circlesinfinity Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 It was not a work in progress, listening to Eckhart Tolle, Abraham Hicks, Melanie Evans... When it came, it was not Lenon Honor (someone I see highly as a father figure), reading positive quotes on Facebook or Michael Loiser. I woke up one day and thought "I want what I want..." to be happy. It felt like a light switch, literally overnight. You can do it, anyone can. You can heal from the past and look back to say "Wow, is that what made me not enjoy my life?" My regrets are nonexistent because I know I am deserving of better; good friends, love, a dream career, money, etc. The funny this is my happiness is not based on looking forward to these things, its based on knowing I DESERVE happiness! There is so much to enjoy in life that your mind makes you believe that your own little unhappiness in this huge infinite world, is all there is to life. Make a choice... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 I agree wholeheartedly. I grew up with parents who didn't have the emotional maturity or energy to be real parents - as in nurture children, not just "raise them". I listen still to my 93 yeard old grandmother talk/act as if she's afraid of the world, say how "when I was this age..." - well - I know Judy Garland, Bea Arthur, Christopher Lee, Charles Schulz, Norman Lear, Carl Reiner, Jack Kerouac, Betty White, Kurt Vonnegut, Stan Lee, Steven Hill, Paul Scofield, etc were all born the same year as her and...they became quite famous. people either accept what the world gives them or they make their own way. The issue is learning to accept we're alone, and then work to find the people who truly support us. We have to overcome the limitations others imposed on us, the assumptions we blindly make about ourselves, our lives, etc, and we need to focus on ourselves and our own happiness - we can't give to others if our cups are empty. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author circlesinfinity Posted November 12, 2015 Author Share Posted November 12, 2015 I agree wholeheartedly. I grew up with parents who didn't have the emotional maturity or energy to be real parents - as in nurture children, not just "raise them". I listen still to my 93 yeard old grandmother talk/act as if she's afraid of the world, say how "when I was this age..." - well - I know Judy Garland, Bea Arthur, Christopher Lee, Charles Schulz, Norman Lear, Carl Reiner, Jack Kerouac, Betty White, Kurt Vonnegut, Stan Lee, Steven Hill, Paul Scofield, etc were all born the same year as her and...they became quite famous. people either accept what the world gives them or they make their own way. The issue is learning to accept we're alone, and then work to find the people who truly support us. We have to overcome the limitations others imposed on us, the assumptions we blindly make about ourselves, our lives, etc, and we need to focus on ourselves and our own happiness - we can't give to others if our cups are empty. Thank you so much for your input! ☺ Yes we are alone and it is an interesting journey to find supportive people. I am looking forward to finding people who do share this same happiness though. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Well - I think that's one of the biggest elements in living life to the fullest and being an "adult" - we must learn to accept the limitations, biases, etc that our original environments and the people who occupied them placed on us. To overcome that is ultimate goal of our lives - and as you said - happiness is a choice - it's not something we "achieve" - certainly being around certain things or people can increase our happiness, but the basic function rests inside of us. And finding supportive people is what a good relationship and good mature friendships are all about. I've learned the hard way that a lot of "friends" either do or would abandon us if we spoke our truths or followed our hearts 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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