Being "ignored" when others are around

[Stilnaught]

Hi all,

 

i've met a girl this summer, who is a few years younger and always shows up at the same hour at a gym group session. Got to know her casually throughout the summer/fall period, on a weekly basis.

Now we met at parties as well, and after one of those we started talking (messenger), and i asked her out on a date (seeing a movie i was going to see anyway, i just thought: why not).

 

First she said "no i can't tonight. Then it became "i've heard bad reviws from my friends about the movie, can't we wait for the James Bond release? 'cause that movie is going to be awesome" and (straight after that, with no reply from me) she said: "wait, i'm being difficult, the trailer looks all right, lets go!"

 

In the meanwhile, there was a gym session in which she barely talked or looked at me, in a way it became obvious that she avoided me on purpose.

 

So we went. I picked her up, i even waited in her kitchen while she finished getting dressed (with her father around, rather awkward). And eventually we went, had a great time, a lot of laughs too. She even started talking about her history (violent breakup of her parents, including a lawsuit about domestic violence between them, which seems to be raging still), herself and her future plans etc etc.

 

But we went to a bar afterwards, where a party from mutual friends was going on. And she more or less ignored me all night, seemingly avoiding being around me. I went over 2-3 times, she was always laughing and talking, but then she moved around with her friends each time, and i wouldn't see her again.

 

I have a tendency to overthink things, but i'd just like to ask: what would i make of this? "Interested, but just not enough"?

I'm aware of the red flags at any rate ...

[Tayla]

plan differently... sounds like she is a bit too social when out on a date. She probably is not well versed in etiquette when out. Lessons learned. Have you spoken with her since? I'd be more direct and share your viewpt.