Husband addicted to chick flicks

[pondhawk]

Really. My husband is addicted to the Hallmark Channel, which is nothing but stories of the 20-something year old single women. Drives me nuts. It's so boring! Men are supposed to HATE chick flicks!

 

I question whether he watches it everyday (and I really mean EVERYDAY) for eye candy??

 

Men (or women who have men like this), I beg you...what is this about??

[Johnsmith1003]

I personally find them revolting and corny as all hell. Maybe he's longing to see something that they portray in you? Are you gritty, sarcastic? Maybe he wants a more feminine approach? Just a thought.

[Be_Strong]

Wow, I gotta say that is really odd. I can't imagine any man would sit through those movies for eye candy. There's so many other sources of much better eye candy that is instantly available and doesn't require investing hundreds of hours watching Hallmark movies.

[road]

I do not have any premium cable channels. Even with 200+ channels I often can not find anything good to watch.

 

 

I've seen some TCM movies so many times that I can not see them anymore. Same with History channel, etc.

 

 

So I watch Hallmark. Do not watch it for the babes. Simple story that is entertaining. They are not the romantic comedies of the 1930' and 40's. Not Harry Met Sally. But something I have never seen before. Fresh meat.

 

 

Also like to see the way they retread actors and actresses that have not done work in years.

 

 

Though Hallmark is the last thing that I check out. I mean I will stay with Fox news if I like the show they have on before trying Hallmark.

[MightyPen]

In all fairness, some chick flicks like Pitch Perfect or Trainwreck can be entertaining for both men and women. I'm not embarrassed to see a "quality" chick flick with my wife.

 

 

That being said, I would be surprised if Hallmark featured any "quality" chick flicks, and the idea of watching even one of those surely vomit-inducing clichéd estrogenfests (I'm making a lot of assumptions here) is more repulsive than nude pics of Chris Christie.

[Polar965]

I think that is kind of cute.

[T-16bullseyeWompRat]

I doubt its for the women. It's probably just a form of entertainment he happens to enjoy. I doubt there is any need to read into it more then that. Why does this bother you?

[Bufo]

Show him the scene from sleepless in Seattle where some girl is getting all weepy describing an old Cary Grant chick flick. Tom Banks and anothe male actor are giving each other the WTF looks and take it to another level by describing utter mayhem from the Dirty Dozen and pretending to be all weepy describing the slaughter of the Nazis and combat deaths of a few

Of the DIRTY Dozen. She immediately stops weeping about the chick flick.

 

Tell him that's how men are supposed to react to chick flicks.

[gsryan1204]

I doubt its for the women, he could find that stuff on the internet...

 

I actually enjoy chick flicks too, they are usually pretty funny and maybe he just enjoys the feel good story! I wouldnt worry too much unless he becomes possessive when you ask to change it to something you both would like to watch.

[deadelvis]

I personally find them revolting and corny as all hell. Maybe he's longing to see something that they portray in you? Are you gritty, sarcastic? Maybe he wants a more feminine approach? Just a thought.

 

I was wondering this also. How romantic is your relationship? Maybe he's longing for something besides the "eye candy".

[lollipopspot]

Men are supposed to HATE chick flicks!...what is this about??

 

Men aren't "supposed to" hate anything

 

I think he probably just likes an easy, no-thought story. No violence, no gore, happy ending. It's probably just a form of escapism.

[GunslingerRoland]

I like some chick flicks, Clueless, Mean girls, When Harry met Sally, Silver Linings Playbook...

 

But yeah those Hallmark movies are pretty awful, I can't say I get that.

[DivorcedDad123]

I wouldn't worry too much, unless he starts watching(or even worse recording!) Lifetime movies.

[pondhawk]

I doubt its for the women. It's probably just a form of entertainment he happens to enjoy. I doubt there is any need to read into it more then that. Why does this bother you?

 

Thanks everyone for your responses.

 

I guess it bothers me so much because he used to have a porn addiction and he stares at women all the time....even when we are together. I've told him it bothers me (when he's oogling over women and I'm standing right next to him) and he is trying to work on it.

 

I was beginning to think this was a desperate attempt to watch about women.

 

When we were first married (about 2 yrs ago), he used to watch the Bachelor/Bachelorette all the time too. He's almost 50. I'm 43 and can't stand that show either. I once asked him what he saw in the Bachelor/Bachelorette and he said, "I don't know, I guess to see if I would have a chance?" (Meaning, if she would pick him.)

 

I said, "Well that's weird, because you're married now. Why waste your time or concern yourself with that?"

 

To those who said, maybe he's looking for romantic attributes in my personality....that's a good assessment. I'll have to think about that. I tend to be a worry wart and serious most of the time. I'm a realist and he's called me "Debbie Downer" once...so maybe he just needs things to be lighter?

