xpaperxcutx Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 So everybody was out in costumes and partying for Halloween, and I chose to stay home and finish up my Ethics homework. My birthday is also coming up in 2 days, but I will be working that day and maybe look to re-join my local gym. I don't know what is wrong with me. I have no social life. Nobody texts me to ask me how I am. I am always the one initiating texts and even when they responded, none of them wished to continue on having a conversation. I don't want to date because I really just want to work on myself. But I just prefer to stay with my dog and watch Asian dramas. What is wrong with me? Link to post Share on other sites
NoMoreJerks Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 Feeling exactly the same way -- except for the bday thing (my birthday is not til March). But I don't think there's anything wrong with you necessarily.. I mean, I have made a lot of effort with friends, etc., and they often tell me they are too busy to have a social life, then I find out they are with another mutual friend, etc. Very disappointing. Oh well. I try to engage in activities where people who have mutual interests come together (photography group, for example), and it's not necessarily going to lead to any friendships, though if it does, more than happy to build a new social circle. That way, I have the company but not have to worry about why people are doing what they are doing, etc. At this stage in my life (I am 32), I don't have the time or energy for these stupid games that get you down and f*ck with your self-esteem. I think a lot of people (my friends, my ex's friends) are jealous of my achievements and my looks. Don't get me wrong, I personally don't think I've achieved much, but the outside view is very different than what someone who lacks self-esteem thinks people see... That is my conclusion. I don't think I am a disagreeable person. I like having light conversations, joking around, etc., so it's not like I give off the impression that I'm a snob, or that I look down upon others. My ex who dumped me and has gone cold turkey on me, dressed up for Halloween, even though when I had suggested it last year and this year (before the breakup), he never seemed enthusiastic about it, wanted to avoid the topic/change the subject, etc. It hurts. I wanted us to do that together. Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 What is wrong with me? You're in a rut. It's a "comfortable" pain when you know what you're doing isn't addressing you problems, but it's simply easier to stay where you are. Change is scary, requires effort. Often you spend a lot of energy and don't really appear to get anywhere at first. My advice? Pick one action, the smallest one you think you can commit to and DO IT. Write a list for yourself of the areas of your life you'd like to improve and just start chipping away at it slowly. It's the only way I've found to make any real progress. Link to post Share on other sites
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