AndrewJ Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 A situation of infactuation from me led to me distancing myself from all peolple i know associated with my obbsession. Now each day i seem to not trust a soul, overanalysing situations and freinds. I have chosen to distance myself to save and help myself grow a s a human, however i feel from doing this im denying the problem. I feel that space would give me perspective it seems space has now made me untrustfull of all that i once called freinds. Any suggestions on how to tell the difference between a true freind and a tosser, Loneliness is hell but sociallising with twats is hell as well. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 Most people require a bit of space from other humans from time to time, but turning into a recluse won't do much to assist your personal growth. Still, if you're planning on embarking on a bit of solitude, you may as well read the poem "If" by Rudyard Kipling...if you haven't already. It's about being the best you can be, treating others with respect and not dwelling too much on life's disappointments and other people's weaknesses. We all have our weak moments, after all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AndrewJ Posted May 24, 2005 Author Share Posted May 24, 2005 Lindya, Where would i find a copy of that poem? Im not going inside too deeply. Just a bit scattered with who i trust , will time give me perspective? The amount of so caled freinds is delpleteing, but i feel that in my semi deluded state that there peresence was only detrimental to my growth Link to post Share on other sites
Author AndrewJ Posted May 24, 2005 Author Share Posted May 24, 2005 Lindya, Nice poem Any other selected redaings?????? Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 Originally posted by AndrewJ Any suggestions on how to tell the difference between a true freind and a tosser, Loneliness is hell but sociallising with twats is hell as well. Depends - what are you looking for from a friendship? There are different types of friendships. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AndrewJ Posted May 24, 2005 Author Share Posted May 24, 2005 Pocky, The freinds i have hung with for the last 10 years seem to enflict or bathe in deceit and dishonesty. That view is my own standing from a distnce. They all seem to be trying to do out each other in every way possible. It seems like a soap opera of who shines the best (look at me). Im a humble soul, i dont subscribe to this soap opera. My content humbleness is being judged hevily by concience at night or nay other time when i am by myself. A freind to me is one u could tell a sceret to and not have it sprayed all over the alley walls next time you grovell in soap land Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 Originally posted by AndrewJ Lindya, Nice poem Any other selected redaings?????? It would do well to read the poems by " David Whyte", just google his name and you will get all the poems. If you liked "If" then I would also suggest reading the poem "Abraham Lincoln's Letter to His Son's Teacher " , it is also a good one. Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 Originally posted by AndrewJ Pocky, The freinds i have hung with for the last 10 years seem to enflict or bathe in deceit and dishonesty. That view is my own standing from a distnce. They all seem to be trying to do out each other in every way possible. It seems like a soap opera of who shines the best (look at me). Im a humble soul, i dont subscribe to this soap opera. My content humbleness is being judged hevily by concience at night or nay other time when i am by myself. A freind to me is one u could tell a sceret to and not have it sprayed all over the alley walls next time you grovell in soap land I think I can fully understand what you are meaning to say. It takes a lot to find someone in this world whom you can trust, lot of these so called friends are waiting to stab in the back and make a feast out of it. I would suggest clean slate appraoch and then take time and make new friends. Of course what I say might not be idealistic but it is realistic. Link to post Share on other sites
Opium Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 In a friendship you have to give and recieve, it's just like any other type of relationship. I've had friends come and go and use me like a little pet. I give so much not because I want something in return but because it feels good to be wanted and needed. I've lost a lot of friends and to tell you the truth if they were truly my friends till this day we still be friends. I have this saying "People come into our lives for a purpose, once the purpose is served, they leave". If you feel you're being betrayed or lied to talk to them. Communication is the key to any relationship and if you just run and hide it shows them that their friendship meant nothing to you and it does cause it's obvious your posting about it... Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 Hey Opium, I fully agree with your signature, infact lots of times in LS I have said the same thing so I am kind of happy to see that again in your signature. Link to post Share on other sites
Opium Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 Thanks...I read somewhere and it caught my attention Link to post Share on other sites
Author AndrewJ Posted May 24, 2005 Author Share Posted May 24, 2005 Opium, It seems i can not comunicate with these freinds due to the "pack of wolves" feel. Chinese whispers snowballing out of control. I feel if i talk the walls will only grow higher and more scarred with conceit. The more i think about it the more i realise that 10 years of freindship really amounted to nothing golden. In regards to empathy. If one is to shine one must stay away from the cloudy skies, Any association it seems with my freinds has me spiralling down the well, where they are happy to keep me. Im not being arrogant but i have a life to live and its my right to live it the best i can Link to post Share on other sites
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