phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Its been almost a year since I she left me for good. She meant the world to me, and even 1 years later shes on my mind every day. Anyways, 6 months in post-breakup she emailed me, just to know how I was doing but had no interest to rekindle. almost a year in, she emails me again, telling me her email is down and giving me her new email in case I want to reach out (?). I say ok thanks. She then email again asking how im doing, to which I simply respond that Im doing awesome. Then nothing. Why is she doing this Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 She could be interested in rekindling with you and testing the your response ... Would you entertain that? If he's ... Message her and ask her to go for happy hour or something ...open the lines of communication. Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 Could be.. but when she emailed me 6 months in for the first time I inquired about it and she made clear she wasn't trying to rekindle anything Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 It provides her a big ego boost every time you respond. You really intend to stroke her ego? Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Well some people just like to keep friends ...if it bothers you I'd ignore her ...she'll get the hint Link to post Share on other sites
Candle037 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Do you want her back or to be friends? Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 I definitely do not want a friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
Marco Valerio Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Then do not answer until she comes clear!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 Help! She wants to see me next weekend. Not sure if I can risk this. I've just come out therapy to bear the pain after breaking up..ugh Link to post Share on other sites
Glass Hut Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 What does she want to do? If she's not making even that clear she's probably messing with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 She says she wants to chill.. I'm not sure Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoveBelow92 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Its a tricky one, I would go but wouldn't think to much into it, she will tell you everything that has happened with her in the last year and vice versa so if your not ready don't do it. I used to avoid my ex as best I could but that even took more mental strain on me. overthinking can be the worst Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Do not meet with her. She can't even tell you why she wants to see you. My thought is that she wants her ego stroked. Show her that you aren't at her beck & call by not meeting up with her. If she was seriously considering reconciliation, she would flat out TELL YOU. Link to post Share on other sites
Glass Hut Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Chill means sex in 2015 right? Can you handle that? It certainly doesn't mean anything romantic or reconciliation in my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Help! She wants to see me next weekend. Not sure if I can risk this. I've just come out therapy to bear the pain after breaking up..ugh What did you tell her? How did the conversation go? Link to post Share on other sites
Candle037 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Do you need any closure from her if so this could be your chance. As I don't know how the relationship ended take some time to talk with your therapist about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 She wouldn't let me hang up. She misses me she says and idk I was very surprised to hear how she said the time apart made her realize how important I am for her and stuff. This girl hurt my ego pretty bad when she left me and I've had a hard time dealing with it so that's kinda in the way at the same time I haven't met anyone comparable. I didn't expect that when I woke up this morning Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 I never expected to have the upper hand with this girl ever again Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I never expected to have the upper hand with this girl ever again So, now you have to seriously think about what you want and how you want things to proceed, if you wish to do so. Do not let her dictate how things proceed. This cannot be one sided with you doing all the work, it should be mutual. She is going to have to show you how serious she is by her actions and not just her words. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Candle037 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 So how do you feel about this? What do you want from her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 A part of me wants to go have fun with her. A part of me thinks this is dangerous because I'll never want her given that scar she left on us. And then I find myself thinking way too far ahead already. Link to post Share on other sites
Candle037 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 So did you want to try to see her without getting physical to see how you feel? Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 I'm actually thinking about seeing her and stay light hearted that is being physical and hopefully not emotional. I just find it weird that she suddenly misses me. Realistically it may be dumb of me to expect more than just fun given the big scar she left on me and the fact that my family is aware of that so she wouldn't be welcome Link to post Share on other sites
Candle037 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Well go see her and listen and come back and tell us how it goes Link to post Share on other sites
Author phenix Posted October 26, 2015 Author Share Posted October 26, 2015 Thanks for the support. I'm gonna do that. A part of me fears that I'm going to hurt myself again. Another part of me is stupidly excited. It's not ideal. Link to post Share on other sites
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