My wife has started dating while the divorce is pending. How can I make her stop?

[MatthewO]

My wife and I have been separated for 2 months now. We don't have any children. I bought a new place for myself while she's staying at our house. We both own the house. Anyways, that's not the issue. She's solely paying the house bills since she's the one who's currently living there. The issue is why has she started dating right now. We're not divorced yet. When we were together I paid $3700 for her breast augmentation. So, I believe that rightfully gives me some authority over her. But, she doesn't get it. I told her she shouldn't date anyone when our divorce hasn't yet been finalized. I told her I had the right to tell her to stop but she didn't get the picture. She didn't even get it when we were still together. She wouldn't wear what I would tell her to wear. I mean she would at times wear skimpy dresses. I didn't pay for her augmentation so that she would show it off on public. It was for her own self-esteem. She needs to know that as long as the divorce is still pending I have some authority over her. I was the one that paid for her confidence level to go higher. What should i do?

[S2B]

You have no way of controlling what she does or doesn't do.

 

 

Focus rather on yourself.

 

 

Do your best to move forward with no regrets.

[qubist]

are you kidding yourself?

she is a free woman, she can date whoever she wants. Divorce is just a matter of technical paperwork processing, but in reality you are already divorced. move on man for your own sake

[Mr. Lucky]

When we were together I paid $3700 for her breast augmentation. So, I believe that rightfully gives me some authority over her.

 

I'm tempted to say only between the navel and the neck.

 

Whatever investment you made in her, much like Cub's World Series tickets, doesn't retain value if certain events take place, divorce being one of them.

 

Since there's no kids and no ties going forward, why do you care what she does?

 

Mr. Lucky

[BlueIris]

When we were together I paid $3700 for her breast augmentation. So, I believe that rightfully gives me some authority over her. ... She needs to know that as long as the divorce is still pending I have some authority over her. I was the one that paid for her confidence level to go higher. What should i do?

 

No, you don't have any authority over her now and you really never did. Human beings have free will.

 

Have a peaceful divorce and stay out of her business.

 

I did lots of divorces and never once did I hear a party say that paying for a breast augmentation bought him some power over the other person. That is a new one!

[Davey L]

I paid for my wife to go to the hairdressers. Does that mean her hair belongs to me, and what authority does that give me?

[BlueIris]

I paid for my wife to go to the hairdressers. Does that mean her hair belongs to me, and what authority does that give me?

 

Just the color belongs to you.

[CarrieT]

You can't.

[bathtub-row]

Gee, I can't imagine why on earth she's divorcing you. I personally adore men who think I'm their possession. That has worked each and every time a guy pulled that on me.

 

Well, maybe you can get visitation rights and pay boob support. Ya never know. She's gotta keep those things up (pun fully intended).

[MidwestUSA]

Gee, I can't imagine why on earth she's divorcing you. I personally adore men who think I'm their possession. That has worked each and every time a guy pulled that on me.

 

Well, maybe you can get visitation rights and pay boob support. Ya never know. She's gotta keep those things up (pun fully intended).

 

I think a trust fund for the girls is in order. Unlike kids, you're not off the hook after eighteen years, or college expenses.

 

Good boobs are for life!

[RecentChange]

This is a joke right?!

 

Damn, I didn't know someone could be purchased for less than a well used car. What a bargain!

[sandylee1]

 

What should i do?

 

1) See a very good therapist to analyse your thinking in all aspects.

 

2) Find something meaningful to occupy your time and take your

mind of her boobs.

 

3) Should you have the good fortune get married again - you

might wish to put a clause in your pre-nup about your rights

over potential boob jobs. I'm sure an attorney will help with it.