MsHopeful0208201689 Posted November 6, 2015 Share Posted November 6, 2015 Hello all. So I posted yesterday telling you that the MM I have had previous flirtatious encounters with/an Emotional affair texted me yesterday just for casual convo. I've known him for over 2 years now, it started off innocently and I even have mentioned on a couple occasions of actually being a FRIEND and meeting the wife/kids in which I was blew off the 1st couple of times and the other time he said yes, we'll have to do that sometime and to no avail it hasn't happened yet (this convo has happened over a year and a half ago)..... Sure we haven't flirted like that in a while, or at least I haven't for a few months but we still kept the contact there (he's called me pet names like "little mama" and "love" in which I overlooked).... I feel like if I keep the connection going then the temptation will always be there... Sure, we never became physical and he said he never planned for it to become physical but as MOST of us know that the EMOTIONAL can be waaayyyyy more intensive than the physical in which this was in my mind. BUT I couldn't take it no more, not even if we try to rationalize the "friendship", because in all reality it is NOT a friendship and never will be as long as I am kept a secret "friend"... Therefore, with the help and support of a older female friend I decided to BLOCK this guy's number & not continue to play with my own sanity and emotional health/well-being. I deserve better than to be an MM's person to call on when he is bored, lonely, needs motivation, etc. I DESERVE better than that... BLOCKING THE MM WAS A BIG STEP FOR ME BECAUSE I DID VALUE THIS CONNECTION BUT I NOW SEE I MAY HAVE VALUED IT A BIT MORE THAN HE DID... I THINK I WAS JUST AN ESCAPE, A GO TO WOMAN FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT... WHAT OLDER MAN WOULDN'T WANT ATTENTION FROM A YOUNGER WOMAN 15 YEARS HIS JUNIOR? :cool::cool::cool::cool::cool::cool::cool: And As for my BOYFRIEND I plan to put a distance in between myself and him. Keep myself busy with my studies, school, volunteering, hobbies, friends, etc.... I feel and have been knowing for a little while now that at this point in my life he is not the man for me or the one I see myself marrying... Please everyone, Keep me in your thoughts, prayers, best wishes, etc. that I keep my strength and rid myself of these toxic connections in my life ONCE AND FOR ALL 4 Link to post Share on other sites
OldRover Posted November 6, 2015 Share Posted November 6, 2015 Sounds like you're heading in a good direction. Good luck and keep us posted. Also, to keep busy like you are, helps. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted November 6, 2015 Share Posted November 6, 2015 I know it was hard for you to sever that connection with the MM... big step forward and proud that you chose this path. Stay strong and be "hopeful" You do deserve to be more than a bandaid for MM's marriage troubles. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MsHopeful0208201689 Posted November 6, 2015 Author Share Posted November 6, 2015 Thanks for the encouragement and support guys! Honestly, I would have never dreamed of saying this but I have come to the conclusion that I was a LOVE ADDICT when it came to this "friendship", text/phone/email relationship, emotional affair with this married man... When I saw him out depending upon the setting we were in he'd talk to me but if it were somewhere in which he was better known and it would be easier to get caught he'd ignore me or make minimal contact with me but then days later would text me saying things like "hey stranger", "hey little mama", "Hey love"... in which told me right there I was meant to be a secret for him... AND As for my boyfriend I think in the beginning up until about 6 or 7 months ago I was a LOVE ADDICT for this relationship also but now the fog/rose colored glasses are off and I am FINALLY seeing him for WHAT and WHO he is.... It took over a year for me to see this with the help of people that are close to me & the red flags I've seen with MY OWN EYES.... Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted November 6, 2015 Share Posted November 6, 2015 Good for you Hopeful. You have soooo much going for you and are young ... you've got the world at your feet. I'm so impressed that you're community minded and volunteer! You'll find someone who treats you as you deserve.... you'll see:) Love can be pretty intoxicating though ... even at my advanced age lol Link to post Share on other sites
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