johnherban Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 a girl I like always agrees enthusiastically to my offers to hang out. the first time we went out to a restaurant and we spend 3 hours together. then we went to a dinner and movie we spend 6 hours together. we have great chemistry and I can tell from the way she looks at me she is into me I confessed my feelings she sent me she is a relationship and she really enjoys her time with me and we better stay friends and she still wants to hangout with me. I pretended like nothing happened. then I asked her to the beach she agreed and she said you are so sweet and amazing but she was booked because of her studies. she said I will text you. 3 days later i sent her a message so you dint tell me are we going out this week. I didn't get a reply for 2 hours. I sent her a message I told you that after my confession things will change and It usually take me a long time to get it but i finally received the message. good luck after 8 minutes she sent me ( from another number probably her room mate) I am really really sorry i didn't have credit and I didn't change and I will never change. I can not this week and you know how much I love to go but I can't I swear. anyways we set another time. we went to the beach and we watched a movie. we spent 7 hours? do you think that boyfriend thing is a cover. I think it is a lie. I can see it in her eyes that she is intersted?
SwordofFlame Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 How do you know she isn't effectively cheating on her boyfriend with you? 2
LoveRefreshed Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Stop seeing things that aren't there. She is not interested. Take her words for truth. You want her to be interested so you are biased when interpreting her behavior. Let it go. Secondly, don't stitle for friendship and hope for more. Tell her straight up you don't want to be just friends and of she changes her mind hen to get a hold of you. then stop talking to her. 2
Author johnherban Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 i feel that she is was just lie and not saying the truth, she may just felt embarrassed and didnt wanna seem interested although her actions speaks louder than her words
joseb Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 i feel that she is was just lie and not saying the truth, she may just felt embarrassed and didnt wanna seem interested although her actions speaks louder than her words This makes absolutely no sense at all. Best thing to do is say that you will be open to see her in the future when she is single and move on. 5
Author johnherban Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Stop seeing things that aren't there. She is not interested. Take her words for truth. You want her to be interested so you are biased when interpreting her behavior. Let it go. Secondly, don't stitle for friendship and hope for more. Tell her straight up you don't want to be just friends and of she changes her mind hen to get a hold of you. then stop talking to her. i totally understand what are you saying but I am very objective person in nature. I assure you that the way she acts and talks shows that she is interested. I have had crush on girls who didnt reciprocate feelings and I could tell from the way they were talking to me ( body language) they are not interested.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 i feel that she is was just lie and not saying the truth, she may just felt embarrassed and didnt wanna seem interested although her actions speaks louder than her words Okay, let's assume she is lying about having a boyfriend. That is further evidence she doesn't want a romantic relationship with you. I'm a woman too, and the only times I've ever said I have a boyfriend were: A) when I actually did have a boyfriend or B) when I wanted to a guy to stop hitting on me I have never in my life lied about having a boyfriend when I actually liked a man. 4
LoveRefreshed Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Dude you are being delusional and setting yourself up for awkward heartbreak
roxan Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Yeah it could be that she said she has a boyfriend so that you dont pursue her romanticaly. She may just see you as a potential guy friend, to have lunch with or go shopping with when she has nothing to do
ravfour4 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Another example of a girl thinking she can be great friends with a guy....that works like 10% of the time, 90% of the time he had or has a crush on you and any texting or hanging out will only make him like you more. 1
kendahke Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I assure you that the way she acts and talks shows that she is interested. Until her boyfriend pulls rank on you. Perhaps she had all that time because he's out of town for his job. When he's back in town, she very well can't disappear for 7 hours at a time. I have had crush on girls who didnt reciprocate feelings and I could tell from the way they were talking to me ( body language) they are not interested. Yeah, she's interested on her own time table, but not yours. When she's not interested, you don't hear from her.
truth_seeker Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Okay, let's assume she is lying about having a boyfriend. That is further evidence she doesn't want a romantic relationship with you. I'm a woman too, and the only times I've ever said I have a boyfriend were: A) when I actually did have a boyfriend or B) when I wanted to a guy to stop hitting on me I have never in my life lied about having a boyfriend when I actually liked a man. There are times a woman will get thrown for a loop (a guy she really likes makes a move and she doesn't expect it) and to get away from the situation will use the boyfriend line. This doesn't happen much, but it does happen.
truth_seeker Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Stop seeing things that aren't there. She is not interested. Take her words for truth. You want her to be interested so you are biased when interpreting her behavior. Let it go. Secondly, don't stitle for friendship and hope for more. Tell her straight up you don't want to be just friends and of she changes her mind hen to get a hold of you. then stop talking to her. I think this girl just likes the fact he's into her. She's all about the attention. I agree with you about the friendship advice. I've seen this before. It's really sad as I knew a guy from school who had it bad for this girl and the only time she gave him hope was when she wasn't getting attention from anyone else. Once she got attention, she'd drop him. He always made himself available for her. F-ing pathetic. To the OP - don't be that guy.
EricaH329 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I don't understand how you can't see that none of this makes sense. It sounds to me like you are making excuses so that you can believe she's into you. If she had the same feelings as you, then she would have told you. Not tell you that she has a boyfriend. That's counterproductive.
d0nnivain Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 If she actually has a BF, on some level she is sort of cheating on him with you. Not really because nothing has happened between you two, but since it's obvious that you like her, do you genuinely think this BF knows about you & is OK with the amount of time you two spend together? Remember if she cheats with you, she will cheat on you. If she doesn't have a BF, 1). she is a LIAR. Think about that. 2). She is effectively telling you -- practically shouting at you -- that you have been friendzoned & she does not see you in a sexy or romantic way. Whether she's a cheater or a liar, you lose. So why do you continue to press yourself on a woman of such low character?
meeji Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Yes we will. Especially if there's a guy chasing us that we are not interested in. I've done it to get guys to give up on me. 1
TheBathWater Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 She's either playing games with you and/or you're playing games with yourself. I agree with many of the previous commentators that you need to walk from her. That sucks when we're into a girl, believe me I know, but there really is no other way and you will only prolong the pain if you don't.
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