moonlightpath Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 My best friend's boyfriend just broke up with her. He took all his belongings from her home earlier today. I'm not sure if I should go over for a couple hours to comfort her since she was with me about 20 minutes ago. I just don't want her to be alone right now. I know its important for her to learn how to be alone but I feel like she might need a shoulder to cry on. Plus I'm not sure if she wants to be alone or not. What do you think? Go see her now? Or wait a couple hours/days? Link to post Share on other sites
wlh22 Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 Call her up. Talk to her for a few mins. Offer your help and let her know you are available to meet or do whatever she feels like. Its the best thing you can do Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 Um, yeah... she just got dumped and blindsided. Pretty sure she could use someone to talk to right now. Link to post Share on other sites
NoMoreJerks Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 My best friend's boyfriend just broke up with her. He took all his belongings from her home earlier today. I'm not sure if I should go over for a couple hours to comfort her since she was with me about 20 minutes ago. I just don't want her to be alone right now. I know its important for her to learn how to be alone but I feel like she might need a shoulder to cry on. Plus I'm not sure if she wants to be alone or not. What do you think? Go see her now? Or wait a couple hours/days? Depends on the person and the breakup. If she was blindsided, then she might be more in need of someone to be with her right now. I know that I did, when I was blindsided with a breakup. However, usually, if there was a longer history that led up to the break-up (fights, etc.), then I am usually the type to want to be alone and cry. At least for the day of the breakup. The next day or two, though, I really tend to need some company, to vent, to b*tch, to be encouraged that I've got it and that I am awesome, sexy, etc., and that he didn't deserve me, that I will find someone else, etc. Some of it is stuff I don't necessarily want to hear at first (you will find someone better, etc.) but the more I hear it, the more it starts making sense -- I try to entertain that idea, etc. It helped me immensely when I was broken up with the first time around with my latest ex. Also, it helped a lot that I constantly had visitors (my cousin and aunt came to visit for 3 days, then I had my friend's bachelorette and wedding, which was difficult on me but still something that occupied my time, and then I visited my parents for 2 weeks so I was out of town. It really was of great help that I didn't really have a LOT of time to myself, to sit and brood and cry and mope and not want to get outta bed. I had to force myself out of bed, cos I had to keep my cousin and aunt company, go places with them, show them around town, etc. It really changed my mood a lot. This time around, I have no one AND I was blindsided... It's been rough. The past 13 days have felt like a century. Link to post Share on other sites
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