franksthebear Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Hi all My partner and myself have been in a ldr for 4 months now. In the beginning we would dirty talk, skype sex frequently (once a week). Now she says she isnt horny (we slype sexed once in about 2 months). Any help with getting her drive back? Telling her what im doing through dirty talk isnt helping. Regards Franks Link to post Share on other sites
Clarence_Boddicker Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 Yes, very simple, go see her in person. LDRs are usually bogus & should only be for a limited time & because of extraordinary circumstances, like a military deployment & after a real life relationship has happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Author franksthebear Posted October 26, 2015 Author Share Posted October 26, 2015 Of course. That would be the solution to most of the problems in this section.unfortunately there is still 8 weeks to wait until I see her. Anyone have any helpful tips? Link to post Share on other sites
sasuke Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 well, the fact is that: once you had sex in real life, the skype thing is just something less satisfying for both parties. I wouldn't see you getting it on with her on skype as a sign wether she does or doesn't love you. do you have any short terms plans with her? like moving and such? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 My partner and myself have been in a ldr for 4 months now. So, was it only LD? You've never met het in real life? In the beginning we would dirty talk, skype sex frequently (once a week). This is quite subjective, but I guess men are more into it than women are. Some routines that can leave a man satisfied might leave a woman very unsatisfied, like masturbating then having to leave right away is like getting up from bed and leave the place soon after making love. Some might like it, others wouldn't. Women need to be romanced a bit, pursued. Talking dirty can become gross in the end, or make her think that's all you're looking for, and in the end one can feel used. Now she says she isnt horny (we slype sexed once in about 2 months). I don't know her, so I can't tell for sure. But I assume something broke between you two. If you're not ready to perceive how she feels about things, if you are pushing something she's not enjoying, if her needs get ignored, that's what you usually get: a turned-off girl. I don't rule out her interest might have shifted to someone else. That might also be a consequence of you turning her off. A more remote option would be that she's a depressed person or having troubles at the moment, so you fell into background. Any help with getting her drive back? Do YOU have any idea first? Telling her what im doing through dirty talk isnt helping. I guess that's just bad taste. It's like making love with a woman not feeling any pleasure and turning her head to the other side. If you can't "see" how the other person feels, the other person backs off. Link to post Share on other sites
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