Mestizalfter Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 Okay, i have been with my Girlfriend for almost 2 years now, im 21 and shes 22 , we are both living with our parents, and we are about 45 mins away from each other, i don't quite have my license yet. currently on my Learners. Mum has no problem supervising me as i drive up there. and my gf has no problem coming down where i live. and we will start to look for a house to move in with each other when i get my license and we both have some decent income all is perfect right? Wrong! The only problem is my dad dislikes her, the first few months, he spoke to her, got to know her, ate dinner together with the family when she came over. Now he eats dinner by himself in the lounge while mum, the girlfriend and i eat in the dinning room , and now spends all his time in the bedroom, and completely ignores her. I spoke to Him asking whats his deal multiple times, he told me that she will take me for all i have when we and is manipulating me with gifts and sex. (as it happened to him) and thinks its a carbon copy. of what he had. (and still angry about it ) My girlfriend no longer comes down to my house as she feels unwelcome and uncomfortable. and i understand that. luckily her family likes me. we are only bf and gf and we shouldn't be sleeping with each other he said to me. And to break up with her and keep looking. I also over heard dad talking to mum saying" if they get married i wont be attending the wedding" (like really who says that knowing that im they're only child) the only reason i can put together of him acting this way is. that im an only child, 3 or 4 years ago i hung out every time with my mum and dad( i didn't have a lot of friends) when we had days of together. And now my days off go to my spending time with my gf. then i would come home to and receive the silent treatment. and ignored Recently, he accuse me and mum doing nothing around the house, she cooks dinner for him every-night, does the laundry and we take turns washes the dishes, i take out the bins for the garbage collector , take care of the garden. And as we speak he his sitting down watching tv. in his defense he is tired, and claims that he will have the house spotless if we wernt here. ( didnt happen when me and mum came back from a holiday visiting my grand parents) we are blood and i love Him , but my respect and love for him is disappearing fast whats your views on this? Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 What do you and your gf do for a living? Do you work or are you still in school? Did something happen that caused your dad to go off your gf? Sounds like he was open and accepting of her at first and then something about her alarmed him. I feel like there is more to this story. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
truthtripper Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 You are an adult now. Your dad should not be dictating to you who you choose as a gf. He is being selfish and is projecting his fears onto you. He should let you find your own way in life. It sounds like your dad is a controlling person, which means he has some insecurities he needs to sort out for himself. The quicker you can move out of home, the better for your peace of mind. It's not healthy to live with a parent who tries to sabotage your freedom. It's good you have a supportive mum. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 Time to cut the cord and be your own man! I couldn't imagine being so intertwined and dependant on my parents at that age. Your dad is acting jealous and manipulative - but you are still living with them so he has you under his thumb. Get your license, move, live your own life. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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