Author impatiently_patient Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 Well just as men have to get used to being ignored by most of the women they message, women have to get used to ignoring most of the men that message them. If you ask me, I'd still rather do the ignoring than be ignored. This x1000. Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 It's a rigged game on there. If you look on match you can see exactly what they want in the requirement settings. White Bachelors $75k per year 5'10"+ tall And average looking doesn't cute it. That's why very few guys do well. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) Have you ever REALLY thought about it from a woman's perspective? I recommend reading this... Man Poses as Woman on Online Dating Site; Barely Lasts Two Hours It doesn't really matter. The fact of the matter is that both men and women have good (potential) options that they pass up regularly because those people are too ugly. That's really the bottom line of OLD and dating, period. It's where 90% of the issues of dating, and posts and threads from this forum are based off of. But if you're a woman (or a man), you can't really say you have no quality options when you're turning people down. That's like if a woman who liked to ski, hike, and drink craft beer messaged me and I rejected her because she was too fat and ugly. And then I come on here and say "OLD sucks, there's no quality." Edited November 13, 2015 by JuneJulySeptember 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 Bachelors Check. $75k per year Check. 5'10"+ tall Check. And average looking doesn't cut it. That's why very few guys do well. Check. Subjectivity anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 I have had good luck with meetup too. I don't go to the single groups. I just go to think I would enjoy regardless of whether I meet anyone. I tend to find a lot of cool guys. I have a male friend with good luck meeting women through meetup groups too. I go to Meetups twice or so a month, and I generally enjoy them for the topical nature that the group represents, I just haven't met any women at them.¯\(°_o)/¯ I don't really think about it much (except at the singles ones as that's the point) while I'm there. I've had better luck (not that I have great luck ever) at a bar like Casey Moore's which is more my crowd than Meetup events... or some random barista for that matter. Oh well, life's strange for some of us. Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 That's white male privilege. I'll bet the gals who complain about it are the very same ones chasing after these "privileged white men" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 I'll predict your next profile right now. She claims to be super busy all of the time but wants to "try it out". Yeah, I get a kick out of how people say they are so-called "busy" or "like to keep themselves busy" in their profile, which simply contradicts their purpose of being on the site. Why announce it, if you're on the site? It's really a form of bragging really. I notice people throw in "Yeah, things have been busy around work, been working weekends, too." I knew of a real estate agent that bragged about how she's working 7 days week showing homes. "Being busy" is the new "keeping up with the Jonses" Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 That's white male privilege. I'll bet the gals who complain about it are the very same ones chasing after these "privileged white men" Well, if being a cracker gets me some bonus "privilege points" in online dating, I'm sure not seeing it... LOL. Maybe if I messaged the "no black guys" girls on there... but yeah, not doing that. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 Are there really that many women who write 'white guys only'? Blows my mind that in such a multi cultural country that is the case. I doubt you'd see that written here in my country. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 (edited) Are there really that many women who write 'white guys only'? Blows my mind that in such a multi cultural country that is the case. I doubt you'd see that written here in my country. Not white guys only, but ~70% of women I'd say have a hard race cutoff. The common ones are... Asian/White for Asian women White/Latino for Latino women Black/Latino for Black women A lot of women also view my profile, but when I look at theirs, it excludes my race. I used to message them anyway, but no responses, so I stopped. Your country might be a bit better but I doubt by that much. Go on Match and check it out, it's free. Edited November 15, 2015 by JuneJulySeptember Link to post Share on other sites
