i am gutted Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 have had some good and some great days.........have been focused on my kids and work. papers have arrived from lawyers, bill paid and all signed and sealed. he waltzes round like nothing major happened, would be nice for him to give the kids 20 bucks here and there but nothing. I don't want to ask him for money for them, he only calls them when he wants them for something and only sees them when he calls in to get stuff from here and just says hi how was your day - today at the supermarket with my daughter I just sobbed.....all the Christmas stuff is being put out on display and it has always been a time that I love, love to buy for people, and enjoy. I am having Christmas with my family this year, am looking forward to it but I just feel so shattered. Link to post Share on other sites
T-16bullseyeWompRat Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I'm sorry for your pain. Try to focus on what Christmas will mean to you from now on instead of what it meant in the past. Be mindful of negative thoughts and do your best not to indulge in them. It is easier said then done I know. You WILL have a wonderful Christmas if you allow yourself to. Be strong and stay positive. And don't beat yourself up for getting emotional. It hurts like hell to face your emotions sometimes, but it is necessary. Link to post Share on other sites
chew123 Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 IAG, Holidays are definitely triggers. Time that usd to be spent with the family is now a logistic activity, which family gets my son first, where will he live when he gets home from school. It does get easier as they get older though and if you concentrate on the family you have now they can be great. Get used to expecting nothing from him. Based on experience even if they say they will do something they won't. As far as them walking around like they don't care, I don't think they do. It is who they are now. the person we thought we married is dead. That is how I look at my ex. Glad to hear you are having some good/great days. They will come more and more as time goes by. trust me on this. I am currently having a couple down days but they are the first after about 4 good months. And I am not debilitated like I was in the beginning just a little down. Get through the end of this year and look forward to a brighter 2016. I am sure yours will be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author i am gutted Posted November 10, 2015 Author Share Posted November 10, 2015 hey there Chew. we will have a good Christmas, I just became overwhelmed I suppose with a lot of different stuff. hope you are having a better day, am heading off to work so just a quick hi - take care Link to post Share on other sites
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