Hyperfocal Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 So we were together for 10 weeks. We have been apart for 6 wks now. I was dumped for "emotional dryness," with a component of fear of attachment on her end. Very pleasant split with weekly emails from her. Below are some recent snippets from her emails. We are both 35. I feel that she is taking her emails to me so seriously that she may be considering a return. She has not been dating at all, is in depressive, hermit type of state currently (as have I been too). Her statements throughout are an appreciation of my kindness/character, yet question of compatibility... 1) Ideas as to whether you feel she is prepping to return? 2) Do you feel this will turn into greater hints (suggestion while keeping pride) or just a clear declaration of intent by her? Thx, ___ Email snippets below: Regardless of your admonition for me not to feel bad about your stress, hearing what's been going on with you makes me want to run to your house and take care of you. Maybe I could make you food with lots of garlic. I was thinking about you a lot last night and felt the desire to reach out and connect with you. I hope that's ok. I'm not sure if hearing from me is good or bad for you, but for me silence is the worst. How are you doing? Are you still doing the *** work schedule? Are **** and **** <kids> doing well, any good stories? What are you doing with the colder weather? My lesson for this week is to find comfort with being uncomfortable ...I am spending a lot of time contemplating my fears and insecurities, and should be ready to respond to your questions by Thanksgiving. I didn't mean to suggest that it was inappropriate for you to be looking on Match. It was sad for me, yes, but completely appropriate and even a good thing. It is mysterious to me that I decided to open that particular junk folder on that day and that you were in the subject line; so many things had to happen for me to notice this. I did mean to suggest anything negative by it. You are the best thing I ever found on Match; I certainly wish you luck If you would rather wait for my questions email, that is fine, I just thought it would be nice to visit with you a bit. <Concluding with the word “Visit,” sounds to me like email visit more than anything> I am thinking good thoughts about you and thank you for all the kindness you have always shown me. Link to post Share on other sites
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