Heart'OGold Posted October 23, 2015 Share Posted October 23, 2015 I was with my STBX for a total of 10 years (dated for 8 years before we got married). Our marriage is ending because of his temper and drinking. He got into a new "relationship" after being separated for 7 months. Would this be considered a rebound, or the real deal? They've been "together" for a while... I still miss him everyday, regardless of his issues, I just wanted him to seek professional help. I'm just really heartbroken. There is no chance I'd take him back, due to my excellent skills at finding things out, I found out she has HPV and herpes. It hurts to think that he's changed for her but not me. All these years I thought we had something special... but I guess I was mistaken. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted October 23, 2015 Share Posted October 23, 2015 Would this be considered a rebound' date=' or the real deal? [/quote'] The real answer (and you probably know it already) is WHO CARES. He's gone, you're apparently over him, so who cares what the relationship is. I'm just really heartbroken. This is what is really bothering you. And you just need to cut him out of your life so you don't know what stupid stuff he's going to do now that you aren't around. If you cut him completely off, then you'll actually start to heal. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I was with my STBX for a total of 10 years (dated for 8 years before we got married). Our marriage is ending because of his temper and drinking. He got into a new "relationship" after being separated for 7 months. Would this be considered a rebound, or the real deal? They've been "together" for a while... I still miss him everyday, regardless of his issues, I just wanted him to seek professional help. I'm just really heartbroken. There is no chance I'd take him back, due to my excellent skills at finding things out, I found out she has HPV and herpes. It hurts to think that he's changed for her but not me. All these years I thought we had something special... but I guess I was mistaken. If by 'temper' you mean he was emotionally or physically abusing you and substance abuse are both perfectly legitimate reasons for divorce. Who is now having to deal with his abuse and alcoholism is no longer any concern of yours. Just be glad you are free of it. And just a word of warning, if you accessed her medical records without proper authorization, that is federally protected information and you and the institution through which you obtained that information can get in a whole heap of trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 Well, if she has herpes, that could be an indication she is very sexual. Men respond extraordinarily well to being sexually desired, needed..... and the opposite is true the other way. This could be the reason he changed for her? (true or not, doesn't mean you did anything wrong, it just is what it is) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Heart'OGold Posted October 28, 2015 Author Share Posted October 28, 2015 I didn't access her records, she posted in a forum that I had found. I was surprised she posted publicly... it was interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 Meh, it is probably a rebound unless he dated a few other people before her. But who cares? He's not your problem anymore. What is unhealthy is your interest and snooping in his love life. Link to post Share on other sites
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