Shock148 Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 As the title says. Tinder or any other dating sites ive heard about does not work for me. It has either a lot of bots with fake accounts or I just have to pay to get the full feature. Anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 POF worked for me. If none of the sites work for you then you have to look at the common denominator. You're using them wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmissjava Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 I have had more success on POF. I have met a few nice men on there, but I just didn't click with any of them, or they didn't click with me. Moving along. Time and patience is key. You aren't going to be successful at it overnight. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 Ok Cupid. Hands down the best. Answering questions will help you identify people with similar values and perspectives. Good filtering and search. Lots of users, and in my experience the highest quality users. I am dating a wonderful woman who I met there (99%) match, and there is a good chance that this is the relationship I'd been hoping for. It took me a year of coffee dates and holding out for a great match. I got tired of dating just to be dating, so I held out for a year and it paid off. I'm sure you're about to hear from a bunch of people who will say all online dating is completely worthless or evil. That's because their expectations are unrealistic or they just couldn't get laid. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 I've had the most success with OKCupid Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 I'm sure you're about to hear from a bunch of people who will say all online dating is completely worthless or evil. That's because their expectations are unrealistic or they just couldn't get laid. Absolutely, always take advice from successful people, not failures Link to post Share on other sites
JustGettingBy Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 I've had friends recommend OK Cupid after they had success with it. One friend I was close with as a kid who I recently re-connected with met her husband there. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 I have had success with both PoF and OKCupid. I have not had as much success with paid dating sites. To make it work you have to take the advice given to you and work at it. I know loads of people who asked for advice, were given good advice, didn't take it then months later are still complaining that its not working and how it must be all the dating sites fault... Not the case. You need good photos, a good write up and good opening messages. Anything less is just not worth the bother. It takes time to learn and practice, then on top of that once you have the hang of it to find suitable matches. A couple of months ago I would have told you its not worth it but right now I will tell you it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Jejangles Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 Okcupid is my favourite site. I tried POF earlier this year but found it more difficult to use and I wasn't getting very good quality emails from there. I really like the questions on Okcupid and the quickmatch feature. I have yet to knowingly meet "the one" but I am dating someone right now who at least on the surface seems like he could be a good fit. We were an 84% match, and I would say that translates into real life - we have a lot in common without being too similar. I have had a ton of first dates, quite a few second dates and two more meaningful dating experiences though OkCupid. It takes a while to meet someone you click with, but I figure every "wrong" person just gives you more information on what you don't want so you can find the "right" person. But agreed with others, a site is only as good as how much effort you are willing to put in and what your attitude is. There's too many people online with negative attitudes that transfer through their profile and through their messages. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 As the title says. Tinder or any other dating sites ive heard about does not work for me. It has either a lot of bots with fake accounts or I just have to pay to get the full feature. Anyone? It really depends upon what age you are and what age of man you want. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Httm Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 Okcupid is the only free site worth it. Better to pay a few bucks... if someone pays to use a site, there is at least a larger chance they actually want to take it seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 OLD is but a single tool in all it's incarnations. You need to employ a variety of methods to meet someone & not rely solely on online tools. Get involved in your community to meet new people. FWIW, I have always believed you get what you pay for. When I tried OLD I went with the then most expensive service out there for exactly that reason. Although I did not meet the love of my life, the men I was matched with were quality people who fit my criteria on paper. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 The problem with paid sites is that there are many profiles of people who are no longer paying- subscriptions expired. The profiles look active, but they either can't read messages or can't respond. They can log in and browse, so when you see that they've visited you assume they're interested and send a message. No response. The site is using you to convince them to resubscribe without you realizing it. I had a woman I was interested in on a paid site who kept visiting my profile. I messaged her a few times and got no response. Finally I sent her a message and said something like WTF, you keep visiting and I've sent multiple messages- why don't you just say so if you're not interested. I almost blocked her. Then one day (recently) I get a message and she says that she had let her subscription expire and couldn't read my messages or even see who it was messaging her. She finally paid again and read my messages and responded immediately- she was interested and immediately suggested we arrange to meet. I had to send my regrets- I am now seeing someone I really like. Mine will expire in a week or so and I won't be paying. To those sites it's just a money game and they aren't particularly interested in customer satisfaction. In fact, if you are successful it reduces their income so they have plenty of incentive to keep you wishing and hoping... and not tell you beans about how it really works. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 Yep. Have used both POF and OKC with some success. Just takes patience. I prefer OKC because I find some truth to their match% after you answer a bunch of questions. Sometimes POF turns out better, just depends on where the good matches signup. Put up a couple pictures Write a little about yourself or what you're looking for Ask girls on dates Straightforward. Link to post Share on other sites
startinganew777 Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 POF and OKCupid. I did eharmony and match and I think those were a waste of time and money. I met a lot more people off POF especially. The guy I am dating now, best person I have ever dated and I am totally in love and I can't believe it but we met off POF. I just got a lot more dates from those sites and it is a numbers game until you find one you click with. Link to post Share on other sites
Guyouthere Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 POF evidently works well. My ex wife had a hidden account of herself on there, and met countless men while we were married. Her best friend confirmed at least 4 she had affairs with over the years, and when I was able to get on her iPhone, found over 20 different and strange phone numbers. Link to post Share on other sites
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