Online dating interests...

[Heatherknows]

Wow! You're the first I've seen on here to admit that.

 

Guys run into this day in and day out, but when they mention it all the women say no it isn't true.

 

I always wondered how you have all the women online with the same taste, but none of the women on here.

 

The list was valid and not too picky IMO. I bet men have a list.

[impatiently_patient]

...but I still have a hard time picturing someone that would write 'white guys only' on a dating profile.

 

Believe it. When it comes up, about 1/3rd of the time it's, "I only date white guys.", and the (more prevalent) remainder statement is, "I'm not racist but, just not attracted to black guys." Yeah, "black guys", you specifically.

 

It's on SO many womens' profiles here. My country disgusts me most of the time.

[impatiently_patient]

I should know better than to post this but...

 

You slammed Impatient for being insensitive for saying "everybody deserves a chance".

 

And then you take a post where the poster is clearly listing requirements that he himself does not meet and implying that women are too picky and follows it up with "And average looking doesn't cut it. That's why very few guys do well" and then you say those are indeed your requirements and even up the ante.

 

That's kind of like an obese woman posting and complaining that men only want women who are white with C cup and under 125 pounds and I reply saying "Yep. Actually 115 pounds is more right for me."

 

I mean don't get me wrong. It's nothing so bad, and your requirements are fine, I got no problem with them, but don't rub it in like that for guys who don't meet them. Maybe you were unaware.

 

She's poking the proverbial bear and I'm ignoring her. Not to mention she missed the point of the woman ignoring my requirements (same as her having them... probably way more realistic on my part, however) yet me being open minded about a situation that she could ever be. Hypocrites gonna be hypocritical.

Edited November 16, 2015 by impatiently_patient

[Heatherknows]

She's poking the proverbial bear and I'm ignoring her. Not to mention she missed the point of the woman ignoring my requirements (same as her having them... probably way more realistic on my part, however) yet me being open minded about a situation that she could ever be. Hypocrites gonna be hypocritical.

 

She also got what she was looking for when she was dating so maybe she knows a thing or two.

[Rejected Rosebud]

The fact of the matter is that both men and women have good (potential) options that they pass up regularly because those people are too ugly.

If the way your partner looks is important to you, then one you think is ugly is not a "good potential option" for YOU. If that leaves somebody alone (because nobody they find attractive is interested in them) then that is on them.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Believe it. When it comes up, about 1/3rd of the time it's, "I only date white guys.", and the (more prevalent) remainder statement is, "I'm not racist but, just not attracted to black guys." Yeah, "black guys", you specifically.

 

It's on SO many womens' profiles here. My country disgusts me most of the time.

Will you date any race of woman? For the record I can't tell that you are black by your picture if that is you. Also, I agree that racism is disgusting but I would be pleased as punch if a person from OLD just put that right out there so I would not have to bother with them at all.

[Redfisher]

She also got what she was looking for when she was dating so maybe she knows a thing or two.

 

Game, Set and Match....

[impatiently_patient]

She also got what she was looking for when she was dating so maybe she knows a thing or two.

 

Well, spill it:

 

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[impatiently_patient]

Will you date any race of woman?

 

Absolutely. Bring on all the colors of the rainbow.

 

 

 

 

For the record I can't tell that you are black by your picture if that is you.

 

I'm Caucasian. Polish, Russian, Czech, and Anglo-Saxon descent if you really want to dig back. Or of African descent like all the rest of you if you REALLY want to dig back.

[GunslingerRoland]

I don't get what the point of holding the fact that a woman is attracted to only white guys against her when you are white is. I mean it's different if it's for racist reasons. But people are allowed to have preferences.

 

 

Also what is wrong with city people who enjoy the outdoors? Most men and women I know like to get away from the city sometimes...Not exactly a trendy thing, camping has been around as long as their have been cities I'm sure.

[impatiently_patient]

I don't get what the point of holding the fact that a woman is attracted to only white guys against her when you are white is. I mean it's different if it's for racist reasons. But people are allowed to have preferences.

 

People are allowed to think and do a lot of things that still fall into douchebag territory. I don't think EVERY woman not attracted to other races is racist. I'm pretty sure the vast majority of them are, though. As a "white guy", I'm trying to picture myself with a naked Beyonce and a naked Lucy Liu propositioning me and going, "Nah... just not attracted." Sure, it could just be unspoken cultural concerns, "What would my family or the Joneses think?", but it's still the low road being taken... it's still functioning to support adversity. I want a woman better than that. Sue me.

