katiegrl Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 One thing I don't understand about asksing him to contact me at least once a day (unless he was busy with something) is that he didn't have to get in a relationship with me. If this was too much for him he should have left. I tried to nag him about and encourage him to contact me more like saying things like "I love hearing from you", etc. And I explained why I wanted to hear from him at least once a day and why it was important to me in a relationship. I guess in the end he has issues that he needs to deal with. **The thing though, I'm just scared he'll text me in a few days or a week. *** When we were friends I used to like him and I told him that it was too hard to be friends with him and I would contact him when I was ready to talk to him but he texted me like a week later. If you're scared he'll contact you, block him hun, from phone, social media, everything. Problem solved! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author itsdinaah Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 I think I'll just block him so I can move on. I know we only dated for a month but we were friends/interested in each other for almost a year. Just disappointed with the way things turned out and the time I invested. You live and you learn I suppose. Thanks everyone for your opinions/advice ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I think I'll just block him so I can move on. I know we only dated for a month but we were friends/interested in each other for almost a year. Just disappointed with the way things turned out and the time I invested. You live and you learn I suppose. Thanks everyone for your opinions/advice ? You're very welcome sweetness. ((hugs)).. You'll be okay. Yes live and learn, as my mom used to say. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 You did the right thing. You saw you weren't compatible and it wasn't going to work. Link to post Share on other sites
Inaa Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 One thing I don't understand about asksing him to contact me at least once a day (unless he was busy with something) is that he didn't have to get in a relationship with me. If this was too much for him he should have left. I tried to nag him about and encourage him to contact me more like saying things like "I love hearing from you", etc. And I explained why I wanted to hear from him at least once a day and why it was important to me in a relationship. I guess in the end he has issues that he needs to deal with. The thing though, I'm just scared he'll text me in a few days or a week. When we were friends I used to like him and I told him that it was too hard to be friends with him and I would contact him when I was ready to talk to him but he texted me like a week later. He claimed you were in a relationship so he could dissappear for days and then come back to you and you would accept him because "you both are in a relationship". Or at least that's what he made you think. Actually, he was just using you when he needed a friend, sex and etc. and when he was sated, he just went away without even caring about your feelings. I know this type of guys. They always say whatever you'd love to hear, agree to everything you say to them and then do whatever they want to. You did the right thing beaking up with him. And don't forget that if you accept him back, it would be worse than the first time. Because now he'll know that you are prone to forgive everything he does. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
savvy2008 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 He probably will contact you on his own after another few days. But I don't think you two are compatible. I know I have to talk to my boyfriend throughout the day, that's what I want out of the relationship and that's what he wants too. I like to call him randomly if I'm on my way home from work, about to go to bed, etc and he has always done the same without any prompting. If your boyfriend isn't on the same page, he's never going to make you happy. Even if he does contact you and things more or less go back to normal, it seems like he will always be like that. Unless he seriously works on it, you'll keep getting frustrated. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 You don't have different communication styles. He is not interested enough to communicate more often. This. I am in South America atm...... over two weeks away from my boyfriend yet we manage to talk daily despite being opposite ends of the world. In fact, he deposited 300 into my bank account so he could help pay for our high phone bill ..... Very few men act this disinterested as your guy is when they are genuinely smitten with a girl. .... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author itsdinaah Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 He claimed you were in a relationship so he could dissappear for days and then come back to you and you would accept him because "you both are in a relationship". Or at least that's what he made you think. Actually, he was just using you when he needed a friend, sex and etc. and when he was sated, he just went away without even caring about your feelings. I know this type of guys. They always say whatever you'd love to hear, agree to everything you say to them and then do whatever they want to. You did the right thing beaking up with him. And don't forget that if you accept him back, it would be worse than the first time. Because now he'll know that you are prone to forgive everything he does. This is what my best guy friend actually told me. I should have listened to him. I won't fall into the trap again. I hate guys who pretend to be good guys but are really jerks underneath it all. I'd rather someone be an ******* upfront. Link to post Share on other sites
menyou Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 This is what my best guy friend actually told me. I should have listened to him. I won't fall into the trap again. I hate guys who pretend to be good guys but are really jerks underneath it all. I'd rather someone be an ******* upfront. Boy that just sucks but, sometimes it's the way it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author itsdinaah Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 He probably will contact you on his own after another few days. But I don't think you two are compatible. I know I have to talk to my boyfriend throughout the day, that's what I want out of the relationship and that's what he wants too. I like to call him randomly if I'm on my way home from work, about to go to bed, etc and he has always done the same without any prompting. If your boyfriend isn't on the same page, he's never going to make you happy. Even if he does contact you and things more or less go back to normal, it seems like he will always be like that. Unless he seriously works on it, you'll keep getting frustrated. Yeah I'm used to communication throughout the day. This is actually the first time I've had this happen. This will also be the last time since I broke up with him yesterday. I'll use communication as an indicator of interest from now on. Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author itsdinaah Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 Boy that just sucks but, sometimes it's the way it is. I probably just needed to learn this lesson for myself. Link to post Share on other sites
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