most of them seem positive. If I dug her, I would ask her out. But I would have put her on the spot and questioned her as soon as she called me that. No one gets away with calling me "their" anything, unless I like it I might call someone "love," but not "my love" until we are intimate. - For me, there is a big difference in those two terms. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Well, its more likely to be a positive sign, also can still be neutral, but definitely not negative,,,, unless she is allot older than you! Anyway, even if it is neutral, you could still work with that, nothing ventured nothing gained. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kismetkismet Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 i would ask her out. It is very flirtatious at the very least. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Disconnect Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 I don't know, it doesn't necessarily mean anything; where I grew up (working class area of northern England) mostly everyone called everyone 'my love', shop cashiers to their every customer, hairdressers, neighbours etc. A woman that currently serves in my local supermarket says it to every single person without fail. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 I have noticed in certain cultures that women often say it......to other women too,....it is a term of endearment and to me is affectionate......i wouldnt say it......unless i was writing soppy poetry to some unrequited love i would never say that face to face....for some it feels natural..to me its more natural if i write words fo endearment than say them....and as another poster said...could mean a hundred different things and even down to tone..ask her out you will have your answer...........deb Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 I have noticed in certain cultures that women often say it......to other women too,....it is a term of endearment and to me is affectionate......i wouldnt say it......unless i was writing soppy poetry to some unrequited love i would never say that face to face....for some it feels natural..to me its more natural if i write words of endearment than say them....and as another poster said...could mean a hundred different things and even down to tone..ask her out you will have your answer...........deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HowMightI-live Posted October 20, 2015 Author Share Posted October 20, 2015 I don't know, it doesn't necessarily mean anything; where I grew up (working class area of northern England) mostly everyone called everyone 'my love', shop cashiers to their every customer, hairdressers, neighbours etc. A woman that currently serves in my local supermarket says it to every single person without fail. Thats why i asking about the "my love" part because i thought maybe it meant something because im not sure 'my love' is big out here where im from. The only person who has ever called me 'my love' was my gf. I asked my older sister (with my experiences being limited and all) and she said that she's called friends 'love' but would never call someone she wasnt interested in 'my love' because its brings a possessiveness or a desire for possessiveness to the term when youre calling someone 'my or mine'. But my sisters friend who was standing right there said she has called friends 'my love' probably once or twice but that it isnt a common thing unless youre a older women or something. So idk. She could be the type to say it to everyone. It probably didnt mean anything and if it did i'll probably never know unless i ask her out; which i dont want to do unless im sure, whch im not.. Link to post Share on other sites
Disconnect Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Thats why i asking about the "my love" part because i thought maybe it meant something because im not sure 'my love' is big out here where im from. The only person who has ever called me 'my love' was my gf. I asked my older sister (with my experiences being limited and all) and she said that she's called friends 'love' but would never call someone she wasnt interested in 'my love' because its brings a possessiveness or a desire for possessiveness to the term when youre calling someone 'my or mine'. But my sisters friend who was standing right there said she has called friends 'my love' probably once or twice but that it isnt a common thing unless youre a older women or something. So idk. She could be the type to say it to everyone. It probably didnt mean anything and if it did i'll probably never know unless i ask her out; which i dont want to do unless im sure, whch im not.. Faint heart never won fair maiden... I would say the eye contact and smiling / making conversation are very good signs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HowMightI-live Posted October 20, 2015 Author Share Posted October 20, 2015 People can say that and mean 20 different things by it. In your case, it could mean that she likes you a lot, or it could mean that she is just being extremely flirtatious. It could mean other things too; maybe she was high. There's a bunch of different possibilities, but most of them seem positive. If I dug her, I would ask her out. But I would have put her on the spot and questioned her as soon as she called me that. No one gets away with calling me "their" anything, unless I like it I might call someone "love," but not "my love" until we are intimate. - For me, there is a big difference in those two terms. Yeah i want to but i think i lost my confidence a little. I met my ex when i was 17 and we were together for years and when someone just walks out your life after years spent together, you start to wonder why and whats wrong with you. Im trying to get back to the person i was when i was 17 and could talk to any girl regardless of her beautiful she was. Because i was confident...that's how i got the hottest girl in high school in the first place lol. But idk, i hope i can muster up the courage to ask her out and get myself back out there. Link to post Share on other sites
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