Best girl ever, don't feel sexual attraction. Crawling Back to LoveShack

[xxoo]

The problem is that you have all of these women available to you, but you really don't want any of them. You need them for the ego boost, but you don't actually want them. If they are attractive, they are unbearable. And if they are bearable, you're not attracted. Either way: no want.

[RedRobin]

If she is so put together, as you say, she wouldn't need a guy old enough to be her dad to fund her dreams. She would fund her own. And find backing that doesn't require lukewarm sexual interest (or any sexual interest, really) by a man of any age... If backing were required.

 

Like this one... Who did it solo.

 

 

 

Laura Dekker: Dutch girl, 16, becomes youngest to sail around the world on her own | Daily Mail Online

 

 

I am not 16, but I am planning my own circumnavigation. With or without a partner, but am not waiting to find one... Have been certified to charter sailboats. My personal opinion (having grown up sailing, and sailed most of my life... ). Cats are like the condos of the ocean. Few respectable blue water sailors choose those. Just sayin'.

[loveflower]

If she is so put together, as you say, she wouldn't need a guy old enough to be her dad to fund her dreams. She would fund her own. And find backing that doesn't require lukewarm sexual interest (or any sexual interest, really) by a man of any age... If backing were required.

 

Like this one... Who did it solo.

 

 

 

Laura Dekker: Dutch girl, 16, becomes youngest to sail around the world on her own | Daily Mail Online

 

 

I am not 16, but I am planning my own circumnavigation. With or without a partner, but am not waiting to find one... Have been certified to charter sailboats. My personal opinion (having grown up sailing, and sailed most of my life... ). Cats are like the condos of the ocean. Few respectable blue water sailors choose those. Just sayin'.

 

Ditto..

 

I booked a flight and rented a car and then visited most of the famous spots of the eastern provinces for a week all by self this summer.

 

Last summer, I went to Cancun all by myself as well. On my way to the airport, I tried to practice french with the shuttle bus driver, after learning I am going alone, the driver said 'if I knew I would go with you'. I said wtf to that in my mind. do I know you? can't people just do things by themselves? do I have to be with someone, even that person is as a turn-off as the driver? and that shuttle bus driver said I am sexy and refused to let me off the bus (I was the only one in the bus) unless I give him my number.

[joseb]

I am not 16, but I am planning my own circumnavigation. With or without a partner, but am not waiting to find one... Have been certified to charter sailboats.

 

Cool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Odinani]

This reads like a work of fiction.

[loveweary11]

That is MAHOGANY!!!

 

What's Mahogany?

 

Is that the name of another cat?

[loveweary11]

If she is so put together, as you say, she wouldn't need a guy old enough to be her dad to fund her dreams. She would fund her own. And find backing that doesn't require lukewarm sexual interest (or any sexual interest, really) by a man of any age... If backing were required.

 

Like this one... Who did it solo.

 

 

 

Laura Dekker: Dutch girl, 16, becomes youngest to sail around the world on her own | Daily Mail Online

 

 

I am not 16, but I am planning my own circumnavigation. With or without a partner, but am not waiting to find one... Have been certified to charter sailboats. My personal opinion (having grown up sailing, and sailed most of my life... ). Cats are like the condos of the ocean. Few respectable blue water sailors choose those. Just sayin'.

 

Dekker was awesome!! I was glued to that. So many people said she couldn't do it. She shouldn't do it.

 

I knew she could after reading a lot about her. She is a very, very able person.I'm a huge fan.

 

As to the cat vs mono debate, this probably isn't the place for it, but you are most likely thinking of "condomarans", a term used for bloated, luxury laden cats that can't sail.

 

That's not what I have.

 

I have an extremely lightweight, narrow hull design that is so easily pushed that a single 30hp engine (on a 50' cat) will push it along at 8 knots! I has dagger boards, so it will kick butt sailing upwind, pointing like any mono but faster.

 

Additionally, boards and rudders, as well as props, retract from the water entirely, leaving nothing for the boat to trip over in worst case scenario storms. Literally, it should skate around like a water bug on the surface in all sorts of directions in that case. You retract everything, stow all sails and ride it out below.

