impatiently_patient Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Would love to date... but seriously: NOT interested in quads and camping. Is this all women do anymore? The fuh?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 12, 2015 Author Share Posted November 12, 2015 This and the "only white guys" stuff is really putting me off on the female side of the equation altogether. Mentally retarded racists, really? This is what I have to appeal to? Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 12, 2015 Author Share Posted November 12, 2015 Also, sick of every faux-educated skank begging for proper use of grammar that also uses an ellipses completely wrong in their s__tshow of a profile. The hypocrisy is high amongst the elitists. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Have you tried Meetup? Maybe you could find some groups that align with your interests, or even just go to some happy hour events in your area. I found it to be way better than online dating (which you seem to hate.). Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 12, 2015 Author Share Posted November 12, 2015 Have you tried Meetup? Maybe you could find some groups that align with your interests, or even just go to some happy hour events in your area. I found it to be way better than online dating (which you seem to hate.). Yeah, I go to a few Meetups on the regular. They're fun but nothing's ever come of it. The singles ones suck. Most are a bunch old townies getting out of their empty nests, and the single professionals is a bunch of bragadocious D. measuring. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 You sound angry with OLD which is a good indication it might be time to take a break. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
TexasMan68 Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Have....you searched for.......any Cynical dating......sites to find your female pessimistic equivalent........? Sorry couldn't help myself. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 I'm with you man. I live in the suburbs of the capital of the most populated state in the country, and every girl on OLD likes to talk about how country they are. It's all fake. They all have the exact same interests. Mudding. Seriously? Thats how you spend your time? It gets frustrating when you see profile after profile and they are all the exact same. I'll predict your next profile right now. She claims to be super busy all of the time but wants to "try it out". She will have one solo picture, one group picture, one picture involving a mirror, and one picture of her standing on an elevated position ( mountain or Hill with landscape background) They are allllllllllll the same. It's not worth the time or frustration. Just live your life so you don't drive yourself insane with these women. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 I've tried OLD twice, and both times, it was definitely an exercise in searching for the needle in the haystack - but that's true offline, too. I'm starting to think about trying it again, but right now I don't have the mental energy to sort through all the nonsense to find the decent guys. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 12, 2015 Author Share Posted November 12, 2015 You sound angry with OLD which is a good indication it might be time to take a break. I just came back after six months of not doing it... I'm like three weeks in and I'm already fed up with the trash. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 I actually saw a really cool profile a few days ago. This cute, youngish (early 30s) blonde woman posted a couple of pics and a profile that read... "What's the point of posting anything? Everybody has the same activities and is smart, caring, and loyal. This is just all about looking at pictures anyway." It's pretty much true. Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 12, 2015 Author Share Posted November 12, 2015 (edited) Have....you searched for.......any Cynical dating......sites to find your female pessimistic equivalent........? Sorry couldn't help myself. Ha ha... I'd be all over her. I'm actually a pretty humorous guy, I just happen to like cynical humor. Truth be told, the few women I know who've used online dating have little good to say about it as well. Pervy guys, canned openers, lack of intelligence, ghosting, etc. You think a guy like me would clean house on there... but alas no. I actually saw a really cool profile a few days ago. This cute, youngish (early 30s) blonde woman posted a couple of pics and a profile that read... "What's the point of posting anything? Everybody has the same activities and is smart, caring, and loyal. This is just all about looking at pictures anyway." It's pretty much true. Again, I'd be a a breath of fresh air in that case. I guess I'd tell her so in a message and ask her to check out my prof, since she didn't write anything about herself. ¯\(°_o)/¯ Edited November 12, 2015 by impatiently_patient Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 12, 2015 Author Share Posted November 12, 2015 I'm with you man. I live in the suburbs of the capital of the most populated state in the country, and every girl on OLD likes to talk about how country they are. It's all fake. They all have the exact same interests. Mudding. Seriously? Thats how you spend your time? It gets frustrating when you see profile after profile and they are all the exact same. They are allllllllllll the same. It's not worth the time or frustration. Just live your life so you don't drive yourself insane with these women. Citybillies. Drives me nuts. A large part of it is I actually grew up in the country. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 To be perfectly honest, I can't see how OLD could be anything except a complete bonanza for a woman. And I'm saying that completely objectively. At the very, very least, you are getting several messages from men within your league without having to lift a finger. And I didn't necessarily have this opinion before I did it myself. If you're hot and get hit on in real life, then OLD might just be a nuisance, but for average women and below, it must be amazing. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 This and the "only white guys" stuff is really putting me off on the female side of the equation altogether. Mentally retarded racists, really? This is what I have to appeal to? ROFL - do you have any clue what racism actually is? Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) You come across as a judgemental downer, OP. Did it ever occur to you that the reason why no women like you is your personality? If you're this miserable no amount of online tips is going to help you succeed. Edited November 13, 2015 by Imajerk17 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 If you're hot and get hit on in real life, then OLD might just be a nuisance, but for average women and below, it must be amazing. I'm average to cute, in considerably better shape than my peers, and it's never been amazing. It's mostly very hot guys who want to nail you fast, average to cute guys who want a model type, or scary weirdos who fling all their pent-up anger and craziness at you if you give them the time of day. The anywhere close to suitable men with depth are as hard to find as the women, I'm sure. