GTR King Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 Is match.com/Eharmony worth trying?? I am from the uk.... Been single since October 2013 after long term relationship... I have tried Oasis (No dates) Ok Cupid (No dates) POF (2 dates) Tinder (4 dates) POF (Joined in November 2013) all dates were in 2014 1st one we didn't click 2nd one we didn't click Tinder (Join in December 2014) 1st one we dated for 2 months (We didn't work out) 2nd one we dated for 1.5 months (Very nearly became official & slept round hers no sex) 3rd one I wasn't feeling it... 4th one she stood me up.... When I go out in town/clubbing (Went last night) Most of the girls that talk to me say your sexy I wanna **** you/have sex (I am not into that at all) I was just wondering if i will get better luck on match.com/eharmony.. joined match but not paid yet.... I see different girls to that are on pof/tinder etc... Only few that are from free sites Link to post Share on other sites
J21 Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 I'm sure there are a few people that only have match or EH, but for the most part you're not gonna get a WHOLE new pool of candidates with like 500 more people you are interested. You'll pretty much find the same people on match/EH from OKC, POF, etc. They are spreading out to increase the odds just as much as you are. If paying isn't much of a big deal to you, then go for it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 over the age of 50, no. just make sure you run every profile of any person who contacts you through a google search to make sure they're not a catfish. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted November 1, 2015 Author Share Posted November 1, 2015 (edited) I am 25.... Paying not much of big deal to me but don't wanna waste $10.81/#6.99 a month if will get no dates etc.... Also someone said why don't I try 1st dates channel 4 9pm Thursday's It's tv show in uk where u watch people go on 1st date in a restaurant. I don't think i wanna do tv dating will be scary etc... I do feel that one day I will fine the right girl one day... but want someone to share my life with etc I am getting to the stage where my clubbing days are getting boring... Edited November 1, 2015 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 When I go out in town/clubbing (Went last night) Most of the girls that talk to me say your sexy I wanna **** you/have sex (I am not into that at all) If that is your experience with women in real life, then I would say, no doubt, try every dating avenue that you can possibly get your hands on. Pay for every one that you can afford. Especially OLD is based on physical, so if you are an attractive man, you'll do well. Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 ime eharmony is S-L-O-W... it takes a long time to get from first email to date, and you don't get many matches. match is far better for finding/securing dates, but almost everyone i saw on match was also on okcupid, at the very least. eharmony... very hard to tell if they are on other sites because you don't get to view profiles unless they are matches. i found eharmony men 'better' and more serious, but it resulted in very few dates and the whole process wastes a lot of time, especially if you determine you're not a match. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
True Gent Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 Like yourself I've been single since October 2013 after a very long term relationship. I'm also not into just putting it about, that really has no appeal to me at all. I've been on match since early 2014, had countless dates now. I just haven't found anyone I click with. Many of the same people are on match and POF in my experience. The thing I don't like with match is that your profile is inundated with activity until you start paying. Then the interest in your profile dramatically drops once you pay up. I've cancelled my subs a few times and went back again and it's the same story every time. Also when viewing members currently online you have to wade through loads of people who live miles away. I don't find the search options much use either, it's all of the low activity profiles that come up in searches. You could say I have a very cynical view of match.com and it's true I do. Try it for yourself and see how you get on. You'll go on dates for sure, but I'm not sure how much this OLD lifestyle really works. It's too shallow and disposable IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted November 1, 2015 Author Share Posted November 1, 2015 (edited) JuneJulySeptember: Don't happen all the time (Did happen last night) but i don't do one night stands etc... want long term.... I am ok looking and I can talk to girls fine.... loads of girls (Who have boyfriends) say I am good looking & will fine someone.... newmoon: thanks for advice/info True Gent: So you got more dates off match than the free ones??? my match.com dose have loads of winks etc but portably get less (if i join/pay) I Only go as far as 25/30 miles max when dating someone... searched for people online near me & only 3 popped up on match.com (So not sure if it's worth paying to use it) as not enough people in my area Edited November 1, 2015 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
Philosopher Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 (edited) I have tried OkCupid, Match.com and Eharmony so have some experience of all three. In my experience Match.com tends to have a slightly older average age compared with OkCupid. Quite a few of the same faces were there as on OkCupid though. I generally found the reply rate to first messages was lower when compared with OkCupid, however more of those conversations would lead to dates. So the ratio of dates to women I messaged was probably about the same as on OkCupid. As True Gent mentioned when you start paying you will suddenly get much less interest. Match.com does however tell you when someone was last online, so you have an idea of whom is active on the site. The dates I got from Match.com where generally no worse or better than with OkCupid. Eharmony seems to have an older average age than both OkCupid and Match, at least where I live. The women on the site generally are different than those on OkCupid and Match.com. The site however does not tell when they were last online, meaning you have little way of telling whom is active on site. That and