preraph Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 He MUST take his meds. If you have to readmit him to do that, that's what you have to do. 80-some percent of mental patients won't take their meds or won't take them right - because they are not playing with a full deck. You have to be strong and make sure he takes his meds and readmit if necessary or get continued private care. I know you must be exhausted. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 11, 2016 Share Posted January 11, 2016 I know but I just hate having to do that to him again. He's still fragile and in a place where things could turn even worse. Take him back if need be, better to be safe than sorry. The grieving process he's going through is hell and I hope he gets back on meds with the help of continuing counseling too. Hugs to you MOM, you're a pillar of strength and deserve a big shout out for all that you've done for him. It's not easy on you at all so please take care and don't forget to look after yourself too. Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 Mom22, how are things lately? Anything new going on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted January 20, 2016 Author Share Posted January 20, 2016 Sorry I haven't been updating this. Been dealing with a lot and I am thankful to each and every one of you. Son has started having seizures and we along with his doctors think it is from the car wreck. And on top of that he had one while testifying against the drunk driver. And on top of all of that he has been having sex with a 20 something year old. But he is taking his meds and has been at school and been turning his grades around. So while some bad things and bad health issues have popped up he is at least been doing alright at school. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 Gosh, sorry to hear about the seizures. I'm really glad to hear he's at least taking an interest in life. I hope things settle down for you soon so you can relax a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 Thank you for the updates. I think about your situation often. So, they've had the trial? Is that over or still ongoing? I'm really sorry to hear about the seizures. You may have mentioned it before but was he injured in the accident? Does the doctor think he can identify what's causing the seizures? Wow, all of you have been through so much. You're in my thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted January 20, 2016 Author Share Posted January 20, 2016 Yes he was very seriously injured in that wreck. And the trial is ongoing. They think it was from the Trauma of the wreck and they don't know if this will be a short term or all of his life deal. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 Yes he was very seriously injured in that wreck. And the trial is ongoing. They think it was from the Trauma of the wreck and they don't know if this will be a short term or all of his life deal. Check out Amen Clinics. They can do a lot with brain imaging where MRIs are limited. My father went years ago, and despite not following a majority of their recommendations, the few he did follow helped him turn from completely abusive jackass to barely tolerable, without the explosiveness Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted January 21, 2016 Author Share Posted January 21, 2016 Apparently this 20 something year old he has been sleeping with is his best friends big sister. I wish he wasn't doing this but, It is better then him drinking or drugs or attempting to try and kill himself. But I still do not approve and I am worried about him having sex with this chick and him having a seizure and she not knowing what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Well, I know it must be very hard wondering when he's gone anywhere without you what happens if he has a seizure, but I hope he's at least told the people close to him to call an ambulance if it happens. If not, most people would have the sense to. You might just make sure they have your phone number. But it's good he's getting out and escaping his situation for periods of time -- and it honestly can be the best thing for his mind and brain to not always have it in the rut of thinking about the trauma. It will keep him from getting stuck on all that if he keeps having some amount of fun and experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted January 22, 2016 Author Share Posted January 22, 2016 They are going to keep him overnight for some testing Saturday and try and see if it is brain trauma and try and induce a seizure to see what it is like. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Hope they get to the bottom of it. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 Thank you, Trying to get him ready and a bag but he isn't being easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted January 24, 2016 Author Share Posted January 24, 2016 What an incredibly rough night but Glad it is over, Tests were showing some brain trauma hospital staff apparently missed after the wreck and subsequent time he spent in the hospital. So basically this could become a life thing he has to deal with now. Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 Oh wow. I'm really sorry. What kind of problems is this going to cause for him? You mentioned seizures. Will he always have them? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted January 27, 2016 Author Share Posted January 27, 2016 Seizures, Manic Depression they think but the main thing is the seizures. They are not sure if he will always have them or if they will go away with time. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 27, 2016 Share Posted January 27, 2016 Seizures are often made worse by stress, and so as the stress subsides, the seizures may get to be less and less, but no way to know for sure. If he has manic depression, that is bi-polar, and it would have been pre-existent, not just caused by the event. Hope he gets feeling better soon. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 What an incredibly rough night but Glad it is over, Tests were showing some brain trauma hospital staff apparently missed after the wreck and subsequent time he spent in the hospital. So basically this could become a life thing he has to deal with now. Try to stay positive. Hopefully in time he will heal both emotionally and physically. Head injuries can be treated with medication so I'm sure the Dr's will put him on an anti seizure medication and also do physiotherapy and keep a close eye on his brain (MRI, Catscans etc).. Hang in there Mom. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted January 31, 2016 Author Share Posted January 31, 2016 He isn't allowed to drive anymore, And he isn't doing well with that. But doctors are trying to get him stabilized on some seizure meds. He keeps having some pretty bad seizures and its honestly isn't helping with his depression. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 I am so sorry to hear that. Hopefully they will be able to control the seizures & he will get his driver's license back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 They are starting to get his meds worked out which is a plus and he wasn't ever depressed or Bipolar before this all happened so I strongly disagree that it was there before. The guy is being sentenced on Friday and the prosecutors asked my son to write a statement as well as her parents. He has been working on trying to do that but he can't get through a few words without starting to sob so I am not sure how he will do reading it. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Can't someone else read his victim impact statement? He can write it and if he can't hold it together I'm sure you or someone else can do it for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted February 4, 2016 Author Share Posted February 4, 2016 Yes I will read it for him if he can't keep it together but he has asked me not to as he feels like this is something he has to do. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Yes I will read it for him if he can't keep it together but he has asked me not to as he feels like this is something he has to do. Wow, he's incredibly strong and that's a good thing that he wants to push through it and read it. I'm sure it'll make a huge difference in his recovery too by reading the statement. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mom22Boys Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 He was able to get through most of it without breaking down but then It hit him like a flood. And the stress caused a seizure. But it even brought made this criminal tear up. But the Judge wasn't kind and laid into him. And he got 15 years which I do not think is enough...... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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