 

 

 

Also what is wrong with city people who enjoy the outdoors? Most men and women I know like to get away from the city sometimes...Not exactly a trendy thing, camping has been around as long as their have been cities I'm sure.

 

Nothing. I go up north several times a year myself. It's when it's the same vapid, two sentence profile with the same two (unlikely to be all that frequent) interests on 90% of the profiles that it gets old. No ****, you love to laugh and enjoy travel too? And if I had a dollar for every woman with a pic shooting a gun... well, McLaren dealer here I come. Before you ask, I'm a pro gun advocate and have been shooting plenty of times myself.

 

Who knows, maybe most of these profiles are fake and designed to appeal to every Bud Light chugging Billy Bob in the Valley. I wouldn't be surprised.

Edited November 16, 2015 by impatiently_patient

[JuneJulySeptember]

I don't get what the point of holding the fact that a woman is attracted to only white guys against her when you are white is. I mean it's different if it's for racist reasons. But people are allowed to have preferences.

 

I don't disagree with him completely.

 

I'm a liberal douchebag, so I want a liberal douchegal.

 

I'd definitely prefer a woman who was totally race-blind.

 

Like OP said, there's literally millions of women of each race. Finding a whole race unattractive seems like ... a conservative mindset, or a conservative upbringing.

 

And to be perfectly honest and as douchey as I can, I'll say black women aren't at the very top of my list lookswise, but still there's black women who I've seen in real life (not just the movie stars) who are ****ing ridiculously attractive.

 

When I first started doing OLD, I was quite frankly shocked at the number of women who had hard race cutoffs. It's a ton, very easily the majority. And keep in mind, that number is in reality much higher because not all women tell the truth about preferences since they are public.

Edited November 16, 2015 by JuneJulySeptember

[lino]

Believe it. When it comes up, about 1/3rd of the time it's, "I only date white guys.", and the (more prevalent) remainder statement is, "I'm not racist but, just not attracted to black guys." Yeah, "black guys", you specifically.

 

It's on SO many womens' profiles here. My country disgusts me most of the time.

 

Pretty tacky to put it nicely.

For me that's as bad as the guys who have the attitude of not wanting to be with women who have slept with coloured people.

 

I don't get what the point of holding the fact that a woman is attracted to only white guys against her when you are white is. I mean it's different if it's for racist reasons. But people are allowed to have preferences.

 

One can be white and disgusted by that mentality. I wouldn't want to reproduce with someone who thinks that way.

 

'Nothing smaller than C cups' would also be a preference but I bet there'd be quite a large amount of media coverage if there were commonly seen men's dating profiles with that written on it

[Heatherknows]

Well, spill it:

 

1.

2.

 

Maybe later cuz "everyone deserves a chance."

 

[Redfisher]

Maybe later cuz "everyone deserves a chance."

 

 

I'm enjoying this.....Thank-you

[StBreton]

Quads and muddin' aren't common hobbies. I don't know a single person who owns the ****ing things. I know plenty of motorcyclists. Maybe online dating is where all the flatbillers find love... muddy, muddy, racially pure love. Whatever.

 

Anywho, I deleted my account. I'm not made for sifting through **** for diamonds.

 

Are you aware of the number of OHV (off highway vehicle) shops in Phx, where you live? Huge business...RideNow is one of the biggest and they've substantially expanded their business over the past 10 years. They sell quads, Rzrs, dirt bikes, etc.

 

You may not think they are common hobbies, but they are. Instead of "muddin'" in AZ and CA, duning is very common. I'm a single woman (with kids) and have 3 quads, a dirt bike, a large trailer and an RV. We go to the dunes 6 times a year ... we go camping 15 times a year and bring our OHVs with us every time we go. Lots of pink helmets out on the trails.

 

OHVing and camping might not be "your" thing, but if you go to the dunes during the season, it's like Woodstock out there (but for riders). Most fun I've ever had and I've done a lot of amazing things throughout my life.

 

IPatient, it just seems the whole dating thing isn't working for you right now and you're coming up more reasons to be disgruntled. Please don't pick on the OHVers/campers ... don't knock it till you try it. Btw...I'm not a racist.

[Redfisher]

Are you aware of the number of OHV (off highway vehicle) shops in Phx, where you live? Huge business...RideNow is one of the biggest and they've substantially expanded their business over the past 10 years. They sell quads, Rzrs, dirt bikes, etc.

 

You may not think they are common hobbies, but they are. Instead of "muddin'" in AZ and CA, duning is very common. I'm a single woman (with kids) and have 3 quads, a dirt bike, a large trailer and an RV. We go to the dunes 6 times a year ... we go camping 15 times a year and bring our OHVs with us every time we go. Lots of pink helmets out on the trails.

