Jason123. Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 hey so basically me and my girlfriend went out to a club, we had a few drinks and she didn't feel anything then she have 5 more and became very drunk all of a sudden. So we went to sit down and there was a guy on the left of my girlfriend,they started chatting and she kept of giggling and laughing,so i tapped her on her shoulder but she ignored me,then she stood up and grabbed the guys hand and they started to walk away until i intervened the next morning i brought it up and she couldn't remember any of it is this a bad thing for her to of done, do i have a right to bring it up?im not sure let me know guys Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 How long have you been dating this girl that you just finding out she gets blackout drunk, forgets she has a boyfriend sitting next to her and will walk off with some stranger who intends to have sex with her? How often does she go out drinking without you? If it were me I'd tell her what happened and if she doesn't lay off the booze herself after that I'd find a new gf. I can't be there to babysit her every time she decides to slam 5 or 8 drinks in a club and I don't want to deal with someone who gets blackout drunk on the regular either. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 It is very suspect. I'd be very wary and untrusting. There is NO amount of alcohol that would make me walk off with another man, especially with my boyfriend sitting right there. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jason123. Posted October 28, 2015 Author Share Posted October 28, 2015 we have been going out for 15 16 months, i never really saw a point of us going out to clubs, we have done it together 4 times the other 3 times were fine and enjoyable Link to post Share on other sites
oregon0011 Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 When I was younger I dated girls who drink, and at clubs this would happen. I wouldn't say it is cheating, but it did piss me off. You need to avoid clubs and alcohol with a girl like that. Definitely not the two together. Link to post Share on other sites
J21 Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 If u are seriously asking this question i honestly feel bad for u... 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 This is really suspect behaviour. More so as it hasn't happened before. She had a few and wasn't drunk then just one or two more and all of a sudden was completely smashed? Hate to say it mate but I think you need to be careful which clubs you go to and who goes near your drinks while you are at those clubs... I had a friend this happened to. Turns out she was drugged... Talk to her about it. If she was black out drunk I think you guys need to take steps to protect her in future... I think she was drugged personally. People do not change that dramatically with out something added to the mix. Its not always that they are cheating or intending to cheat. Link to post Share on other sites
Siquijor Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 What she did is classed as ultimate disrespect in my book so therefore would be swiftly erased from my life before one could say "pina colada", if I was in your position. Don't put up with that ****, man. There's no excuse for what she did. None. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 Yes, sounds like she was drugged to me too. But the fact that she went off with some other guy instead of turning to OP for help is a bit strange. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 You were already having drinks & you claim your GF "didn't feel anything." Then you said she had 5 more drinks and you characterize that as all of a sudden she was drunk? Whoa. How fast was she drinking? The minute she had 5 drinks period, let alone in rapid succession, both of you should have known there would be trouble At the point when she started interacting with the other guy she was so out of it, she had no ability to consent and no self control. She was in danger. You two have bigger issues then relationship problems. You both need a better handle on your alcohol consumption! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 I have been very obliterated at the bar before.....never latched onto a guy, I told my GF it was time to get me home. You GF is unstable. To me her behavior is a deal breaker. If you have to babysit your GF like that you got some troubles. Link to post Share on other sites
warshaw Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 Don't have children with her. Or share a house. Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 She had a binge drinking episode. That many drinks will increase your blood alcohol level dramatically, especially in women. When your blood alcohol level goes about 1.6 or so...which hers definitely was, the hypothalamus in the brain shuts down the short term memory. A person can function and do stuff with no memory whatsoever. Character changes are common. FYI...yes she was drugged, alcohol is a drug. If you really love her, talk to her about what she did and how it affected you. She probably has no recall whatsoever, so getting angry will have no real impact. The only thing you can do going forward is prevent binge drinking. Ask her to not drink more than 2 or 3 drinks as she has personality changes which create very poor judgement. Or, if this episode is going to haunt you, cut her loose. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 I know with me I wouldn't let things get to that unless I already knew ahead of time there was someone there to take care of me. Still wouldn't get blackout drunk though. It's suspicious to me. Is drinking like this a normal thing for her or simply one bad judgement? Link to post Share on other sites
Oli. Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 You should have left her to it. If you didn't intercept her then she would have cheated on you. She has probably already cheated on you multiple times and she will again in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 So she forgot you were next to her. Forgot she was your girlfriend. You tapped her on the shoulder and she ignored you. Started to walk out the club with the guy? Dude why did you sit there while another bloke was chatting up your girl? Not that it was the other dude's fault, he saw a drunk girl and went for the kill. As someone else said, if she did that when you were there, how about when you're not? Track shoes. Lace them sons of guns up. Start running as fast as you can! Link to post Share on other sites
Try Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 So we went to sit down and there was a guy on the left of my girlfriend,they started chatting and she kept of giggling and laughing,so i tapped her on her shoulder but she ignored me,then she stood up and grabbed the guys hand and they started to walk away until i intervened I think you know what would have happened with this other guy had she gone there with at girl friend without you being there to intervene. She is not good relationship material. You have not know her long, are not married to her, and do not have children with her. You have dodged a bullet. Move on and find someone that is good relationship material. This is why you date and get to know someone before you marry them. Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 (edited) I don't even know you and this made me feel angry just at the thought of it. You can't date her seriously man, you know this. That is seriously one of the most disrespectful things I could possibly think of. Edited November 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator berating language redacted ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Boils down to this. You let her know that if she can't control her booze and she either gets a handle on it or she's gone. I can't tell you how many of these posts where people have their lives wrecked because their Significant Other can't keep from having just one more drink, then they make an ass out of themselves, hurt the one that loves them and falls back on the excuse that they were drunk and didn't know what they were doing. Well they should have thought about it before they took the next drink. it's a feeble excuse. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Folks, let's keep personal insults and the larger issue of rape and intoxicated consent out of this thread. If you would like to discuss rape and intoxicated consent, you can start your own thread on the subject. Thank you. ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 Boils down to this. You let her know that if she can't control her booze and she either gets a handle on it or she's gone. I can't tell you how many of these posts where people have their lives wrecked because their Significant Other can't keep from having just one more drink, then they make an ass out of themselves, hurt the one that loves them and falls back on the excuse that they were drunk and didn't know what they were doing. Well they should have thought about it before they took the next drink. it's a feeble excuse. Yep and let us make one thing crystal clear because some people don't grasp this notion: your significant other is just that and nothing more. They are not chaperones and they are not babysitters. They are grown ass adults. If they can't handle themselves drinking it is up to them not to put themselves into a situation. If they expect their partner to do that then at the end of the night some money should be given, even little kids earn money for babysitting. Link to post Share on other sites
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