Upsetdan Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 18 months ago my wife ended our marriage pretty much over night, would not allow reconciliation, went cold and blocked me out, other than for contact with children. Not one after she was seeing another guy but this was the real reason she left, grass greener on the other side etc.... It was not, he was abusive but still had no desire for Me. She met another guy a few months later whom she was with for about 3 months. He was a cheat and had many female friends who he still saw. He did not want commitment, he 25 wife 25 and she has 3 kids with me. He hit what he wanted also and went. I did see a girl myself after about 7 months for a short time but always wanted wife back. I love her. Skip to feb this year, after 10 months of my begging and then me stopping trying she wanted me back, I was over moon. Last 8 months been amazing, best we ever had, more love and fun than ever. Last week... She announces she no longer wants to be with me and wants divorce. Totally out of the blue. 2 days on I go to house as had a feeling, looked over back wall to see her cuddled up to a man, her wearing Pajamas him fully clothed. I went insane, abusive texts, I wanted him out house to face me, she called police. 2 days later trying to convince me he is just a friend!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am at breaking point. I love my wife and want m family back together. She hates me and treated me so badly again. I just don't know what to do. Never felt so low in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Sad truth is, there isn't much that you can do. Shes shown you where her head is at right now and you can't rebuild anything unless she is just as committed to it as you are, and right no she's trying to play both sides of the fence. I'd start here... Skip to feb this year, after 10 months of my begging and then me stopping trying she wanted me back, and once shes had a real dose of what she is losing, rather then rushing back into picking up right where you guys left off (which i know is desirable) Give her the opportunity to earn her way back in to your marriage, your family, your trust. Nothing worth protecting is kept behind an unlocked door. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 She wants a divorce. OK, file tomorrow. Make strong custody motions. After all, she has another man in the children's home. If you've moved out, move back in, presuming the home is in your name. Ignore anything but your goal, which is to protect your life and that of your children. Everyone and everything else is secondary. Get mean. Legal, but mean. What's the worst possible thing that can happen? Your safe and familiar and comfortable life as you formerly knew it is over. Today is a new dawn. Get moving. Link to post Share on other sites
loveboid Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 She broke up with you. I believe you just think because the paperwork hasn't finished that she hasn't broken up. Well it doesn't take paperwork to break up with someone and her behavior is proving it. I would divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
doulostojc Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. It must be so painful to be in your situation. Have you considered going to see a counselor/mental health professional to process what you have been through? The heartache must be so deep being rejected/betrayed multiple times. Do you have a positive community of friends who could support you through this? A church would be a great place to find positive community to work through these issues and get support from others who have gone through similar issues. At my church, older men mentor younger ones to provide wise counsel to get through rough patches in life. I will be praying for you! There is always hope, even if the situation seems bleak right now. Link to post Share on other sites
clam Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 (edited) Give. It. Up. Why would you want this lying, cheating, heartbreaking woman back??!! Edited October 26, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language ~T 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 It's very simple. You are her fallback plan B. You're begging etc is very unnactractive. It makes you look weak and unmanly. If you wait another 10 months or so she'll take you back again for awhile until she finds someone else again. Maybe you should read No More Mr Nice Guy and make your life better with someone else. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 Let me guess, she is quite attractive right? I will tell you exactly what this is.... It is the work of the 'wife whisperer' - this turd is a savant player, knows exactly how to steal any mans wife, even husbands who give all the right love and attention to their wife, this prick can steal. Then of course he will cheat later on, it is in his nature, it has happened already in the past, but sadly your wife is not too bright I'm afraid. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 I am at breaking point. I love my wife and want m family back together. She hates me and treated me so badly again. I just don't know what to do. Never felt so low in my life. I'd guess you do know what to do, you just lack the will to do it. Think of the pain you're in right now and consider that staying means repeating this cycle for the next 10 years, 20 years or more. Heartbreak, disruption and drama every day, all playing out in front of you kids. You've unfortunately married a woman without boundaries or scruples. Time for you to provide stability for your kids and your self, something missing the last two years. Don't waste any more time... Mr. Lucky 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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