HereNorThere Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 (edited) What sucks is that every cheater starts with a very minimal, trickle truthed version of what happened. It always starts with the bare minimum because telling something, anything at least absolves them of a little guilt. You don't know what happened because the person who told you can't be trusted. It could be a little kiss, but you could keep digging and find out there's a whole other night that happened in your house with you knowing. Grown men and women don't usually stop at a little peck once alcohol is involved. At the very least, you know there was inappropriate groping and things of that nature. The minimization and her claiming not to remember almost makes it worse than if they would just come out and tell you the whole truth. Point being, someone, somewhere is lying. That's about the only thing you can be sure of in this situation. More than likely, he's downplaying the event as much as possible and she is flat out denying it. Call him on his bluff. Hang up the phone once he walks into a room and say "that's it, she just told me everything. You'll hear from my attorney. We are so done!" and watch his reaction. You'll see... Edited November 12, 2015 by HereNorThere 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 I would like to add - most if not all of my friends, myself included, have done some absolutely stupid, out of our mind, would never happen in real life stuff when completely bombed on alcohol. I know it's no excuse, but at the same time, it kinda is. I mean, once you're past a certain point, all bets are off. Most people only cross that black-out boundary a few times in their life, but others seem to cross it frequently. I'm sure there are plenty of people in prison right now for doing something they absolutely do not remember doing. Alcohol has a major impact on decision making and memory formation. The science supports this through and through. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 I would like to add - most if not all of my friends, myself included, have done some absolutely stupid, out of our mind, would never happen in real life stuff when completely bombed on alcohol. I know it's no excuse, but at the same time, it kinda is. I mean, once you're past a certain point, all bets are off. Which is why responsible adults committed to their partners don't put themselves in that compromised position in a social setting, whether with alcohol, weed or drugs. I'd be angry with my GF or spouse if she got blackout drunk at a party, even if inappropriate behavior was't involved... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 Yeah, in a perfect world, we're all walking around completely responsible and abstaining from alcohol and never wanting to get sh*tfaced drunk. But in truth...we aren't. Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 As hard as we all try not to, sometimes you wake and your friend Doug is no where to be found and you're missing a tooth, married to an escort and Mike Tyson's tiger is your hotel suite bathroom. It does happen to best of us and we all hate being judged on our worse, peeing behind the dumpster at bar selves. If it truly was just a drunk kiss, I could get over it in time. However, it would be the end of any outside couple nights for me. It would restaurant, Netflix and chill from now on. Sorry you had to go through this, OP. I know how it feels to betrayed. Link to post Share on other sites
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