A new Teacher

[Useyourname]

I'm currently in High School third grade, and at the beginning of this year I've got a new teacher that's lecturing a subject in my class.

I didn't really notice it at first but I think I'm having a crush on her, she's really smart, funny, interesting, sweet and has a soothing voice.

She's really young, somewhere around 23 to 24, and I'm 17. I'm the best in her class, I talk with her a lot during the class and it's easily observed that she keeps most of her attention to me.

Also I think I've developed some kind of a friendship with her. I'm quite a charismatic person and don't have any fear talking to girls or anything, but this is a bit different.

I'm only seeing her every second week till the end of December.

So my question is do you think that I could do anything about this because I would really regret not trying to do anything?

I rarely meet such people even outside my school. Any professors or teachers with an advice would be helpful.

[JustGettingBy]

If she's still there after you have both:

 

a) graduated

 

and

 

b) turned 18

 

I'd say go for it.

 

Edit: As in go for it after both of these have happened, of course. Otherwise, you'd be getting her into legal trouble.

Edited October 31, 2015 by JustGettingBy
adding thing after "edit"

[isabellemarss]

Don't wanna burst your bubble, but it's really risky if you made a move on her now. You could both get into trouble if you developed a romantic relationship - especially her, since she's expected to be professional. The age gap isn't that much, but acting on your crush wouldn't be a wise decision given the current circumstances. Besides, what if she doesn't reciprocate? That could spell a very awkward situation for the both of you in class, not to mention the emotional distress you'd be going through that could affect your performance in class.

 

What you could do, though, is tell her how much you appreciate and admire her as a teacher. Tell her that you've learned so much in her class and that you look up to her. Teachers greatly appreciate a grateful student who prove to them that their efforts aren't wasted. They're still human, after all, and teaching isn't a walk in the park. I think your teacher would be touched to know that her best student really appreciates her.

 

If you're gonna tell her how you really feel, wait until your class ends and your grades are released. That would be a whole lot better. Obviously it's still risky because although she's not your teacher anymore, she's still a teacher in the school you go to. It depends on your school policy on teacher-student relationships and the law in your area. The safest option would be to wait until you graduate to make a move.

 

I empathize with you a lot. I was almost exactly in the same situation as you several months ago. I liked my young, intelligent, passionate, attractive professor, and I was the best student in class whom he paid a lot of attention to as well. I never made a move on him, though, because he had a long-time girlfriend.

[Useyourname]

I'm aware of the Student-Teacher relationships law, I thought I would at least form a friendship with her and later, because I think she'll be leaving the school to work somewhere else, or when I leave High School I can wait a year and a half for that I would make a move.

 

Lately I've been meeting a lot of teachers and professors while hiking and mountain climbing with groups and I get along with them quite nicely. I don't think I would create an awkward situation with her because I can already see she likes me (not in a romantic way, just as a person), but if she doesn't I would be happy that I at least tried.