RedLipstick Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 What are the best dating sites for women? I have tried match, okcupid, and plentyofish...there are some gems there, but the vast majority of the men on those sites are low quality...examples: douchebags just looking for quick sex, old men creeping on young women, generally unattractive men (bad pictures, badly dressed, overweight, unshaven, etc.), men who send 100 women the same generic message, etc. I'm basically looking for a more curated, higher quality online dating site...that treats men and women the same. I find that a lot of higher quality dating sites focus on matching beautiful women with successful men, so they screen the women for beauty and the men for income, occupation, and degrees...but that's not the type of pairing I'm interested in at all. I just want someone I'm attracted to who has a lot in common with me. That's literally all I ask. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Those type of men do exist on those sites that you mentioned. The only thing is you need to actively search and make an effort too. You might even need to message them first or use that stupid "like" or "wink" if you don't want to message first. If you just sit back and let the messages pile up...you'll get lots of garbage with the occasional gem. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 I have a theory about these sites: as long as they are free sites, anything can throw up a profile. Match, while it does require payment if you want to receive messages, when it goes through its "join for free" phases, that's when the fakes infest the site. POF and OKC are infested with fakes and catfish to the point where I don't even bother with them any more. 11 years ago, my sister met her husband on Match. It's changed a lot since those days. There are other sites like perfectmatch, xtian mingle, blackpeoplemeet, ourtime--some of them require payment. I haven't heard of any site that does a real good job of curating anything but your money into their coffers. Link to post Share on other sites
WonderKid Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Any date site is suitable for a woman. The ball is already in your court. But if higher quality you are searching for OLDing may not be for you. Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Give us some more info RL ...your age range ... Education level ...religious? Who are you looking for? Same as above Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Each website is basically the same for women. The quality of guys is pretty low. I dabbled in OLD for years and the only guys I ever met were liars, users, players, plate spinners, women collectors, those in need of ego boosts, emotional unavailable, and the ever popular "I just want a text friend." 2 Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Each website is basically the same for women. The quality of guys is pretty low. I dabbled in OLD for years and the only guys I ever met were liars, users, players, plate spinners, women collectors, those in need of ego boosts, emotional unavailable, and the ever popular "I just want a text friend." Ya I've had a small amount of experience with it and have found a little of which you speak but also a lot of nice guys ...most of whom I was just not compatible. I asked because there are specific ones for religion etc. Link to post Share on other sites
impatiently_patient Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Each website is basically the same for women. The quality of guys is pretty low. I dabbled in OLD for years and the only guys I ever met were liars, users, players, plate spinners, women collectors, those in need of ego boosts, emotional unavailable, and the ever popular "I just want a text friend." You know, reading over one-after-another-after-another-after-another of straight womens' grievances on these forums, I can't help but think that the (straight) male online dating contingent consists of: Guys who women like the OP would date if they didn't have shirtless selfies, juvenile profiles, want to sleep around, and send pervy messages and cronk pics... And men like myself who wouldn't think of doing any of the aforementioned who are flawed in some unforgivable fashion... and therefore file under 'ugly garbage'... even though most of us aren't. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Online dating is a bit like buying a used car in private sales. You can always tell if it is a good deal, because when you call up about it, its sold already! What is left for you, is all the rubbish. You have to move quick to get the good one, don't waste too much time talking talking,,,, because while you are making the small talk some other lady will be asking what time can they meet! lol But even if that did happen usually people don't go exclusive for some time. And just because a profile has been there a while does not mean he is no good like it does with the used car. He could have been dating and cycled back to the site after it did not work out (which frequently happens). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kpl Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 I'm probably in the minority and my experience may be regional but I've tried match, ok cupid, hinge and some other apps I've forgotten about and I've had the most luck on Tinder as well as my other friends. Where we live Tinder went from a hookup site to the ONLY place ppl meet anyone. I've had a longish term bf from there and I've met some good guys that didnt work out and my current guy. Tinder made me feel like I had so much control as on OK cupid I would get so many messages from very weird ppl. It was overwhelming. Tinder I get messages from ppl I want to hear from and it was great when I was on it. I think who uses what sites and why have a lot to do with the type of ppl you want. I've felt like young professionals in my area 27-35 are all on there even if they aren't super active. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 I have a theory about these sites: as long as they are free sites, anything can throw up a profile. Yeah, even a bum off the street can walk into a library and use their internet to get on POF. Link to post Share on other sites