 

OHVing and camping might not be "your" thing, but if you go to the dunes during the season, it's like Woodstock out there (but for riders). Most fun I've ever had and I've done a lot of amazing things throughout my life.

 

IPatient, it just seems the whole dating thing isn't working for you right now and you're coming up more reasons to be disgruntled. Please don't pick on the OHVers/campers ... don't knock it till you try it. Btw...I'm not a racist.

 

Awesome! I drive my ATV from my house through the mud to the beer store.... All being legal here in small town Canada...haha

[impatiently_patient]

Are you aware of the number of OHV (off highway vehicle) shops in Phx, where you live? Huge business...RideNow is one of the biggest and they've substantially expanded their business over the past 10 years. They sell quads, Rzrs, dirt bikes, etc.

 

You may not think they are common hobbies, but they are. Instead of "muddin'" in AZ and CA, duning is very common. I'm a single woman (with kids) and have 3 quads, a dirt bike, a large trailer and an RV. We go to the dunes 6 times a year ... we go camping 15 times a year and bring our OHVs with us every time we go. Lots of pink helmets out on the trails.

 

OHVing and camping might not be "your" thing, but if you go to the dunes during the season, it's like Woodstock out there (but for riders). Most fun I've ever had and I've done a lot of amazing things throughout my life.

 

IPatient, it just seems the whole dating thing isn't working for you right now and you're coming up more reasons to be disgruntled. Please don't pick on the OHVers/campers ... don't knock it till you try it. Btw...I'm not a racist.

 

Let's just say I derive great joy from any episode of Top Gear where they find new and creative ways to destroy campers.

 

I'm not picking on anyone (though it would be nice if you all wouldn't jam up all the good roads on the weekends for respect of us riders / tarmac lovers), I grew up in the ACTUAL country after all... I guess online dating is just a huge haven for country wannabes, that's all. I'm looking for a more cosmopolitan, gentrified kind of woman who's not all "brews on the lake, whooo", and tired of sifting though... ummm... westsiders and Mesa trash.

Edited November 17, 2015 by impatiently_patient

[StBreton]

Let's just say I derive great joy from any episode of Top Gear where they find new and creative ways to destroy campers.

 

I'm not picking on anyone (though it would be nice if you all wouldn't jam up all the good roads on the weekends for respect of us riders / tarmac lovers), I grew up in the ACTUAL country after all... I guess online dating is just a huge haven for country wannabes, that's all. I'm looking for a more cosmopolitan, gentrified kind of woman who's not all "brews on the lake, whooo", and tired of sifting though... ummm... westsiders and Mesa trash.

 

Well IP angry much? You are more than a little judgemental.

 

The roads are meant for everyone ...including all the 18 wheelers with which your food is delivered.

 

As far as judging that off roaders are yahoos ... that might be true for some, but the group I ride with (about 50 riders) all live in upscale neighborhoods and most are cosmopolitan ...all are college educated. I grew up in an affluent neighborhood of one of the largest cities in the US. I'm not offended that you think me a yahoo. I know who I am and your judgements of me mean nothing. I just think educating you with the facts might have the effect of your not missing out on a good match for yourself with OLD or RL dating due to preconceived ideas about those who enjoy camping or off roading.

 

If you're dating in Mesa or Apache Junction, why not try downtown Phoenix where you will find a more cosmopolitan crowd? Do you just want to be disgruntled? I think last week you were lamenting that woman in their 40s with kids were interested in you. Gasp!

[BlueIris]

... westsiders and Mesa trash.

 

Dang..... You have attitude.

 

Anyway, I think you should consider moving, OP. Maybe NYC or the Bay area, where there might be more sophisticated and artsy people. More competition but more opportunity.

[impatiently_patient]

Well IP angry much? You are more than a little judgemental.

 

Not really. Just ranting. It's my muddin' in the country.

 

The roads are meant for everyone ...including all the 18 wheelers with which your food is delivered.

 

Well, the general problem in Arizona is it's the most urbanized state in the Union (that is, the highest percentage of people live within incorporated city limits versus rural areas, for a variety of reasons, one of which is the state doesn't really want you moving there), yet half the people around here think they're country folk and basically make an nonsense commute dragging their campers, ATVs, and boats to the proverbial sticks every friggen' weekend. Just move to the country already.

 

As far as judging that off roaders are yahoos ... that might be true for some, but the group I ride with (about 50 riders) all live in upscale neighborhoods and most are cosmopolitan ...all are college educated. I grew up in an affluent neighborhood of one of the largest cities in the US. I'm not offended that you think me a yahoo. I know who I am and your judgements of me mean nothing. I just think educating you with the facts might have the effect of your not missing out on a good match for yourself with OLD or RL dating due to preconceived ideas about those who enjoy camping or off roading.

