dumbass2 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I've been back and forth on match over the last few years (met my last girlfriend on there) and I don't fully understand why women hide their profile one day and days later unhide it and then a week later hide it. I get it, when you meet someone and one or both decide to hide it because you want to focus on the other or maybe you need a break and hide it for weeks or months or you go on vacation. Sometimes I see this back and forth from women and it makes me wonder and sends me a red flag if I thought of contacting them. Are they getting contacted by someone who wont leave them alone? (no, not me lol!) Are they in a relationship and just jumping back and forth on there for attention to feel good about themselves? Just too much going on in their lives and want to get back out there, but just aren't sure? These are 40+ year old women. Anyone women out there that have been on a place like match and have any input on this? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I think you pretty much covered it. OLD is a crap shoot. It's free so you are going to get a lot of garbage that you need to weed through. It's a reality that you have to use it with caution. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 It's always an unknown and apparently, here anyway, keeps you wondering. They're on your mind. It works. Link to post Share on other sites
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I've been back and forth on match over the last few years (met my last girlfriend on there) and I don't fully understand why women hide their profile one day and days later unhide it and then a week later hide it. I get it, when you meet someone and one or both decide to hide it because you want to focus on the other or maybe you need a break and hide it for weeks or months or you go on vacation. Sometimes I see this back and forth from women and it makes me wonder and sends me a red flag if I thought of contacting them. Are they getting contacted by someone who wont leave them alone? (no, not me lol!) Are they in a relationship and just jumping back and forth on there for attention to feel good about themselves? Just too much going on in their lives and want to get back out there, but just aren't sure? These are 40+ year old women. Anyone women out there that have been on a place like match and have any input on this? You should research that site. It is a scam. They have been the subject of many lawsuits and complaints. Much of what you describe is actually common. There are many fake profiles on there, created by the company to make it appear as though they are real women, when they are not. The company will pull old photos from FB or elsewhere and create a false profile. IF you receive communication from someone on there, at least in most cases, it will be a fraud, even a guy, likely laughing at you as you sit there thinking you are speaking to a real woman. Like I said, do the research. Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I'm guilty of doing this on Match and in the demographic of which you speak. Sometimes the amount of messages is overwhelming ... In order to get through the potential matches I just hide my profile ... If I'm talking with several people it's distracting to get new messages. Also ...if I go out of town I'll hide my profile so people don't think me rude for a delay in responding. Lastly ...as you noted ...if I really like someone I'll hide. One day I hope to delete it altogether 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 You should research that site. It is a scam. They have been the subject of many lawsuits and complaints. Much of what you describe is actually common. There are many fake profiles on there, created by the company to make it appear as though they are real women, when they are not. The company will pull old photos from FB or elsewhere and create a false profile. IF you receive communication from someone on there, at least in most cases, it will be a fraud, even a guy, likely laughing at you as you sit there thinking you are speaking to a real woman. Like I said, do the research. I think you are referring to Ashley Madison lol Link to post Share on other sites
Guyouthere Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I think you are referring to Ashley Madison lol who is that? lol Match has been exposed as a scam. The information can be found if you do the research. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dumbass2 Posted October 25, 2015 Author Share Posted October 25, 2015 I'm guilty of doing this on Match and in the demographic of which you speak. Sometimes the amount of messages is overwhelming ... In order to get through the potential matches I just hide my profile ... If I'm talking with several people it's distracting to get new messages. Also ...if I go out of town I'll hide my profile so people don't think me rude for a delay in responding. Lastly ...as you noted ...if I really like someone I'll hide. One day I hope to delete it altogether Thanks for the input. Just curious, if you meet and start dating someone and like them, how soon (how many dates) do you decide to hide it and do you tell him or do you do it together? Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Thanks for the input. Just curious, if you meet and start dating someone and like them, how soon (how many dates) do you decide to hide it and do you tell him or do you do it together? Usually after 2-3 dates ... Chances are it's hidden already so it's a mute point ...I say it's hidden already because if I leave my profile up for a few weeks I get a lot of messages ... From that I narrow it down to a handful of people and just focus on them ...then usually pick one to date longer term ...it happens pretty quickly actually ...I've gotten good at the cycle and really don't like dating per se nor being on a dating site so I get in and get out. I know what I'm looking so that helps ...also I'm decisive and not wishy washy. The two people I did get into a relationship with hid their profile as well. We didn't discuss it. I believe out of respect they hid ... we're not player types nor had the candy store mentality. I avoid those types like the plague. If a guy is more the "relationship" type they don't really want to be on those sites either and won't play games or be visible after it's determined they want to be in a relationship ...they don't want to take a chance of losing someone. Maybe that's wishful thinking on my part ...but that's what I've encountered and why I think guys hide after 2-3 dates without a nudge. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
J21 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Girls get a ton of messages on OLD. One girl (a platonic friend) showed me her inbox and it was amazing how her inbox blew up. She said it's tiring going through them because almost all of them are creepers. Hiding would be a way to just stop the flood even if it's for a while. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 When I was doing OLD, I would hide it for lots of reasons... Busy with work, traveling, or I am getting to know someone. I don't multi date, nor am I interested in getting tons of emails, so hiding it was a way to manage the influx of new people. I wouldn't want them to get the impression that I am one of those people who need to juggle lots of options or am a multi dater. So, in my case, it is actually not a bad thing. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 You should research that site. It is a scam. They have been the subject of many lawsuits and complaints. Much of what you describe is actually common. There are many fake profiles on there, created by the company to make it appear as though they are real women, when they are not. The company will pull old photos from FB or elsewhere and create a false profile. IF you receive communication from someone on there, at least in most cases, it will be a fraud, even a guy, likely laughing at you as you sit there thinking you are speaking to a real woman. Like I said, do the research. Yep. As a guy I created a free profile. Got SOOOOOO much interest. after I subscribed....nada. LOL after I cancelled SOOOOOO much interest. Now I did meet women. most were married. LOL! The worst thing about that site is you can't tell who is a subscriber or not. well that was the issue 4 yrs ago. Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Fake people are soooo easy to spot.... they will not respond in depth (or at all) to the unique things you tell them about yourself. But as for hiding a profile, i have done that on occasion, and i am a man! I do it when i have too many contacts and or i don't have time for any new ones. Link to post Share on other sites
misspond Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I used to hide my account when I got disheartened by the messages I would get from men who really weren't my cup of tea. Then after a couple of weeks I'd brush myself off, tweak something on my profile with the aim of it attracting someone who was my cup of tea, and unhide again. Link to post Share on other sites
Real36 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 I do it too. I get fed up with OLD and take a break. I always get back on and then get fed up again. Its never ending, painful cycle. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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