She told me That I Never Fight for Her. Should I?

[heartbroken15]

so my ex and I broke up four months ago coming out of an 8 year relationship. We have a baby on the way and another child that is mine but she have been there majority of his life.

 

Anyway I tried no contact for a while then she contacted me wanting to know if it was possible to work it out. We tried well I tried because she never really acted like she wanted to be with me or didn't say much so I told her that I don't appreciate the games and that she can leave. She left. I didn't talk to her for two days she texted me back saying that she want us. That's the first time she actually said it but I was so tired of playing the games that I was sort of thinking "whatever" she came over that same day and was asking me what I wanted which she already knew I wanted her. She was still acting kind of indecisive so I didn't say much. She finally left.

 

That same night I poured my heart out to her asking why is so indecisive and why can't she just be honest and open and let me know what I need to do to get out family back. She never responded so I texted her. No response. I felt so stupid I was thinking here she goes again with the games so I went on a mini no contact again for three days. She texted me and asked how I was feeling I ignored her because she ignored me and plus I was trying to do no contact.

 

The next day I told her that I had decided to move on to someone else that had been after me and I'm changing my number because I can't deal with playing games anymore. I want someone who knows what they want. She texted back saying that I never fight for her and that she loved me and was angry with me for how our relationship ended and she really wanted a family with me and all of this other stuff. I don't know if this is to make me feel bad or what. What do you think should I leave it alone or try to fight for her? I tried one time but she literally ignored my efforts and was acting indecisive so I'm confused about what she want from me.

[Satu]

If you fight for her, who will you be fighting?

[Confusioncreepsin]

If you fight for her, who will you be fighting?

 

So funny, I spewed coffee....but so true. Best line that I will use in the future. LOL

 

No answer is the right answer...if you are fighting her then you don't need it. If you are fighting someone else, then you have bigger problems and don't need it.

 

Beautiful!

[basil67]

I don't believe in 'fighting' for someone. Instead, I believe that if there's a problem which both want to solve, then both parties need to put in equal effort and enthusiasm for making it work. If the other party is not communicating or seemingly unwilling to move forward, then there's no point.

 

That being said, I'm alarmed that you'd be changing your number when you have a child with her and another on the way. How will you manage to see your children?

[heartbroken15]

ok thats what I thought. I was thinking why do I have to be the person dealing with all of the pressure in building it when it is two people involved. Just wanted to make sure that I wasn't thinking crazy because I also think both of us should try. She have always lacked communication though which probably the main reason we are not together now.

[Wewon]

She texted back saying that I never fight for her and that she loved me and was angry with me for how our relationship ended and she really wanted a family with me and all of this other stuff.

 

So in other words, she's still playing games, only now its expert level.

 

When a person is behaving in an indecisive way, showing indifference and ultimately blames you for how things went you can't really expect much improvement in their behavior.