Katie2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 My BF and I met online 3 years ago and have been inseparable ever since. We have been in a serious relationship for a little over 2.5 years after we first met in person. He lives in the rural midwest. I live on the west coast. We visit one another every 6 weeks or so. We spend most of our free time together texting, talking on the phone or on facetime. We talk for at least an hour every day. I am 36 and my BF is 28. Around the time we met he was finalizing a divorce. He has always told me that he would like to marry me and have a family together, but we have never taken any proactive steps to close the geographic distance between us. A year into our relationship I discovered that he had been talking to other women online, some for months at a time. Though very difficult for me to work through, he begged me to stay and said that he had made a huge mistake in doing that and that he would stop. Periodically I try to have a serious conversation with him about the future of our relationship and he always has an excuse. A year ago I just offered to move to his very rural town of 1600 people. His salary could easily support both of us, but he thought it would be best if I had a job there first and said we should wait. I have a graduate level education and work for a prestigious organization in Los Angeles, so leaving my job for him would have been a huge sacrifice. A few months after this I decided to leave him because things weren't moving anywhere. I explained that i'd like to have a family and don't have all of the time in the world to wait around. He told me that he absolutely wants to be together forever but that how can he can ask me to marry him when I have threatened to leave him before? He says I've created instability in the relationship and we just get right back into this whole circuitous conversation about our relationship again. I do love him and think we could have a future together. We do have our issues though. He has PTSD from military deployments, some issues with alcohol and is just overall not very emotionally expressive or affectionate. I often feel like he takes little real interest in my life. I am very frustrated and would like advice on what to do. Is it time to just leave for good? Link to post Share on other sites
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