Does my ex-girlfriend want me back or is she playing with my feelings?? (long story)

[markfiasco]

Hey guys! I'm stuck in a situation and I'm looking for advice and opinions. Alright well, I dated this girl, her name is Samantha, for almost a year but we broke up 5 months ago because of arguments. I was devastated but I stayed No Contact for 3 months. I really tried working on getting over her but I couldn't and one night a few weeks ago she texted me saying that she misses me and that everything has been horrible. I tried to play it like I moved on but deep down inside I hoped that she would come running back to me. Anyways, I just now started college about an hour away from where she lives. I go back every weekend and one night we saw each other, we hugged and kissed as if we were getting back together but after that night she has been ignoring my calls and texts and then gets an attitude whenever I don't text back. A few days ago she ignored me and posted a status saying "Someone text me because I'm bored af." I know that she got my text but decided not to answer. Am I over-thinking? If she really wanted me back wouldn't she make the effort to talk to me? Idk...I'm really confused about what I should do. I want her back but I kinda feel like she only talks to me so that she can feel better about herself. One day she told me that she's scared that our relationship won't work because of school and her sports. We're very different people. Different lifestyles. Different personalities. I love her a lot and I know that she loves me too. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks

[itisdanielle]

If she wanted you back, you wouldn't have to ask whether she wanted you back. You would know for sure because she would be saying how much she regretted it, that she wanted to do anything to make it up to you so you could be together etc.

[itisdanielle]

Read the No Contact Guide in the Break Up forum by TaraMaiden.

 

There's a bit in there about ex's contacting you which should help

[Wewon]

Hey guys! I'm stuck in a situation and I'm looking for advice and opinions. Alright well, I dated this girl, her name is Samantha, for almost a year but we broke up 5 months ago because of arguments. I was devastated but I stayed No Contact for 3 months. I really tried working on getting over her but I couldn't and one night a few weeks ago she texted me saying that she misses me and that everything has been horrible. I tried to play it like I moved on but deep down inside I hoped that she would come running back to me. Anyways, I just now started college about an hour away from where she lives. I go back every weekend and one night we saw each other, we hugged and kissed as if we were getting back together but after that night she has been ignoring my calls and texts and then gets an attitude whenever I don't text back. A few days ago she ignored me and posted a status saying "Someone text me because I'm bored af." I know that she got my text but decided not to answer. Am I over-thinking? If she really wanted me back wouldn't she make the effort to talk to me?

 

 

This is why you do NC.

 

Since you reconnected you've been nothing but confused and chasing after any attention that she's willing to give you.

 

Just move on and start dating again, you know that you're too different and this point in your life.

[markfiasco]

She did tell me that she was being stupid for not thinking things through and that she regretted the break up a week after but didn't say anything because she didn't have the courage to do it until now. Should I go no contact again? Or should I move on?

[Wewon]

Should I go no contact again? Or should I move on?

 

Yes.

 

She's showing her character and its confusing and frustrating.

[qubist]

she is stringing you, she will do just what's enough to keep you around. when you went 3 months NC she called crying for you, the second she was sure you were there, she put you back where she thinks you belong the back burner.

NC is a must in your case, explain to her in a message/email that you are fed up with her neglect and decided to move on. then go strict NC, if she really wants you she will have to go way out of her way to contact you otherwise you will be ready for the next chapter in your life

[markfiasco]

I'm starting to think that it's not worth it anymore. You guys are right because I'm starting to realize that she keeps me in her pocket and then gets me out whenever she wants to talk to me. This weekend I saw her and that night we talked on the phone for an hour. Everything was starting to fall into place but the couple of days after that she leaves me hanging like always. Anyways today I was checking Facebook and she posted a status saying: "I don't want to see relationship stuff anymore. I want to be single in peace." That made me mad of course but but I don't want to play games anymore. I'll let y'all know what happens in the next few days in case someone is going thru a similar situation.

[markfiasco]

Okay well it's been about a month since all of this has happened. One night she texted me and then didn't reply to my text so I kinda got mad and straight up told her not to talk to me if she's going to be acting this way. We haven't talked ever since and it's been about 3 weeks now. I'm not even going to plan anything anymore because who knows, maybe its meant to be this way. I still think about her everyday in all honesty. We always had a great relationship but stupid misunderstandings led us down this path. I'm not sure what she's been up to anymore but it doesn't really matter now. All that matters is that she finds happiness within herself. I guess we're losing our love for each other slowly everyday and that's good.

[Confused Guy23]

You just have to move on if she had any feelings for you still she wouldn't be stringing you along like this. She puts that stuff on Facebook knowing you'll see it you have to cut her off. She texts you because you're familiar a safe person when she's bored or needs attention. You're in college live it up there's plenty of other girls who are going to treat you better than her.