goldengirl11 Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 Hi - I wondered if anyone could offer me some quick advice re an old date of mine from about five years ago! Basically approx two months ago I started chatting with him again on FB, the last time being a couple of years ago, but we didn't actually meet again. He admitted he was with someone at the moment, but wasn't sure about her. We've had a couple of phone conversations since Aug/Sept, but kept in touch more on FB or via text. He also sent me a couple of topless chest pics, which I didn't ask for. Now he wants similar pics to see what he's missing. I sent him one pic of me in a dressing gown at the weekend, but he wants nude pics of me, so was going to send one or two in a bra. Now, to cut it short, I recently discovered he's due to get married very soon, so now fear will get hurt. He says he's torn between both of us and doesn't want an affair either. It feels a lost cause recently, but he still wants the pics and says he needs to make a decision quickly. He rang Fri eve out the blue asking to come over and spend time with me, but was too short notice. I do like him and want a relationship, but at the same time makes me feel nervous and scares me a bit. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Grapesofwrath Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 1) Don't send him any photos. You can't know where those might end up. Plus, he is pressuring you to send them by creating a false sense of urgency because he "must decide quickly." This is manipulative and objectifies you. Completely disrespectful. Is he suggesting that he will choose between his fiancee and a selfie of your breasts? What kind of person makes the choice boil down to that? 2) If you are interested in him, let him know that you'd like to hear from him after he has ended his current relationship. 3) That feeling of nervousness and being "scared a bit" is your gut instinct that something here is not right. Trust your gut, because it's correct: something here is not right. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 So this is yet another unavailable man you are trying to have a relationship with? This is like the 3rd MM (soon to be MM in this case) you have posted about. Why do you think you keep doing this? Maybe you should take a break from men and get some counselling because you seem hell bent on doing the same thing over and over again. Your pattern is very self destructive. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
AngeliqueC Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Oh good Goddess! All he wants are some semi-porn pics he can jack off to when the new missus to be isn't in the mood! Why do that to yourself?? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 This man is a cheap sleaze. You are never going to have a relationship with him. What a cheek asking you for nude photos. Block the creep and never have anything to do with him again. Poppy. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 He isn't torn at all ....He's getting married. He's putting you in place as a side piece. If you accept this now, you'll accept even less when he's married. That crap about seeing what he's missing .....I'd find him a topless pic online, send it and tell him to go to....you know where and never contact you again. Then block him out of your life for ever. Better still... block, delete and ignore. I can see the divorce before the marriage.....what a sleaze. Never send racy pics of yourself to anyone. It's a bad idea. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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