nicololi Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 I miss him so much. It has been a month and a week today since the breakup and a month since we spoke. It is so hard. I wish he would come back and tell me he made a huge mistake. In my heart...I know he never will. He told me he would never love me again. He doesn't know why he stopped loving me..he just did and said I was a great person. He said it was a relief to be done and that he felt absolutely nothing in his heart for me and it was too late to fix anything because I did nothing wrong. I have a list of what I thought were reasons why he left but before he said those weren't it. Even if he were to clear his mind he would probably look back and say "nope I would contact her because it's for the best" I scream into my pillow "I miss you". I just want to be happy. I'm sick of trying. I go out with friends, I practice affirmations but I just want to turn my brain off. He is happy without me and it crushes me. After 4 years I am simply a memory to him. I pray that this pain goes away. I cry and cry asking for anything to make me feel better. When will this end... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 Unfortunately it will end when it ends. Grief doesn't have a time line & you are grieving the loss of your relationship. Put one foot in front of the other every day. Go to work. Surround yourself with positive supportive people. Post here. Don't beat yourself up for crying. Pack away all the mementos. Send the photos to the cloud or better yet save them to a flash drive & pack it away. Rearrange your living space. Make lists of things you would like to accomplish & set out to do them. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Mira93 Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 I understand why you're hurting. You probably feel rejected. HOWEVER, you said that he told you that there's nothing wrong with you, so it has nothing to do with you as a person. He just doesn't have any feelings anymore, but you cannot blame him for that. I would like to tell you this: although it hurts now, you will see that he made the right decision. Think about this: would you want to be in a relationship with someone who does not love you back? Of course not! You want to have a relationship in which love is a mutual feeling, and you will find that! I'd advise you to really focus on this thought, let it soak in and then you will realise that this is actually a good thing happening to you. You now have the freedom and opportunity to find someone who loves you equally. You are still heartbroken which is okay, you will get over it in time, but just imagine how awesome a relationship will be when you too receive love! Focus on this, because it is what you deserve Link to post Share on other sites
FinestTouch Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 (edited) It will end when you want it to end. The moment you make the decision. The moment when you accept that it is really over and there's no turning back. You can decide right this minute that you will let him go completely and then the pain will go away. Maybe not instantly but very soon, sooner than you think. How soon? As soon as you find your inner peace. Relax, let go, breathe. Find comfort, support and reassurance in your friends and family. Go out, talk to people, keep busy and stay positive. Even the darkest hour has only sixty minutes. If you believe in God, pray! Edited November 2, 2015 by FinestTouch Link to post Share on other sites
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