impatiently_patient Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 Yeah, even a bum off the street can walk into a library and use their internet to get on POF. So, you're saying the homeless are subhuman garbage sullying the precious online "ideal" demographic. OP thinks unshaven men like myself are ruining it too. Boo hoo. Maybe you're all elitist pricks and that's the real root of the problem. Maybe less of you and more humble people would better the experience. Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 So, you're saying the homeless are subhuman garbage sullying the precious online "ideal" demographic. OP thinks unshaven men like myself are ruining it too. Boo hoo. Maybe you're all elitist pricks and that's the real root of the problem. Maybe less of you and more humble people would better the experience. Impatient ...tell me di'int just use the "p" word?! I generally find your posts intelligent and thought provoking ...especially that we're practically neighbors ...but come on ...you can't really think a bum is any more qualified to date as he/she is qualified to be an elementary school teacher or police officer or ..I think you somehow took offense and put yourself in the category of a bum. You're a good looking guy and obviously intelligent ...I quite frankly can't figure out why you're having issues with OLD but I'm not a guy in our demographic. As for the facial hair ...I think it's presence or lack thereof is a preference like any other preference like height or sense of humor or letting things slide To stay on topic ...Best dating site for woman ...hiking trails happy hours farmers markets on Saturday or Sunday Btw ...How'd you like all that rain we had? Link to post Share on other sites
impatiently_patient Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 (edited) Impatient ...tell me di'int just use the "p" word?! I generally find your posts intelligent and thought provoking ...especially that we're practically neighbors ...but come on ...you can't really think a bum is any more qualified to date as he/she is qualified to be an elementary school teacher or police officer or ..I think you somehow took offense and put yourself in the category of a bum. You're a good looking guy and obviously intelligent ...I quite frankly can't figure out why you're having issues with OLD but I'm not a guy in our demographic. As for the facial hair ...I think it's presence or lack thereof is a preference like any other preference like height or sense of humor or letting things slide To stay on topic ...Best dating site for woman ...hiking trails happy hours farmers markets on Saturday or Sunday Btw ...How'd you like all that rain we had? I mentioned it because I genuinely feel sorry for the homeless, like their misfortune (and oft untreated mental illness) is somehow a barometer for the lowest people that could ever upset the glorious first world we live in. Fact is, general dating sites cater to general people, any and all... so if your arse is chapped that you have to see unshaven men, men who don't cater to YOUR finicky fashion sense, men who are looking for younger women, women who are looking for older men, etc., etc., etc. then get coding. I know I won't join your website as I wouldn't fit. Problem solved. Otherwise, seek what you want and stop bricking on others for seeking what they want. Me thinks there's way too many people projecting their preferences into some warped continuum of what they think the demographic makeup of what the world should be. As for the rain, I generally don't mind it here because it's rare. Would have been nice if my car window didn't decide to stick in the down position at the same time. Oh, well. First world problems as they say. Edited October 21, 2015 by impatiently_patient Link to post Share on other sites
La Trese Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 What are the best dating sites for women? I have tried match, okcupid, and plentyofish...there are some gems there, but the vast majority of the men on those sites are low quality...examples: douchebags just looking for quick sex, old men creeping on young women, generally unattractive men (bad pictures, badly dressed, overweight, unshaven, etc.), men who send 100 women the same generic message, etc. I'm basically looking for a more curated, higher quality online dating site...that treats men and women the same. I find that a lot of higher quality dating sites focus on matching beautiful women with successful men, so they screen the women for beauty and the men for income, occupation, and degrees...but that's not the type of pairing I'm interested in at all. I just want someone I'm attracted to who has a lot in common with me. That's literally all I ask. Any suggestions? Hinged is pretty great. It matches you with people from a similar background and most of the guys on there are pretty seriously looking to date. Link to post Share on other sites
impatiently_patient Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 What is 'Hinged'? Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 Notice that the OP never came back with any response since Oct. 20th. lol Anyhow, a dating site JUST for women? You're kidding, right? I think the OP is not phrasing the initial post correctly, as there's no existing, mutually dating site that caters to JUST women. I think she is looking for more of an dating site for the "beautiful people", I forgot the name ofi t...but apparently, there's a voting system where they not only look at your photos, but your salary. You may or may not get voted off the island though. Kind of a website for elitists. Link to post Share on other sites
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