Do you still feel connected to your ex-husband or ex-wife after the divorce???

[RoxStar]

Even after you break up or divorce do you still feel connected to the person you married? I would imagine if you have children the answer is obviously yes but if you dont have kids - do you still feel connected to that person? After all at one point in your life you committed to them infront of witnesses (friends/family) that you would love each other till death do you part....

[alphamale]

we were married for 3 yrs, no kids....and no connection what so ever

[reservoirdog1]

We were married for seven and a half years before separating. We've been separated for over a year and a half and the divorce will be final in about 2 weeks. And we have two kids, 4 and 7.

 

Honestly, I don't feel any connection to her, even with the presence of the kids. After everything that happened, I needed to remove her from my life as much as possible, to make the hurt stop. And it pretty much worked.

 

I don't know what I feel towards her. I'm still occasionally pissed at her, but as for what's left, I don't think it's love, and it doesn't really feel like dislike. It's mostly indifference.

 

Frankly, in a lot of ways, I don't even feel like I know her anymore. We only have to see each other once a week to exchange the kids, and she's like a stranger... just somebody I had a relationship with a long time ago (even though it wasn't that long ago).

[Mz. Pixie]

I echo what RD said.

 

I dropped my kiddos off last night and I looked at him and felt no attraction whatsoever. Nothing.

 

I want the best for him- but that's about it.

[blind_otter]

Originally posted by RoxStar

Even after you break up or divorce do you still feel connected to the person you married? I would imagine if you have children the answer is obviously yes but if you dont have kids - do you still feel connected to that person? After all at one point in your life you committed to them infront of witnesses (friends/family) that you would love each other till death do you part....

 

I was married in 2001, separated in 2003, got back together end of 2003, then he went to prison in 2004. I dated other people. I still really loved him for a long time, through an entire almost year-long relationship I was still really in love with my exhusband. Now, though, I am finally over him and in love with someone else and it feels better. Not the mournful longing of a love that I once knew, the clinging to the memory of what I had...the celebration of a future with who I am with now, though, feels much better. It did take time - about 2 years.

[Merin]

I share My Wee People with My EXH and I don't have any connection to him at all.

We never talk, the only time I see him is maybe once a week, I don't know where he lives, we don't have the same friends... and oddly enough when I see him, he is more like a stranger to me and I wonder who he is.