amelia99 Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 Hi New on this forum. My story: My ex boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me,so obviously I dumped him. He was not even good at covering his tracks because: 1) One day,he sent an email to many of his contacts (including me and his parents) and accidentaly cc'ed the mail adress of an escort agency. The adress was so dodgy that I googled it and it was what I thought When I questionned him as to why he had them in his mail contacts,he told me some fake story about his email adress being hacked...didnt believed him but back then I had no further proof so I let it go(in my mind he saved their mail adress because he was a client),except that the agency was based in London where we live and the escorts are asian (I'm myself half asian,and he dated few asian girls before me..but I honestly didnt know this then). 2)He added on facebook the girls he cheated with . I was wondering how and when he'd met all these girls as he was adding regularly new female "friends".He told me they were "old friends",or "coworkers" but again was intrigued as to why many were asians.I decided to contact one of his new fb friend (actually was a thai ladyboy..no jokes).and she/he told me they met on POF,he told her he was single and looking for a "relationship". Mystery solved about how he met all his new fb friends,there was more than a dozens like her. I confronted him and he could just admit it with all these evidences.He told me cheated because he doubted our relationship. But the thing is he s pestering since I dumped him, sending me pathetic text (now I blocked his number) and emails asking me to forgive me,and telling me that these girls were gross and ugly and regretted sleeping with them I know I should not care about him anymore,or even waste more of my time because he is a scumbag but I'm fuc..king angry. I loved him and 4 years of my life were wasted with him. I dont like the idea that he could do this and get away like that Anyone ever get even with their cheating ex? Or has ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 Well, obviously if you really wanted to hurt him you would screw his best friend.... but i don't know, isn't that kind of revenge just as toxic to both sides? Bitterness just holds you back from moving on with your own life, just have the confidence in yourself to know that his punishment is that he lost your love 3 Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 The best revenge is to show him that you live better without him. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 The best revenge is to show him that you live better without him. ahhh that one is for when you get dumped? But hey, why not do that too Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 The best revenge is to never acknowledge him. Your silence is killing him. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sambolini Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 The best revenge is to never acknowledge him. Your silence is killing him. I agree with this. My ex wife had an affair, and I divorced her. I was going to file, but she had to beat me to the punch (which is fine, it saved me the $300 filing fee!). I got served, and I didn't contact her. Later that night, she sent me a snarky email saying "I went ahead and filed. I just wanted to let you know so you didn't waste money filing since I already did it." I still didn't respond. Three days later a mutual friend told me that she told her that she was "freaking out" because I didn't respond. And when I finally did, I was nice and cordial and all business. And I had lawyered up. To this day, I ignore her unless I absolutely have to. If she gets bitchy about something stupid, I ignore it. I don't even look at her unless I have to. Her existence means nothing. I don't say anything bad about her to our daughter, I'm nice and pleasant to her new husband (I genuinely like the guy), and I don't involve myself in her life in any way. To this day she still looks sad whenever I have to see her. That's her choice. Give them the gift of your absence. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 Anyone ever get even with their cheating ex? Back in high school, a girl cheated on her boyfriend (one of my closest friends). She made out with a senior. We got her brother to let us into their house while she was out and we put itching powder in her underwear drawer. As others have pointed out, the best revenge is silence and moving on with your life. Immature revenge is best left to the immature. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 Call and tell them you've contracted an STD.. and you've not been with anyone since you broke up. Strike some fear for a bit. Also, can make things rough for his partner (accusations will start flying!) but that's all a bit vengeful and dramatic. I just ignore them for life. No coming back from that. Gone for good. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 Oh dear...4 wasted years...what a fool he is. That's a lot of time to invest in a relationship. Your done with him now....but you could always let your mutual friends, his friends and family know why you guys are over..you know..the ladyboys. Just do in in passing. ☺ Link to post Share on other sites
Seguso Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 This happened with me; my boyfriend sleeping with ladyboy esorts, as well. My boyfriend even said everything yours did, as well, right from doubting the relationship to feeling disgusted with ladyboy sex. I don't choose to even consider that this may be the case. I simply do not want to put myself at risk of being hurt again. The ladyboy thing really ****ed with me; it messed with my self-confidence but it's getting better now with the distance I put between us. Keep on ignoring him. You deserve better. He can choose to be stuck at where he made his "mistakes" - but just make sure it's just him left there and you are actively moving on. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymeaker Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 Yes I did get even with a lover. He was so busy enjoying his time and going on holidays and week-ends with his mates, I never interfered or gave him any grief. When I decided to go on my holiday he just had to ignore me as soon as I was out of the country. The last time he did this was when I went to Hawaii, but he had just had a couple of weeks in Chiang Mai, in Thailand with the boys, he loved keeping in contact with me, sending me pics and also the 'I miss you' messages. I did not understand why he suddenly became so jelous. Anyway, it really was the last time he would ignore me. He even set me up on Facebook messenger to stay in contact with him. I did, as soon as i arrived in Hawaii. Two days later no word from him. So I wrote and told him. He used Facebook Messenger to tell me to get lost (after 11 years of being in a relationship). I never read the reply until I returned. I am so pleased I ignored him back. I never responded, text, emailed or called I just left it. Three months later his so called Football team had reached a Grand Final and lost. It was that moment I realised he deserved a Facebook Message and a text message. The text went along the lines of 'I hope your football team and their loss hurt you as much as you hurt me' applause required, sash required, time to post on your fony fake Facebook page. I am LMFAO. It worked because he replied 'Fair Enough, glad you are happy. ' Yes I sure was happy and I never looked back. I do not need emotional blackmail and jelousy just because I am taking a holiday. If your man does not show you any respect then he is a loser. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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