 

Under sail, similar cats can outpace single figure wind speeds in light air and she'll easily do 20+ knots in a good wind.

 

So no... not at all what you are saying. Your opinion is dated, I'm afraid.

 

They used to use horse and carriage tol, but eventually people moved to horseless carrige.

[sandylee1]

I have been sifting though the pile for this whole time, constantly going through girls.

 

I finally found the ideal woman for me. But... I'm not sexually attracted to tall blondes.

 

What do I do?

 

Do I have to give this up because I don't feel much sexual chemistry? Or... do I sort of force my way through it because literally every other thing about her is perfection?

 

If you're not sexually attracted to her... then she's not perfect for you. You are quite fussy and that's your right.. but from the way you describe her..... she'd be able to get a guy very easily.

 

Let her go as she's not THE ONE for YOU.

[loveweary11]

Ditto..

 

I booked a flight and rented a car and then visited most of the famous spots of the eastern provinces for a week all by self this summer.

 

Last summer, I went to Cancun all by myself as well. On my way to the airport, I tried to practice french with the shuttle bus driver, after learning I am going alone, the driver said 'if I knew I would go with you'. I said wtf to that in my mind. do I know you? can't people just do things by themselves? do I have to be with someone, even that person is as a turn-off as the driver? and that shuttle bus driver said I am sexy and refused to let me off the bus (I was the only one in the bus) unless I give him my number.

 

We all have different preferences in life. I prefer to have someone to share my travels with...to talk about the things we are experiencing. It's not the same to me to see something by myself. There is a whole other level to life when I'm sharing it with someone.

[loveweary11]

The problem is that you have all of these women available to you, but you really don't want any of them. You need them for the ego boost, but you don't actually want them. If they are attractive, they are unbearable. And if they are bearable, you're not attracted. Either way: no want.

 

Man... you really know how to get to the root of things.

 

I was just thinking the same thing today.

 

I recently arrived in a part of Florida. I went online and got a new crop of girls to talk to. The subject of this thread was one of them. There are some others. Been meeting with them, etc,.. but am just letting them slide. Not getting back to them, etc.

 

I am not sure what it is, but I'm burnt out.

 

Tired of meeting girls and whatever.

 

Happy relaxing and working. But... still want someone to share it with.

 

To those that said I'm all over the place, well, duh... I'm confused. Why else would I be on this thread? If I could figure myself or these women out, I wouldn't be here asking questions, would I?

[Odinani]

I've not read much of this thread as it's not clear if it's fiction or not. If it's meant to be real life, why would a 40 year old OP have a harem of model like 22 year old girls throwing themselves at him? And this bevy of beauties young enough to be his daughters are somehow not attractive enough for him or something? And the OP somehow still has the time and inclination to be posting voraciously on LS?

 

And there is a yacht involved in this somehow?

 

Or is this the script for the next James Bond movie starring Daniel Craig?

 

A few things are not adding up for me.

 

Man... you really know how to get to the root of things.

 

I was just thinking the same thing today.

 

I recently arrived in a part of Florida. I went online and got a new crop of girls to talk to. The subject of this thread was one of them. There are some others. Been meeting with them, etc,.. but am just letting them slide. Not getting back to them, etc.

 

I am not sure what it is, but I'm burnt out.

 

Tired of meeting girls and whatever.

 

Happy relaxing and working. But... still want someone to share it with.

 

To those that said I'm all over the place, well, duh... I'm confused. Why else would I be on this thread? If I could figure myself or these women out, I wouldn't be here asking questions, would I?

[loveweary11]

OK. I can roll with that.

 

Except... you are 40. You have had time to actually FORM your philosophy based on life experience.

 

I have no issue with your philosophy.

 

Just remember she hasn't had the life experience to create a solid philosophy.

 

As the older one, all I ask is that if you see that her desires no longer align with yours, that you do the right thing and let her go.

 

 

 

I know. I half expect that if this works, someday, she'll just decide she wants a new chapter and a change and will move on to that without me... or... will convince me to try the new chapter with her.

