justanickname Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 For short, I used to post here for your advises of my LD Friendship/Crush. And yet I agreed with all of you that I invested too much in that than him, I should have tried NC. So, after one or two months considering and seeing how much I liked him while he has been seeing me as regular friend, I sent him an email yesterday night, saying that I would like to NC, that I feel that he treats me not in the way I deserve, and he is unstable with his reaction, etc. He replied, saying that I have misunderstood him, and he hinted that he considered me as the same way. However, since I wanted NC, he would do it. I really hope to hear and know clearly everything and let him know why I feel that way. Since we have not talked since May, everything is a bit messy with no clear explanation. Therefore, I wrote him "Let's try a talk when you come back home. I don't want to lose a friend." I know he reads that, but he keeps silence. He will be home soon, this Wednesday. Since I deleted all of his contacts (phone, skype) the only way I could reach him now is email... but I don't know if I totally lose him now. No matter what, even when he is unstable, and I sooo invest in the relation, I don't want to lose a friend. All I want is a talk, to make everything clear but he seems do not get it... Do you think it is over? Should I wait when he is home for a few days and then writing another mail as a last shot if there is no news from him? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 You're sending mixed messages. You told him you wanted No Contact, then said you should talk. What do you really want? Anyway, don't write to him again. He will get in touch if he wants but honestly I rather doubt that he will, given your first request for No Contact. Sorry OP, but I would let this one go now. Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 He doesn't care. You didn't ruin it or end it with NC so dont blame yourself, he just isn't a goid friend. It hurts badly to lose a friend but he hasn't given you much to work with. If you haven't talked since May you were already in nc and it doesn't have anything to do with you, its just he got busy with life and is no longer the same guy. People change, life gets in the way, you lose people and its a hard fact of life. I would not write him...you said lets try a talk when your home. The ball is in his court and I wouldn't take it personally if he doesn't write back, I would just cut my losses that you grew apart and move forward, stay positive and strive to live the best life you can and find new friends and interests!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author justanickname Posted November 18, 2015 Author Share Posted November 18, 2015 Thanks for the ideas. Quick update: He contacted and we did talk after he came back home. Sadly, you are both correct, he didn't care enough to keep the friendship as much as I did, but he wanted to keep contact occasionally. Surprisingly to me, I no longer wanted to talk and explain or figure out everything, a kind of "let it go" and "feed up with the relation" attitude. I guess the story really comes to an end now. No regret. Link to post Share on other sites
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