 

I never said all the people who enjoy those activities are yahoos. If I was seeing profiles of people who enjoyed those activities ALONG with intellectual and cosmopolitan activities, I wouldn't have any issue.

 

If you're dating in Mesa or Apache Junction, why not try downtown Phoenix where you will find a more cosmopolitan crowd? Do you just want to be disgruntled? I think last week you were lamenting that woman in their 40s with kids were interested in you. Gasp!

 

I figured online dating would cover more than Apache Junction and Mesa. I guess not.

[impatiently_patient]

Dang..... You have attitude.

 

Anyway, I think you should consider moving, OP. Maybe NYC or the Bay area, where there might be more sophisticated and artsy people. More competition but more opportunity.

 

Well, that's the crux of it, career wise especially. I'm an industrial designer and it's a viciously fought over profession, especially in those more popular "sophisticated" markets. I'm in a good position here building up as a Sr. hoping I can get to a design director level, and have a bit more transferable clout.

[StBreton]

Not really. Just ranting. It's my muddin' in the country.

 

lol

 

Well, the general problem in Arizona is it's the most urbanized state in the Union (that is, the highest percentage of people live within incorporated city limits versus rural areas, for a variety of reasons, one of which is the state doesn't really want you moving there), yet half the people around here think they're country folk and basically make an nonsense commute dragging their campers, ATVs, and boats to the proverbial sticks every friggen' weekend. Just move to the country already.

 

 

i totally understand. Phx and the surrounding neighborhoods is so much different than from where I was raised. It's a great area for those who possess an outdoor bent. The downtown area is much more cosmopolitan than it used to be. Unless you live in certain areas of Phx you will be disappointed in the lack of "cosmopolitan" ... Personally I have little issue with what you mention.

 

I never said all the people who enjoy those activities are yahoos. If I was seeing profiles of people who enjoyed those activities ALONG with intellectual and cosmopolitan activities, I wouldn't have any issue.

 

Well what demographic are you seeking? My issue is I'm looking for someone "cosmopolitan" but I prefer sophisticated ...but likes the outdoors ...but I'm in the "40s with kids gasp!" Crowd. Have you gone to the "first Fridays" in downtown Phx? Lots of 20s/30s intelligencia there.

 

I figured online dating would cover more than Apache Junction and Mesa. I guess not.

maybe specify what you are looking for ...irreverent humor and intelligence are high on your list obviously.

[impatiently_patient]

maybe specify what you are looking for ...irreverent humor and intelligence are high on your list obviously.

 

Oh, that's by far THE BIGGEST issue I had with OLD. Reading comprehension. I've done the rant before, so I'll save you. I put it plainly and clearly (like, you know, wrote more than two or three sentences, unlike 95% of the women on there... and no, I don't know or care what men do) what I'm interested in (which low-and-behold is a wide variety of things) and what I'm looking for. I filled out all the forms and **** (including the part about not wanting to date women with kids), and even changed my effing handle to no_kids_please... but do people respect that? No. Do they read and try to appreciate who I am or what I'm looking for? No.

 

As for you, I wouldn't think it'd be too hard to find someone somewhat sophisticated with kids that's at least somewhat outdoorsy... though that seems a bit more Denver to me (my brother lives up there), and you might have to trade the dirtbikes for snowboards or skis. Sorry to say my experience with most of the flatbillers down here is even if they're nice, they're awfully "simple". You can tell them Eagle Rare is better than Jack Daniels and they'll nod, but you know they'll never give it a try. It is what it is...

Edited November 18, 2015 by impatiently_patient

[Rejected Rosebud]

I grew up in the ACTUAL country after all... I guess online dating is just a huge haven for country wannabes, that's all. I'm looking for a more cosmopolitan, gentrified kind of woman who's not all "brews on the lake, whooo", and tired of sifting though... ummm... westsiders and Mesa trash.

Why do you think people who like to do outdoors things are "country wannabes" or trash??? And you complain about bigotry... (Coming from a person who lives on a farm here).

 

Srsly I don't get you at all. Why do you get so hostile about what other people like to do, just because it's different than what YOU like to do? Phoenix is a place that has a lot of outdoorsy kinds of people. Since you despise them all so deeply maybe you could move to NYC where it's unusual. Or Chicago? I'm afraid that San Francisco, LA, Seattle, PDX, all have a significant proportion of people who like to go out of the city for recreational activities.