What's it like dating a girl?

[Sunberry]

Is it the same as dating a guy? I'm a female and recently a close friend, who is pansexual, asked me out on a date. I said "Sure, why not, sounds fun". So, it'll happen in the next week or so. But, then I realized I don't know what that ultimately means. I haven't been on a technical date in years.

 

By the way, what's the difference between hanging out and a date? The bill? The general label?

 

I asked a friend, who had girlfriends, and she just gave me advice about sex with a girl and how I'll end up enjoying and how they relationship will be more satisfying than being with a man. When she told me that I started slightly freaking out, not because of the act, but because of who asked me out (we've been friends for months and we tell each other our problems (she's in an open relationship)). All I can think about is how awkward it would be!

 

As far as my sexuality goes, I'm curious and open. So, I'm not at a comfortable position to label myself. Just in case anyone is wondering.

 

Any perspective is lovely and welcome and I thank you for taking the time to help me understand.

[mike_89]

I'm going to guess that dating a woman while being a woman yourself is vastly different from dating a woman as a man. As a man dating a woman is often like dating some sort of feral cat, if you do all the right things she'll be great company but you can say one thing wrong and it'll **** it all up. Women can be very unpredictable during the first 2-3 dates though with experience you learn which things generally tend to go wrong and which things generally do well. I guess that women make a lot more sense if you yourself are a woman, so I think you'd do best asking other women who have experience dating women for advice.

[Wewon]

I agree with the poster above.

 

If the woman likes you and things are going well, then you essentially can do no wrong. But it is so easy to take a left turn with a woman that women often (in a man's eyes) appear flighty and capricious. Ofcourse, from her perspective, she most likely thinks that her actions are perfectly clear.

 

As a man the roles are also more well defined in terms of who pays, drives, initiates, etc. Even the most progressive women still expect those perks. I don't know how these things work out between two women.

 

I think that a lot of the frustrations that men feel when dating comes from the lack of straight-forwardness in how women communicate, combined with the fact that they ultimately have the final say on a lot of things.