bene Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 I'm not sure if you're really seeking advice here but one thing I can say that being angry is not a good starting point to meet people. It will shine through when talking to people even if you think otherwise. There is no point to rant at women as some homogeneous group. You want to meet a woman who cannot be held accountable for every stupid or boring thing some women have written to their profiles. Getting worked up because some women you don't know have generic hobbies - really? Obscure or rare hobbies are not a guarantee of a good match anyway. From my days of online dating I remember some guys who got angry already during the three-four sentence conversation. Every time I felt very uncomfortable because if they already get mad at a total stranger after a short conversation that doesn't go their way, what would they do if we would actually meet? Slap me if I say something "wrong" in their book? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 15, 2015 Author Share Posted November 15, 2015 I'm not sure if you're really seeking advice here but one thing I can say that being angry is not a good starting point to meet people. It will shine through when talking to people even if you think otherwise. There is no point to rant at women as some homogeneous group. You want to meet a woman who cannot be held accountable for every stupid or boring thing some women have written to their profiles. Getting worked up because some women you don't know have generic hobbies - really? Obscure or rare hobbies are not a guarantee of a good match anyway. From my days of online dating I remember some guys who got angry already during the three-four sentence conversation. Every time I felt very uncomfortable because if they already get mad at a total stranger after a short conversation that doesn't go their way, what would they do if we would actually meet? Slap me if I say something "wrong" in their book? Quads and muddin' aren't common hobbies. I don't know a single person who owns the ****ing things. I know plenty of motorcyclists. Maybe online dating is where all the flatbillers find love... muddy, muddy, racially pure love. Whatever. Anywho, I deleted my account. I'm not made for sifting through **** for diamonds. Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherknows Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 (edited) Have....you searched for.......any Cynical dating......sites to find your female pessimistic equivalent........? Sorry couldn't help myself. OMG...Classic. Seriously OP I love your threads: they are a riot. But if you really want to date a woman maybe move to an area where women outnumber men and you'll have an easier time. Big cities are good. Edited November 15, 2015 by Heatherknows Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 15, 2015 Author Share Posted November 15, 2015 OMG...Classic. Seriously OP I love your threads: they are a riot. But if you really want to date a woman maybe move to an area where women outnumber men and you'll have an easier time. Big cities are good. I'm in a major metro , what the **** are talking about? Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherknows Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 It's a rigged game on there. If you look on match you can see exactly what they want in the requirement settings. White Bachelors $75k per year 5'10"+ tall And average looking doesn't cute it. That's why very few guys do well. ...yeah. If I was dating that would be my qualifications except with some adjustments. White or Hispanic Bachelors $100 K and up and don't care if wife works 5'11 but prefer over 6ft. and fit Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherknows Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 I'm in a major metro , what the **** are talking about? Move to NY. You'll have plenty of girls to choose from. But don't use the line "Everyone deserves a chance" NY girls have bad tempers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 ...yeah. If I was dating that would be my qualifications except with some adjustments. White or Hispanic Bachelors $100 K and up and don't care if wife works 5'11 but prefer over 6ft. and fit You do realize he wrote that with the intention of showing that women are shallow and too picky. Don't you? Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherknows Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 You do realize he wrote that with the intention of showing that women are shallow and too picky. Don't you? The list is valid. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 (edited) The list is valid. I should know better than to post this but... You slammed Impatient for being insensitive for saying "everybody deserves a chance". And then you take a post where the poster is clearly listing requirements that he himself does not meet and implying that women are too picky and follows it up with "And average looking doesn't cut it. That's why very few guys do well" and then you say those are indeed your requirements and even up the ante. That's kind of like an obese woman posting and complaining that men only want women who are white with C cup and under 125 pounds and I reply saying "Yep. Actually 115 pounds is more right for me." I mean don't get me wrong. It's nothing so bad, and your requirements are fine, I got no problem with them, but don't rub it in like that for guys who don't meet them. Maybe you were unaware. Edited November 16, 2015 by JuneJulySeptember Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 Not white guys only, but ~70% of women I'd say have a hard race cutoff. The common ones are... Asian/White for Asian women White/Latino for Latino women Black/Latino for Black women A lot of women also view my profile, but when I look at theirs, it excludes my race. I used to message them anyway, but no responses, so I stopped. Your country might be a bit better but I doubt by that much. Go on Match and check it out, it's free. I'm not expert on online dating here but I've not heard match.com mentioned here Much. I think Tinder and OKCupid are popular here. Either way, never in my life have I heard of or seen or known of a woman here chasing white guys only. Sure, some may prefer white men but I've never seen a staunch, all or nothing mentality. Having said that, people of African descent here aren't common. Other than some recently arriving Sudanese refugees who now have smallish communities here, there previously were very few people in Australia of Black African descent. Latino communities are also quite uncommon here. No surprise as we're not close to any Hispanic countries. The coloured people here are mostly either indigenous, pacific islander, East Indian, middle eastern. We're a multicultural society here but still majority white. