I love my SO but I can't stop thinking about sex with other women

[zeek]

I am 20yo and I am in a relationship with this girl for 2 and a half years. I love her so much. She is everything I'm looking for - she has a great personality and we connect in almost any way but not only that, she has a perfect body with everything I consider beautiful. Not only body of course, but also the cutest face.

 

Having said all of this, this year I moved to away because of university. We do see each other every weekend and text/talk everyday. The thing is, for more than a year I can't stop thinking about sex with other girls. It really is just a physical thing, but it's getting out of control and I feel awful about this. I also don't really know why, since I do find my gf perfect. I feel lost, on one hand I would never cheat on my girl. I would prefer to end it before cheating but I don't want to lose her.

 

We've had our ups and downs but frankly I do see myself living with her for the rest of my life. I have never felt this way about anyone else yet still I can't help but want to have sex with all kinds of girls...

[ExpatInItaly]

Was your gf also your first sexual partner?

 

I ask because this desire to explore other people is more common when you haven't had much previous experience. It's quite normal to be curious and wonder about others. It's what you do with that desire that matters most.

 

How's your sex life with your gf? Do you like to try new things, new locations, etc? Are you comfortable discussing fantasies together? There might be some ways to spice things up there, which could help. But be careful how you bring this up with her - don't give her the impression that it's because youre bored or something.

 

If you find this doesn't help, you might need to consider whether you still have that spark. It's one thing to love someone, another to also feel and be able to maintain that physical chemistry. Some ebbs and flows are normal. But given your age and how long you've been feeling this way, you need to step back and very carefully consider the ramifications. Sometimes couples outgrow each other.

[zeek]

Yes she was my first. As of our sex life - i think its great. Its a little limited due to the fact that we only see each other on weekends.

I don't think that most women are better - just different.

[Popsicle]

You're only 20 yo. Please go out and live your life and have fun (responsibly). You will have plenty of time for a serious commitment later.

[Lois_Griffin]

You're only 20 yo. Please go out and live your life and have fun (responsibly). You will have plenty of time for a serious commitment later.

This is correct.

 

You're thinking and feeling like a normal red-blooded 20 year old SHOULD feel. I think it's a great character trait that you're cognizant of it and don't want to betray your girlfriend.

 

But quite frankly, you cant fight nature and eventually you'll probably lose the battle.

 

Someone your age needs to spread his wings and go do what 20 year old guys were meant to do. At your age, you weren't mean to be in a long term committed relationship all during your youth.