Lovehurts17 Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I'm 27 shes 26. Here's a little history. I was together with my ex for 9 years she broke it off with me because i cheated on her emotionally(texting). I made a huge mistake i'm not sure why i did it. We took a break for 8 months (FWB). I found out she started seeing another guy i convinced her to break it off with the guy and give us a try. It worked! but she broke it off a few months in because she said the feelings are gone. We tried it again and i thought things were better, we started spending weekends together, going out, she started calling me nicknames it was like we were a real couple then out of the blue she broke it off again. This time she said she wanted to experience single life. She broke it off 1 months ago. She said we could be friends but nothing more. We were each others first love. We were texting after the break up (initiated by both partys). A couple weeks ago i decided on NC after a couple of days she texted me asking how i was i responded and we have been exchanging texts everyday since. I have changed since we broke up ( going gym, found new hobbies, Meeting new people) but i still love her so I figured what the heck i'll ask her out for coffee to my surprise she said yes. When i asked her out for coffee we agreed on a date and time but she cancelled when she found out i wasn't free for the rest of the week she even offered to meet up later in the night we ended up meeting a few days later when i was free. We chatted for a hour, i even caught her checking me out. This is when things got weird she asked what i was up to and i told her i was working on myself and i have never felt better, she started tearing up. does this mean she still has feelings? we left shortly after. She has been acting different since we last met. giving me short texts with no conversation pieces and not responding until the next day. I want to ask her out on a second date this time something more personal and show her a little affection or is this too soon? or should i wait for her to reach out. Link to post Share on other sites
Hyperfocal Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 I want to ask her out on a second date this time something more personal and show her a little affection or is this too soon? I've read the mess you describe. So there isn't a clear answer, perhaps tell her you are going to go do (whatever, hiking, etc.) and allow the invitation to join you, but it's not scripted like a date, it's more like "I'm hiking on... you can come along." That's the best I can come up with. Good luck. does this mean she still has feelings? Your statement causing the leaky eyes makes you seem responsible, increases your value. Having a split with you hurts her more after you saying that, than if you'd said you've been "Doing nothing, drinking, etc." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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