the messaging process being quite lengthy, means overall in my experience you get less dates compared with OkCupid and Match.com. I have only been on three dates from Eharmony so far, so it probably too early for me to say whether the dates overall are any better than OkCupid or Match.com. Overall I would say paying is not really worth it, particularly at your age. Women your age seemed to be more on OkCupid and less on Match.com and Eharmony from my experience. Edited November 1, 2015 by Philosopher 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 When I was active with online dating, I was on eHarm and Match and did not use any of the free sites. So, there are women who are only on paying sites who are not also on the free sites. It never even occurred to me to go on a free site mostly because I thought that those who paid were more serious about finding a relationship. However, a girlfriend of mine who was on Match and the free sites (Ok Cupid and POF, I believe) said the guys she saw were on all of them. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 Hey OP, keep a few things in mind: # - The "paid sites" want to make their #'s look big. They keep people on there who's memberships have lapsed, who signed up "for free" and then never paid, etc. So that's why you see a lot of crossover between the paids and unpaid sites. Eharmony - I've used both match and eharmony. Eharmony is a waste, in my opinion, until you're completely sure about what's important and what's not - because that's what they base their matches on. If you haven't had a bad relationship or a lot of dating experience, or don't know yourself well - it sucks - plus they're numbers are low - after like 2-3 months on there they kept telling me to expand my search area - I was at 50-75 miles already! I live in a where that spread includes 10-15 million people at least. Seriously? Since they control the process you can't "stretch" beyond what you may normally like/unlike and honestly - most people need to be physically attracted to their partners, and you get a lot of physically unattractive people. Plus, they tend to be more "religious" than on match. Match is better because you can control the search, the pace, and results. I've been on there 3 times and never had a problem with getting dates, and I'm not a "hot guy" - but not too bad. However, I'm kind of getting off of dating a bit. Match does have a problem though with spam - i.e. people setting up fake accounts and then sending out winks, likes, etc from their free accounts. Overall, I say it's worth it - but keep those things in mind. Plus, if you're not that experience, or you don't have a big friend pool, it's a great way just to meet people and force yourself to get out there and gain experience. Both of my previous LTR's I met not online, but the experiences before and after each have helped me figure out more about myself, what I want, what I won't deal with, how to be more true to my gut. Link to post Share on other sites
scubasteve Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 Heck I pay 7.95 a month for my eharmony service... it's like on and off Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted November 2, 2015 Author Share Posted November 2, 2015 I would use match.com but there is only like 3/4 people online in my area at a time... POF/Tinder have loads more users online... Ok cupid has a bit less than POF/Tinder... I do like the match.com iPhone app way better than POF One.... Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 I've tried all of them at one point or another. I rarely set up an official profile on more one at a time if only because I saw the same pool of men pandering on multiple sites at once. Some see this as casting a wide net while others see it as a possible red flag. I once went on a date with man I met on Match. It was pleasant and we ended up chatting about our OLD experiences. During the conversation he embarrassingly confessed that he couldn't remember which site we met on! When I asked how many sites he was on he laughed and said he couldn't remember. Red flag. I was immediately turned off. Regardless, I've done both eHarmony and Match as a paid member and both have their pros and cons. I will agree that eHarmony takes much longer to meet someone or even communicate outside the site itself. You also have no control over who view and once you've answered that huge questionnaire, you can never go back and change your answers if only to expand your prospect list. It can get quite frustrating. In the end, no matter what site you choose OLD is a game of odds and looks tend to be paramount for any kind of success. It doesn't matter what site you choose you'll always find questionable characters with shady agendas. Some of my creepiest experiences were with men on eHarmony of all places. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted November 2, 2015 Author Share Posted November 2, 2015 (edited) Thanks for the advice everyone.... eHarmony too expensive wouldn't pay more than #10 a month to use it... Match.com happy with #6.99 (1st 6 months) then #9.99 after but there isn't enough users in my area that use it so no point me joining match.com if there was more users I would happily use match... So will have to stick to POF/Tinder for now.. OkCupid not many users in area but will keep it for now... I Live in a town (If I lived in a big city I would get more users etc) Edited November 2, 2015 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted November 5, 2015 Share Posted November 5, 2015 I think it depends on your area but in general OLD is a numbers game anyway IMO. When I tried Match for a month I saw the same people on there and only got 1 date from there. On OKC I can tons of messages and likes per day and I get so many dates I don't have enough time to go on them all. The point I'm making is there is a stereo type you are getting something better on a paid site, people are more serious, etc. I have NOT found that to be the case. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted November 5, 2015 Author Share Posted November 5, 2015 (edited) OKCupid hardly any messages pof messaged most of the girls in my area already messaged... tinder still using it... I do get replies not loads but will find the right one soon Edited November 5, 2015 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
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