Vilgefoz Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 (edited) Hallo, is this section for forever alones? Am I correct here? Uhm... Yuo know, I am rather ordinary 27 years old guy, sporty and I would say quite smart .Working with venture capital and technology innovations, in free time doing basically all sorts of sports - powerlifting, kickbox and stuff... Now, to the point: Until now I failed to make a girlfriend. From the point I see it I basically never get a chance to present my personality to her (understand: having a meaningful conversation where I could learn something of her and she of me besides "I like today's weather"). Which was the reason I never get closer to anyone. My explanation: bad pre-selection. If you happen to be familiar with Evolution Biology, Psychology or perhaps The Pick Up Artist Theory ( I am not PUA follower, btw.) we both, males and females judge people even before we talk to them. Women didn't find many reasons to talk to me on personal level ( I have no problems talking about professionally related issues) therefore never got a chance to create a bond. Need to say I was around women quite lot - on economics university, later in work, offices... What to do now? I am thinking that whatever reason for not-being-interested might be, crucial will be look and image. Therefore dressing good (which cost a lot of money but at least I have some sense of style ) but above all physique. Need to improve my body shape. After years of training I have quite nicely developed muscularity but getting lean is a nightmare I almost always fail. Second... Uhm... better career and social position but this on long run. Venture investment and innovation is very risky and 95% of enterprises fail. It will took years to set up a solid ground... Hmm... what else? I spent much time in gyms, but then, being "alpha male" there is one of toughest things - there are professional sportsmen, people way better then me... Ok, any better ideas please? PS: Just FYI, I am normal social guy with no social anxiety, low confidence, or any personality disorder or whatever. Just pre-selection, most likely. Edited November 8, 2015 by Vilgefoz Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vilgefoz Posted November 8, 2015 Author Share Posted November 8, 2015 Uhm... nobody? Really? Little Vilgefoz is sad Hmm... just found this pearl... could not eggree more http://img-9gag-fun.9cache.com/photo/a3LDmd5_700b_v1.jpg (can I embed picture here?) V. Link to post Share on other sites
Clarence_Boddicker Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 Hire an image consultant, a personal trainer & a relationship coach. Then hire a company to screen your potential dates. Things will be easier in the future: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vilgefoz Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 Hire an image consultant, a personal trainer & a relationship coach. Then hire a company to screen your potential dates. Things will be easier in the future: Hey, do I smell sacrasm, detorit cop? That movie is fantasy, naturally. even though genes significantly interefere into our abilities and potential, they never determine outcome. Person whith average predispositions but great attitude will always best person with great genes but awerage attitude. Even things such as height can be sinificantly changed by culture, living conditions. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 Become sociable, friendly and competent in everything you do and with every person you meet. Men, women, young, old, pretty, ugly, short, tall, skinny, fat. The more people you are associated with and the more people that think you are a good guy, the better off you will be and the more opportunities you will have. In every group there will be a "Queen Bee." This will be the alpha female that the other females look up to and take their cues from. If the queen bee will accept you and think that you are a good guy, then her underlings will be more accepting of you. Another factor of preselection is to hang out, do things with and date as many high- status women as you can. That does not need to be actual relationships or romantic/sexual endeavors although the more women that find you sexually attractive, the better. They key to doing that is to always have things on a positive note and to never have anything end on a negative note. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vilgefoz Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 Become sociable, friendly and competent in everything you do and with every person you meet. Men, women, young, old, pretty, ugly, short, tall, skinny, fat. The more people you are associated with and the more people that think you are a good guy, the better off you will be and the more opportunities you will have. In every group there will be a "Queen Bee." This will be the alpha female that the other females look up to and take their cues from. If the queen bee will accept you and think that you are a good guy, then her underlings will be more accepting of you. Another factor of preselection is to hang out, do things with and date as many high- status women as you can. That does not need to be actual relationships or romantic/sexual endeavors although the more women that find you sexually attractive, the better. They key to doing that is to always have things on a positive note and to never have anything end on a negative note. Completely aggree! Thank you for that thing about Queen Bee. Yes, I can think of few women who were something like that - giving general opinios to other women... But the problem is, there are very few people around who I cope with... There are many reasons involved but above all, last several years I lived my life and I wasd myself which resulted in creating social gaps between me and my physical surroundings. I spend much time communicating with freiends and mostly teachers from U.S. - an venture capitalist, investor, business consultant from NYC, retired entrepreneur from international logistics... and I found myself nothing in common with people I am surrounded physically. Starting to socialize with these people "in hope to get some chicks" would be a very bad idea and I would inevitably fail. I spend a lot of time in gyms where I meet a lot of people which I have common interest - that sport, but again, aside that sport there is nothing else we could talk about. If I were popular as you write half of problem would be solved, but I am not and have bad conditions. That why I relay more to working-out, becoming professional authority etc.... Moreover I am grumpy old dude But thank you, your time is appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
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