Searching for something that doesn't exist

[Dilettante]

I don't expect anyone to actually read all of this and respond. This is just a outlet for me.

 

About a year ago, I went through a bad break up. I was lied to, cheated on, and manipulated by one of those types of females that like to whore around and date multiple guys at once (it went well for the first 7 or so months but that's when it went to hell). It left me bitter, angry, and depressed. Needles to say, I completely cut this person out of my life and I'm happier but still depressed and anxious. That's not the point though.

 

I wouldn't mind meeting someone new but I'm starting feel like a lost cause. I can't meet anyone to save my life. Even for sake of just meeting someone with no romantic intents and connecting with them. I believe in quality, not quantity.

 

I go to college but there's not really anyone my age in my classes (I'm 26 male). I've worked at the same place for 6 years and I'd rather not get involved with someone from work (been there, done that)--any potential there is too young for me anyways. I go to the gym but there's hardly anyone my age I can see. I have a wide range of interests :I play guitar, draw, dabble in writing when I feel inspired--anything I can stretch my creative muscle in. I love history, humanities, science--especially physics and astrophysics. I love English and math, I read here and there, anything interesting to me.

 

A lot of my friends that are girls think I'm at least attractive whether it's personality or looks (they're just friends though). I do catch looks from girls in public sometimes but that's as much female attention as I get. I've never been approached before. I know a lot of people and a lot of people know me, but I don't go out with friends a lot. If I am out and about, it's usually by myself.

 

Almost everyone in my family is either unhappily married (this includes my parents), divorced and remarried multiple times, or never married and just been alone most of their lives. I went 5 years without any kind of romantic interaction before my recent break up and now I'm starting to prepare myself for another lonely 5 years or perhaps for the rest of my life. I am just about convinced that love exists for some people and not others. I believe I fall into that "non-existent" category. I think it's safe to say I give up on this whole companionship non sense.

[ZHguy]

I'm surprised nobody's responded to you. Sometimes I vent, and some of my threads are never answered, but some are. I guess the same 'non-existant' category follows for help.

 

Some parts of your thread explain me so much, it's as if I wrote them.

 

I wouldn't mind meeting someone new but I'm starting feel like a lost cause. I can't meet anyone to save my life. Even for sake of just meeting someone with no romantic intents and connecting with them.

 

I have a wide range of interests :I play guitar, draw, dabble in writing when I feel inspired--anything I can stretch my creative muscle in. I love history, humanities, science--especially physics and astrophysics. I love English and math, I read here and there, anything interesting to me.

 

I've never been approached before. I know a lot of people and a lot of people know me, but I don't go out with friends a lot. If I am out and about, it's usually by myself.

 

Almost everyone in my family is either unhappily married (this includes my parents), divorced and remarried multiple times, or never married and just been alone most of their lives. I went 5 years without any kind of romantic interaction before my recent break up and now I'm starting to prepare myself for another lonely 5 years or perhaps for the rest of my life. I am just about convinced that love exists for some people and not others. I believe I fall into that "non-existent" category. I think it's safe to say I give up on this whole companionship non sense.

 

I'm sorry for not bothering to write it into 'my own words' or in tune with 'how I feel', well because that is how I feel, and although I believe in the quality of words, it's 11 o'clock at night, and I'm exhausted from venting and typing all my emotions out. Because, there's never been an outcome.

Edited December 11, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Stilnaught]

This is more or less my story as well. It got me all very cynical, but somehow i keep trying. Some kind of a "perhaps it's a lost cause, but i'll fight for it anyway" mentality, which gets me to keep asking girls out and see what it gives.

 

"The battle of life is, in most cases, fought uphill; and to win it without a struggle were perhaps to win it without honor".

[shoplocal]

I don't expect anyone to actually read all of this and respond. This is just a outlet for me.

 

About a year ago, I went through a bad break up. I was lied to, cheated on, and manipulated by one of those types of females that like to whore around and date multiple guys at once (it went well for the first 7 or so months but that's when it went to hell). It left me bitter, angry, and depressed. Needles to say, I completely cut this person out of my life and I'm happier but still depressed and anxious. That's not the point though.

 

I wouldn't mind meeting someone new but I'm starting feel like a lost cause. I can't meet anyone to save my life. Even for sake of just meeting someone with no romantic intents and connecting with them. I believe in quality, not quantity.

 

I go to college but there's not really anyone my age in my classes (I'm 26 male). I've worked at the same place for 6 years and I'd rather not get involved with someone from work (been there, done that)--any potential there is too young for me anyways. I go to the gym but there's hardly anyone my age I can see. I have a wide range of interests :I play guitar, draw, dabble in writing when I feel inspired--anything I can stretch my creative muscle in. I love history, humanities, science--especially physics and astrophysics. I love English and math, I read here and there, anything interesting to me.

 

A lot of my friends that are girls think I'm at least attractive whether it's personality or looks (they're just friends though). I do catch looks from girls in public sometimes but that's as much female attention as I get. I've never been approached before. I know a lot of people and a lot of people know me, but I don't go out with friends a lot. If I am out and about, it's usually by myself.

 

Almost everyone in my family is either unhappily married (this includes my parents), divorced and remarried multiple times, or never married and just been alone most of their lives. I went 5 years without any kind of romantic interaction before my recent break up and now I'm starting to prepare myself for another lonely 5 years or perhaps for the rest of my life. I am just about convinced that love exists for some people and not others. I believe I fall into that "non-existent" category. I think it's safe to say I give up on this whole companionship non sense.

 

Hi Dilettante! It's good you took the time to get this off your chest--venting (in a safe place) is healthy.

 

I'm a woman almost a decade older than you, but I know what it feels like to be 26 and hopeless about love. I hope for your sake you continue to vent, as it allows you to explore your feelings and your hang ups and perhaps work through them. As a man in our society, you always have the power to initiate situations with women of interest -- never forget that! Use that right to your advantage.

 

Good luck