Truth34 Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 Update! Date flaked an hour and 20 minutes before I was going to pick her up for dinner. Something urgent, she says. I was practically waiting for her to cancel all day, and voila. I'll give it another shot later in the week. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarabi Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 I'm not finding myself in the same places as my so-called peers. Neither am I. I have to say though, if that is you in your avatar then I don't think you look your age...I would have guessed younger It feels like: Most of the friends I knew from school/university are in good jobs(or at least graduate level jobs). Most seem to be married and some have children. I am 30. Single. Never married. No kids. I would have thought this was somewhat of an asset... then again, I am not doing the most stellar job in the world(supermarket cashier/colleague) so never really socialised with my peers or suitable people. I do feel a great sense of shame that despite the fact I studied, I am still earning practically minimum wage and have not moved up the ladder or made any advances in life am tired of people blaming the economy for this too... Hopefully that will change. I am leaving the wretched supermarket and going abroad to teach. Trying not to compare yourself to others is a very difficult thing, irrespective of what people tell you about how others might not be as happy as you think or might not even have it that good. What I find hard is knowing that I would like those things for myself(married or good relationship/children etc.) and still having to wonder if/when it will ever happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarabi Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 Update! Date flaked an hour and 20 minutes before I was going to pick her up for dinner. Something urgent, she says. I was practically waiting for her to cancel all day, and voila. I'll give it another shot later in the week. Don't put that energy out there(if you believe in all that or have the patience to do it lol). Say to yourself that when you call her back to rearrange, you will go on a wonderful date, she will turn up, you will have a good time and a lovely dinner etc. etc. Don't be full of expectations for failure. Apparently the universe listens and conspires to make what you think a reality... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
impatiently_patient Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 (edited) Neither am I. I have to say though, if that is you in your avatar then I don't think you look your age...I would have guessed younger I generally get ~10 years younger than I am, or a bit more, out in real life. It doesn't help my case, though: Out-and-about, it's only 23 year olds that pay any attention to me (nothing wrong with them, but not in the same stage of life as I), while online women searching are 43+ hunting me. In reality, I just want something in-between. I am still earning practically minimum wage and have not moved up the ladder or made any advances in life am tired of people blaming the economy for this too...Well, the truth is, It is the economy, but by way of specific transgressions. If you don't think that our generation was done wrong by greedy and dishonest financial manipulators, and lazy, blind-eye regulators on top of that, then you need to put on your f__king war paint, sir! Historically, people ended up with their heads in baskets for less. There's some structural issues in there as well, but there's plenty of others who dropped the ball on that front as well. Moot point. Yeah, there's a lot of slack-y, entitled A-holes in the Millennial bracket moaning about their careers, don't get me wrong, but they don't nullify the fleecing of the American dream that's just as real. If you work hard, and work smart, do not blame yourself! You did get screwed. Edited October 29, 2015 by impatiently_patient Link to post Share on other sites
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