HansonGirl Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 (edited) Went out with a guy friend .I wasn't into it. I would rather be friends. I'm not saying I don't find him attractive .I do. I just wasn't interested in a romantic relationship with him . Long story short it's super awkward. I've tried to be friendly. I invite him to things it's awkward . I dint want to force it .But I like him! I don't think I have been in his face whatsoever .I give him a lot of space. One time he like snubbed me so I contacted him right away .I said hey everything is cool between us right .He said he's not being passive aggressive. I left him alone. Months later I contacted him and said I'm sorry things turned out how they did . He Said "I'm not holding a grudge or anything". Am I wrong but aren't these responses not very reassuring? Then he Saud he "perceives insecurity" and is just trying to "cure" it . I mean he's right .I do feel insecure about this . But he had told me after we went out that he wanted to be friends. I haven't contacted him since that conversation . But .I dunno am I wrong or is there something weird about his responses . Dont worry I don't plan on contacting him .I feel like maybe he was irritated with me . I am afraid to contact him now actually . :-/ I am just asking because his phrasing of things almost sound as if he thinks I did something wrong . That's the part I'm stuck on .I don't believe I did anything wrong . My recollection was it was mutual . Does it sound to anybody else that he perceived it like I did something wrong. ? Why else talk about grudges at all? I definitely won't bother him any more . Edited November 8, 2015 by HansonGirl Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Was he interested in a romantic relationship with you? If he was, then offering just friendship is like rubbing his nose in what he can't have. If he was keen on you, then offering friendship is the wrong thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HansonGirl Posted November 9, 2015 Author Share Posted November 9, 2015 Was he interested in a romantic relationship with you? If he was, then offering just friendship is like rubbing his nose in what he can't have. If he was keen on you, then offering friendship is the wrong thing to do. not really, it was a mutual thing. but am i right in my interpretation of his comments, it sounds like he's implying i have done something wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
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