Having a hard time today

[Kristine]

He contacted courts to speed things up. I'm really hurt, he cares more about leaving than trying. He had the gall to ask me to be fwb.

 

Today I saw a dining set I love. I have no money to buy it, nor a home to put it in. I saw it at a thrift store. A shopping day was intended to lift my spirits, just gave me to contemplate. I did find things I intended to buy, and got them, but good furniture is a rare find in a thrift store.

 

Just having a hard day. My job starts tomorrow. Hope it's a better day.

[Clay]

I know its hard but your going to make it through this. These are the days your going to remember the most when your back on your feet. I know for me they are the ones that helped me the most. Its amazing just how clearly you think about what is important to you during these times.

 

Just smile and know tomorrow is going to be a much better day.

 

 

C

[Kristine]

Yeah my mom has put up with a lot over the years from me. I'm just glad she's still alive when I need her. My health is improving, my hair cut is awesome! Overall I'm grateful but he still gets to me, and I don't know why he cuts through so easily.

 

I'm doing alright, the home of my own thing is just a nerve that got struck today.

 

I sent him an e-mail after he claimed how he did so much for me that I hope court is good bye, and our paths do not cross again. I really want to turn a blind eye to him, and I'm grateful he's moving out of state. I know now not to attend big event sales at dealerships. Because Lord knows which one he's working.

[Clay]

Its hard moving on. The reason he still gets to you is because you care. There is nothing wrong with still caring. Its just a part of who we are as people. Its really a good sign that your dealing with this in a healthy way and processing it like it should be. Divorcing does take a toll on us emotionally and physically. It is great you have your mom. Its nice to have someone you can talk to that really cares for you.

 

Taking care of your self with haircuts and things like that is a wonderful start to really seeing things differently and enjoying that difference. I found change early on in life to be difficult for me but as time has gone on I really have learned to appreciate it.

 

If you have hobbies or other goals you want to achieve set your sights on those. They will help you pass the time and it wont be long before you learn to have indifference towards your soon to be xH.

 

I know for me there are times I wished I could shut my feelings off but it just has not worked out so well for me. I just try to remind myself why I divorced her and her problems now are not mine.

 

Here is to hoping you have a much better day today

 

C

[Kristine]

Started my job today, really like it so far. Things are looking up, just want the finalized divorce so I can move on it ways that need to wait. Like car, and bankruptcy.

[Clay]

It will seem really slow right now because your focused on it. Try just moving your thoughts back to the more positive things. Getting a new job is always nice. Meeting new people can be really fun.

 

I am glad things are getting better for you.

 

C

[LifeNomad]

if you don't already I find exercise to be one of the best things you can do, but not just a one time thing, make it part of your new life, an every day thing, maybe at least 20 min or more to start

[TotallyHonest]

It gets better. It's never ever going to be easy but it gets better. I find exercise worked really well for me. Take time to be sad (you can't deny it) and take time to look after you - spend money on yourself.

 

And music - how much did I sink into music! Listen to sad songs, cry, listen to happy songs, feel that things could get better (they do), listen to the same band for a week at a time (I did).