 

I accept this.

 

As strong as my writing style is, as much as I spend my work days telling everyone what to do, I am very, very easy going inside relationships. It's always 50/50 and a care very much about my partner's happiness and well being, even as far as to sacrifice my own.

 

So whatever is best for her is what will happen.

 

I see it like this: I could go do all this by myself, or I could share a time with someone of similar mindset. Later she may stay or may go, but I'll have had that time shared and in the end, that's good for both.

[katiegrl]

Holy.........I am 5'2" and I hate being short and believe that's my biggest shortcoming.

 

and now it's actually an attractive feature to some guys? wow...um...maybe I should stop whining about my height.

 

Hmmm.. "love" weary... "love" flower ... similar monikers (good sign!) she's the right height, both single.

 

Have you two been formally introduced? :bunny:

[loveweary11]

I've not read much of this thread as it's not clear if it's fiction or not. If it's meant to be real life, why would a 40 year old OP have a harem of model like 22 year old girls throwing themselves at him? And this bevy of beauties young enough to be his daughters are somehow not attractive enough for him or something? And the OP somehow still has the time and inclination to be posting voraciously on LS?

 

And there is a yacht involved in this somehow?

 

Or is this the script for the next James Bond movie starring Daniel Craig?

 

A few things are not adding up for me.

 

 

 

You're going to need to do a lot of remedial Loveweary reading.

 

I know you're new here.

 

My life doesn't add up to most people at first. It's a little hard to grasp. I'm pretty out there and live a way out there life.

 

Yet, I have the same problems in love as everyone else, so I hope to get helpful, constructive advice by posting my problems here.

 

Sadly, that only rarely happens. I do thank several of you for the help you have given over the years though.

 

It's partially advice I got here that makes me want to ignore my animal instincts and keep at it with her.

 

PS: Having a quiet night in alone tonight. Love shack is nice for that. Also, was off it fir months until this week.

Edited November 8, 2015 by loveweary11

[sandylee1]

What I don't get is why you'd even date a girl who isn't your type to begin with. I always dated guys 6 ft + and had no attraction to shorter guys. It would be crazy if I got with a 5ft 9 guy, then started saying he's perfect in every way...but I'm not attracted to short guys... so help!!

 

You can forgo the sex.. but what 22 year old hot blonde will be happy with that? I can't help thinking all these 7 + young ladies are after more than your body though.

[katiegrl]

I've not read much of this thread as it's not clear if it's fiction or not. If it's meant to be real life, why would a 40 year old OP have a harem of model like 22 year old girls throwing themselves at him? And this bevy of beauties young enough to be his daughters are somehow not attractive enough for him or something? And the OP somehow still has the time and inclination to be posting voraciously on LS?

 

And there is a yacht involved in this somehow?

 

Or is this the script for the next James Bond movie starring Daniel Craig?

 

A few things are not adding up for me.

 

LMAO .... hey Ordinani, didn't know you had such a wicked sense of humor!

 

Crack me up!

[Odinani]

LMAO .... hey Ordinani, didn't know you had such a wicked sense of humor!

 

Crack me up!

 

Hahahaha. Let's fly out and join him on his yacht! Or in his imagination. Or whatever it is.

[loveweary11]

Hahahaha. Let's fly out and join him on his yacht! Or in his imagination. Or whatever it is.

 

By now the majority of people here who are regulars do understand my life, as different as it is.

 

Your insinuating dishonesty only speaks to your own problems.

[Odinani]

By now the majority of people here who are regulars do understand my life, as different as it is.

 

Your insinuating dishonesty only speaks to your own problems.

 

I'm sure I'll get to know you, love

[katiegrl]

Hahahaha. Let's fly out and join him on his yacht! Or in his imagination. Or whatever it is.

 

Well way back when ...he did say he works (or worked) in the entertainment industry ... so your theory about the Bond movie may not be far off!

 

I do believe he has a boat though...

[katiegrl]

LW, giving you a hard time here, but seriously .... as another poster suggested, I do believe therapy might benefit you.