 

Maybe I am looking into this too much. But it does bother me when he watches it so much. I just leave the room to go read or something. We only have one TV in house. So last night when I posted this, I was in my room fuming. He came into the bedroom hours later (after his movie) and asked me what was wrong. I told him and he said I was being ridiculous. I asked him why he invests his time in these movies for hours when he has the real thing living with him in his own house? Then he got mad and slept on the couch.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I don't think a man enjoying a quality chick-flick is a crime BUT watching cheesy Hallmark flicks EVERYDAY is a bit odd.

 

You said he "used to" have a porn addiction. How did that get resolved? Does he watch any porn at all? How is your sex life?

 

The husband of one of my best girlfriend LOVED watching Gossip Girl, The Hills and many other trashy girlie TV series. He'd get really into all the drama too. My girlfriend couldn't understand how he enjoyed those shows at first but eventually realized she married an overgrown man-child. He was very immature for his age (40+) and couldn't carry an intelligent conversation to save his life. He also had a habit of being wildly inappropriate with women. Just a couple of reasons why he's now her "ex".

 

Something to think about.

[pondhawk]

I don't think a man enjoying a quality chick-flick is a crime BUT watching cheesy Hallmark flicks EVERYDAY is a bit odd.

 

You said he "used to" have a porn addiction. How did that get resolved? Does he watch any porn at all? How is your sex life?

 

The husband of one of my best girlfriend LOVED watching Gossip Girl, The Hills and many other trashy girlie TV series. He'd get really into all the drama too. My girlfriend couldn't understand how he enjoyed those shows at first but eventually realized she married an overgrown man-child. He was very immature for his age (40+) and couldn't carry an intelligent conversation to save his life. He also had a habit of being wildly inappropriate with women. Just a couple of reasons why he's now her "ex".

 

Something to think about.

 

He stopped watching porn about 4 years ago. I did not know him at that time. He does admit to falling off the wagon shortly after that and watching it once in a while, but as far as I know (and this is only from what he tells me) he's been totally clean for the last 2 years.

 

Our sex life is pretty active, about every other day.

 

I had to laugh at the man-child comment! Too funny! I don't think that describes him, though. He's very intelligent. Although, when you mentioned being inappropriate with women, my stomach sank because I remember when we were dating, once in a while he would say something inappropriate to me, like on our second date he asked if I liked oral. I thought that was strange since it was only our second date, but I blew it off. Matter of fact for our second date he wanted to go on a trip, but I turned him down because that would have meant a hotel room, which was way too early for me. We did something local instead.

 

I guess I did miss some red flags.

[GunslingerRoland]

So it's a red flag that your husband wanted to get you into bed?

 

Can men ever win?

 

lol

[basil67]

Thanks everyone for your responses.

 

I guess it bothers me so much because he used to have a porn addiction and he stares at women all the time....even when we are together. I've told him it bothers me (when he's oogling over women and I'm standing right next to him) and he is trying to work on it.

 

I was beginning to think this was a desperate attempt to watch about women.

 

When we were first married (about 2 yrs ago), he used to watch the Bachelor/Bachelorette all the time too. He's almost 50. I'm 43 and can't stand that show either. I once asked him what he saw in the Bachelor/Bachelorette and he said, "I don't know, I guess to see if I would have a chance?" (Meaning, if she would pick him.)

 

I said, "Well that's weird, because you're married now. Why waste your time or concern yourself with that?"

 

To those who said, maybe he's looking for romantic attributes in my personality....that's a good assessment. I'll have to think about that. I tend to be a worry wart and serious most of the time. I'm a realist and he's called me "Debbie Downer" once...so maybe he just needs things to be lighter?

 

Maybe I am looking into this too much. But it does bother me when he watches it so much. I just leave the room to go read or something. We only have one TV in house. So last night when I posted this, I was in my room fuming. He came into the bedroom hours later (after his movie) and asked me what was wrong. I told him and he said I was being ridiculous. I asked him why he invests his time in these movies for hours when he has the real thing living with him in his own house? Then he got mad and slept on the couch.

 

I can't help but wonder if the whole marriage is a mess and you're just telling us about one problem. This could explain your overreactions to what he's doing. And you ARE overreacting to this issue. As a general rule, I think that if this was the worst thing a guy did, most women would count themselves lucky.

 

When you get upset about him watching these TV shows, what is it that bothers you about it? If we did through your emotions, perhaps we will find that the actual viewing content isn't the problem. Would you get upset if he spent the same amount of time watching sport?

 

How is the rest of your marriage? Based on your comments here, you don't seem to have much respect for him - what's the bigger story?

[Lois_Griffin]

I guess it bothers me so much because he used to have a porn addiction and he stares at women all the time....even when we are together. I've told him it bothers me (when he's oogling over women and I'm standing right next to him) and he is trying to work on it.

 

I was beginning to think this was a desperate attempt to watch about women.

Ugh.

 

That changes everything. If he's being monitored and isn't allowed to watch his porn anymore, maybe he's getting his 'fix' watching young women on Hallmark instead.