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) I assure you it's not. It's probably related to your location more than some trend that "women" as a monolith like. As for the person suggesting online dating is awesome for women where "without lifting a finger" you meet all kinds of men "in your league" (whatever this means). WRONG! I haven't met a single woman who's had a field day with it. In fact, I find it works best when I do the messaging most times, as if I leave it up to randoms just messaging me, MAJORITY of the messages are from men whom I've filtered out for certain demographic criteria (age, education level, location etc), as well as men with whom I have nothing in common or men who send me insane messages or simply extremely boring "his." I assure you, I don't have all these men who look like "Mr. Right" or even a suitable "Mr. Right Now" bombarding me with messages and I don't know any woman who's had that either. So sorry....that "objective" opinion is based in pure speculation and fantasy and not the reality of OLD for majority of the women. For most women, OLD is a grab bag of surprises, and you go into a minefield and hope to come out unscathed with a half decent person you can get dinner with. It's not day after day of fine gents who are just absolute catches and you merely need to pinpoint the one you'd like to court you...I so wish LOL! Edited November 13, 2015 by MissBee 3 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) I'm average to cute, in considerably better shape than my peers, and it's never been amazing. It's mostly very hot guys who want to nail you fast, average to cute guys who want a model type, or scary weirdos who fling all their pent-up anger and craziness at you if you give them the time of day. The anywhere close to suitable men with depth are as hard to find as the women, I'm sure. How many guys do you turn down that seem like nice guys that aren't physically attractive and might be a 'phone match'? When I say that, I mean guys you would have a really good phone conversation with. I think that's where the discrepancy comes in. Guys say OLD sucks because they get rejected by women they feel are equals when they might be messaging women out of their league. Women say OLD sucks because they don't count the guys who aren't physically attractive they reject in their 'running count' of quality guys. For me, it doesn't apply because I take on all comers. I'm talking to a woman now who is big, but that's OK. Maybe she'll be really cool. If I complain about women caring about looks too much, then I can't be a hypocrite, know what I mean? One of the bigger problems I have is that I cannot find women who speak good English (Asian women who speak good English are unresponsive/want better). As I was born here, I feel I need that for compatibility. Edited November 13, 2015 by JuneJulySeptember 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 What's wrong with being normal and having average interests? Are you a hipster of dating? I ask this seriously. It doesn't bother me in the least that people's profile have a lot in common with each other. I'm not looking to date the most original person on the planet. I'm looking to date someone who shares interests in common with me and hopefully my circle of friends. And yes, those tend to be general things like camping and hiking. ps: I don't know how to say this politely but do you have the beard on you on-line profile pictures? I could see how that could constrain the number of women who take an interest in your profile, as it is a look that attracts a very specific part of the population. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 You come across as a judgemental downer, OP. Did it ever occur to you that the reason why no women like you is your personality? If you're this miserable no amount of online tips is going to help you succeed. Says the jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 To be perfectly honest, I can't see how OLD could be anything except a complete bonanza for a woman. And I'm saying that completely objectively. At the very, very least, you are getting several messages from men within your league without having to lift a finger. And I didn't necessarily have this opinion before I did it myself. If you're hot and get hit on in real life, then OLD might just be a nuisance, but for average women and below, it must be amazing. Have you ever REALLY thought about it from a woman's perspective? I recommend reading this... Man Poses as Woman on Online Dating Site; Barely Lasts Two Hours Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 OP - You are not the only person I know of complaining about this issue. I'm starting to become surprised that people DO get together somehow. In my area it's mostly flakes for both men and women I know. I have had good luck with meetup too. I don't go to the single groups. I just go to think I would enjoy regardless of whether I meet anyone. I tend to find a lot of cool guys. I have a male friend with good luck meeting women through meetup groups too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) What's wrong with being normal and having average interests? Are you a hipster of dating? I ask this seriously. It doesn't bother me in the least that people's profile have a lot in common with each other. I'm not looking to date the most original person on the planet. I'm looking to date someone who shares interests in common with me and hopefully my circle of friends. And yes, those tend to be general things like camping and hiking. Not at all. I actually like football (though I don't get jacked up about any specific team); I hike a few times a year, particularly during the winter months when it's not 110 degrees, I go to the gym... but I don't pretend to like it, thar it's not boring, or it's a actual hobby... haven't been camping for ages but I grew up doing it often. I have access to a cabin in Upstate New York. I'd definitely be down for going up there with someone. I seriously don't care about quads, though. I live in the city. I don't get it. Like Keenly said, the problem that it's the three same townie interests in every profile, and a sentence and a half of copy. They're all carbon copies of each other. There's just nothing to work with. Give me someone who likes winery tours, plays tennis, or fosters dogs... anything... not stuff I do (well, I've done winery tours, just not into wine). ps: I don't know how to say this politely but do you have the beard on you on-line profile pictures? I could see how that could constrain the number of women who take an interest in your profile, as it is a look that attracts a very specific part of the population. I've got pics with and without. Edited November 13, 2015 by impatiently_patient Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 Have you ever REALLY thought about it from a woman's perspective? I recommend reading this... Man Poses as Woman on Online Dating Site; Barely Lasts Two Hours Well just as men have to get used to being ignored by most of the women they message, women have to get used to ignoring most of the men that message them. If you ask me, I'd still rather do the ignoring than be ignored. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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