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Hello. First, off, I am a strong woman. I have a law degree, own a business, have a nice home, etc., etc. However, I was the victim of a narcissist. I broke up with him a month ago after a pretty shallow two-year relationship. I had to. He was broke. He became homeless after a failing business, is a terrible father, used me, and now owes me over $5,000. (Fortunately, for me, he is terrifed of me and is paying me $200 a month.) But it still does not diminish the pain from the sting. I've been doing everything I should be doing (friends, working out, new hobbies), but there is still that confusing void that I can't seem to fill. I'm really not getting this about myself because he really had nothing to offer me. And it showed in the end. I am not really coping like I should be. Any further suggestions? I just needed to vent.

 

Thanks for listening.

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Perhaps 'emotional time' is different to 'logical time'.

 

Most people i think will end a relationship according to emotional time, their emotions force the decision.

 

In your case, you have ended the relationship more because of logic because you can see it is not good, but your emotions have not caught up with that yet.... i think possibly this is what you are going through??

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I think you are right. The heart is a deep ocean. Thank you for the reply.

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I had someone like that in my life in 2010, was so relieved and happy when they were gone. I moved on so easily.

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Yep...Give yourself more time. Pat yourself on back as your doing all the right things. Try your hardest to avoid him as much as possible even with the debt owing.

 

Your be fine. Keep busy.

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Thank you everyone who took the time to reply. It means a lot to me. I hope I can support you in any way in the future. Be well.

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