 

I believe you are sincere, and truly struggling, but what is glaringly obvious (and comes through in most of your threads)... is that you lack a certain *depth" that would allow you to connect with women beyond the superficial....

 

Wish you the best though....g'luck.

[katiegrl]

I think we have been fooled by OP.

 

Either OP's fake or this thread is fake. on another section, I happened to come across one of his replies, which 'he' mentioned he met someone online 20 years ago! 20 years ago the Internet was hardly just born. I don't think anyone can meet anybody on line back then!

 

He also contradicts himself a lot in his posts.

 

When we begin to call him out, he disappears for the rest of the thread...

 

I recall two instances where he did this, and I don't even follow most of his threads!

 

Maybe he just gets confused though.. who knows.

[loveweary11]

LW, giving you a hard time here, but seriously .... as another poster suggested, I do believe therapy might benefit you.

 

I believe you are sincere, and truly struggling, but what is glaringly obvious (and comes through in most of your threads)... is that you lack a certain *depth" that would allow you to connect with women beyond the superficial....

 

Wish you the best though....g'luck.

 

Honestly, what????

 

This ENTIRE thread is me saying I like someone way, way beyond the superficial and want to ignore my tendency to go for looks and you say I'm lacking depth??

 

This is what I'm trying to do here! To go for depth! And the majority says not to do it!

 

How, exactly, would "therapy" help? Useless.

 

There is nothing wrong with me on that level. I'm just working my way through the available women looking for a match.

 

I found a great one with depth, but her looks don't turn me on to the extent the short brunettes do,

 

I'm trying to get past that and go for non superficial.

 

Everyone here says not to.

 

If one were to listen to all of this conflicting information, one might very well need therapy afterward.

[loveweary11]

He also contradicts himself a lot in his posts.

 

When we begin to call him out, he disappears for the rest of the thread...

 

I recall two instances where he did this, and I don't even follow most of his threads!

 

Maybe he just gets confused though.. who knows.

 

It's hard not to get confused. Really unfriendly people come at you from all directions here mixed with a few nice ones.

 

It's very difficult to deal with.

 

If you are "called out" every time you ask for relationship advice, it's not very helpful anfd honestly, it's really upsetting!

 

Why should I have to provide my attackers with information they don't know (like how we met people online 20 years ago) when all I'm doing is asking for relationship advice???

 

Why???

 

And maybe it was 18 years ago. I don't know exactly when these things happened around 20 years ago, do you?

 

This... this is why I leave this forum.

 

The people are just awful, other than the few very, very helpful, nice ones.

Edited November 8, 2015 by loveweary11

[katiegrl]

Honestly, what????

 

This ENTIRE thread is me saying I like someone way, way beyond the superficial and want to ignore my tendency to go for looks and you say I'm lacking depth??

 

This is what I'm trying to do here! To go for depth! And the majority says not to do it!

 

How, exactly, would "therapy" help? Useless.

 

There is nothing wrong with me on that level. I'm just working my way through the available women looking for a match.

 

I found a great one with depth, but her looks don't turn me on to the extent the short brunettes do,

 

I'm trying to get past that and go for non superficial.

 

Everyone here says not to.

 

If one were to listen to all of this conflicting information, one might very well need therapy afterward.

 

No lw, you got it backwards.

 

If you actually possessed depth, the fact she isn't petite and brunette would not matter ...

 

Another poster said it earlier, but when you feel that chemistry...that emotional connection, someone who isn't typically your physical "type" ... BECOMES your type.

 

By mere virtue of the chemistry and "connection" you feel and share!

 

You cannot grasp this concept because you lack the necessary depth that would enable you to understand it!

 

You are all hung up on the fact she's not your "physical" type.

 

That, my dear, is shallow...no matter how you want to spin it.

 

From all appearances, you are incapable of getting past the superficial (her looks)...enough to feel "attracted to" her, so for the love of all things beautiful, let her go.

 

Since you click so well on a personsl level, perhaps she could be a good friend!

 

Cause as it stands now, that's all you got.

Edited November 8, 2015 by katiegrl