OldRover Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 When you get married its because you pledge love to the other and want to give and recieve love forever. I would give her divorce papers yesterday. I would not suffer sexual neglect and rejection from my spouse and no I love you. Thats cruel and harmful for you. It will be a real eye opener when she is forced to look at her own actions and see how her cold cruel manner has pushed her husband away. No way should you stay. This is cruel and is nothing like how a wife should be. Im so upset to see you are being treated like this. Privategal, Divorce? WAY too early. If that was the only option, he would have already filed and you would have not seen this thread. I don't know why so may are hell bent on the attitude of "get the heck out of there" without going through some problem solving first. There was "something" that caused them to get married.... and at least enjoy the first six months "in love".... Then something changed or something developed to tear them apart. He needs to find out what that was and work on it. Sure, right now it's a big issue to solve, but there's a strong argument to give it a try before throwing in the towel. Think so? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 So many men come here and complain about the same issue and nothing gets resolved. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
OldRover Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 So many men come here and complain about the same issue and nothing gets resolved. You make a good point... the man should make efforts to solve the problems, and pull out all stops, if necessary. Then after all efforts and enough time to implement them, if things just don't work, then make decisions to deal with the future, even if it ends with splitting up. And we see the same issues with women. I've been with both situations above.... and in both cases, ended it. Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 (edited) Rmurphey, This is a huge concern to me: "She will not tell me she loves me." Did she used to tell you that she loves you? Do you think I should stick it out? Am I being a selfish baby? Should I expect more or less? No, you are not being selfish at all. Marriage is a special relationship because in monogamy, it is the only relationship that includes sex, whereas your relationships with other people do not include sex. I have thought how nice it would to be holding a woman on my chest just watching a movie. It is awesome!!! One of the reasons my hubby and I don't go to movie theaters very much is because we enjoy cuddling up together on the sofa! Or making out and hugging. I have always believed affairs are wrong. But lately an affair sounds very possible and nice.Would you like it if she was having an affair? Affairs are poison that tortures a marriage, even a marriage slowly dying. Do you really want to torture your marriage? Personally, I advise giving her 2 options: 1. Really show you that she wants to save the marriage by her actions (including sex at least once a month) and words. 2. Divorce Cheating is a selfish coward's way. A cheater is a coward because he or she lacks courage to talk to the person to whom he or she promised faithfulness. A cheater is a liar who doesn't have the courage to confront his or her spouse with the truth. Do you really want to take the cowardly route? Edited November 27, 2015 by BetheButterfly Link to post Share on other sites
loveboid Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Is she a stay-at-home mom? Does she earn no income? Did she quit her job the day you got married? If so I would cut off her money and see if she's nicer. Link to post Share on other sites
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