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 I'm not expert on online dating here but I've not heard match.com mentioned here Much. I think Tinder and OKCupid are popular here. Either way, never in my life have I heard of or seen or known of a woman here chasing white guys only. Sure, some may prefer white men but I've never seen a staunch, all or nothing mentality. Having said that, people of African descent here aren't common. Other than some recently arriving Sudanese refugees who now have smallish communities here, there previously were very few people in Australia of Black African descent. Latino communities are also quite uncommon here. No surprise as we're not close to any Hispanic countries. The coloured people here are mostly either indigenous, pacific islander, East Indian, middle eastern. We're a multicultural society here but still majority white. I am also somewhat surprised about race exclusion in dating, but you must remember that Jim Crow and civil rights movements weren't even that long ago in this country, not to mention that 200 years ago, mostly any kind of race mixing was extremely rare worldwide. I would say that in 500 years, it'll be completely different again. Link to post Share on other sites
NoLeafClover Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 All the online dating I've done has either ended in random hookups, or 3-6 months relationship that ended in bad terms due to ex's still being in the picture, lies, wishy washy don't know what they want, immaturity etc etc. I think online dating is: **a big miss and barely a hit, if you're looking for a good partner. **a big miss and moderated hit , if you're looking for a FB, hookup with one of your eyes covered (looking pass some things) **a big miss and big hit, if you're willing to hookup with anything with a vagina with both eyes opened (everyone deserves a chance?). I think you might have a better chance to meet a legit person on here from the Breakup section than someone else at a dating site. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 ...yeah. If I was dating that would be my qualifications except with some adjustments. White or Hispanic Bachelors $100 K and up and don't care if wife works 5'11 but prefer over 6ft. and fit Wow! You're the first I've seen on here to admit that. Guys run into this day in and day out, but when they mention it all the women say no it isn't true. I always wondered how you have all the women online with the same taste, but none of the women on here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 I am also somewhat surprised about race exclusion in dating, but you must remember that Jim Crow and civil rights movements weren't even that long ago in this country, not to mention that 200 years ago, mostly any kind of race mixing was extremely rare worldwide. I would say that in 500 years, it'll be completely different again. Yeah I can understand that. It's a no brainer to see a lot of racism towards blacks there still exists (holy sh*t your police there!!) but I still have a hard time picturing someone that would write 'white guys only' on a dating profile. Bet those types love being really 1940s when it suits them and then scream as a loud and proud victim when it doesn't Wow! You're the first I've seen on here to admit that. Guys run into this day in and day out, but when they mention it all the women say no it isn't true. I always wondered how you have all the women online with the same taste, but none of the women on here. Other than the race and height thing, That laundry list looks pretty standard to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherknows Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 I should know better than to post this but... You slammed Impatient for being insensitive for saying "everybody deserves a chance". And then you take a post where the poster is clearly listing requirements that he himself does not meet and implying that women are too picky and follows it up with "And average looking doesn't cut it. That's why very few guys do well" and then you say those are indeed your requirements and even up the ante. That's kind of like an obese woman posting and complaining that men only want women who are white with C cup and under 125 pounds and I reply saying "Yep. Actually 115 pounds is more right for me." I mean don't get me wrong. It's nothing so bad, and your requirements are fine, I got no problem with them, but don't rub it in like that for guys who don't meet them. Maybe you were unaware. I read the post as a true statement of what most women look for in a man. I didn't think it was a joke/sarcastic post. Also, I'm a married woman posting on an anonymous forum. I don't know what most people look like so I can't insult them. The OP was on a dating site and there for romance and knew what the female looked like. Much different scenario. Link to post Share on other sites
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