kayak2133 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 (edited) Dated a woman briefly last year and when we broke it off she turned me down several times when I asked her to reconsider. The breakup was because she thought I wanted more than she did at the time. She and I both dated other people after that. After those breakups, I noticed she started clicking like on my Facebook page to about everything and posting quite a bit. I would post on her page also. I would message her every now and then and we would talk some. Then I attended a concert her church held (a friend at work started talking with me more about the church - he also attends). I had been thinking about switching to her church because it's one of the best in town and has good church services. I asked her if she was at the concert and told her I was thinking about attending the church. She messaged me back and invited me to sit with her or her dad and said they also have Wednesday night classes. I sat with her and her dad. She hugged me when she saw me, smiled quite a bit and was talking with me. There was good conversation. She invited me to sit with her and her dad at anytime. I said I would in two weeks because I was going out of town for my grandma's 94th birthday and mom and friends had asked me to help with some yard work and moving furniture. I asked what time she would be at church for classes Wednesday night and told her I wanted to speak with her. She couldn't meet me because she said she came in late with a girlfriend and her daughter. She asked me the next day what I thought of class. We talked about our weekends and were nice to one another. I asked her if she wanted to get lunch the next weekend and she said she was helping dad with yard work and attending a cousin's birthday. Was she snubbing me because she thought I snubbed her over going out of town that weekend? My grandma and mom are three hours out of town and I don't get to see them much. She said no to going out and said we are just friends. I waited two weeks to ask her out because I hadn't seen her in over a year and had the out of town plans that I had made a month in advance - family members were expecting me. I also thought taking a little time instead of moving too fast, which is how she felt the last time, was the best thing. Is it possible that she wanted more than friendship from me faster than expected or did she want nothing more than friendship? She didn't take time to see me the Wednesday of church classes. I am wondering if she thought I acted too busy for her or she truly just wanted friendship. Please chime in. Edited October 25, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs Link to post Share on other sites
Author kayak2133 Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 One of the reasons I am wondering if her feelings past friendship resurfaced is there are not many good eligible bachelors here with good values and good jobs. I have both. We parted with respect before. Another thing is church is a place for all people but there are plenty of people who attend church who have been hurt in the past and I wondered if she had second thoughts. But it's also possible that all she wanted was friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 She knows you; she's dated you. A woman who likes a man in a sexual and romantic way will move mountains to grow that. You two are familiar, interact and she's told you that friends are what you are. Friends, presuming you wish to continue a platonic friendship, are what you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kayak2133 Posted October 28, 2015 Author Share Posted October 28, 2015 @carhill, so it wouldn't have mattered if I asked her the day I saw her or two weeks later if she was interested in me? Link to post Share on other sites
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